I feel like I'm constantly fending men folks off because I'm really not interested in dating these days. It seems like people think I'm playing hard to get when I'm really not interested! I think I'm sending out "come to me vibes" because I seem to get attention for no good reason. So, I would like both advice on sending cold vibes out (without being an ice princess) and kindly telling men to leave me alone (without being rude). thank you thank you.
2007-04-14 06:31:55 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I feel like I'm constantly fending men folks off because I'm really not interested in dating these days. It seems like people think I'm playing hard to get when I'm really not interested! I think I'm sending out "come to me vibes" because I seem to get attention for no good reason. So, I would like both advice on sending cold vibes out (without being an ice princess) and kindly telling men to leave me alone (without being rude). Also, I think I might add that "I'm not interested" and "no no, i don't want to date right now" aren't suitable answers because they don't actually work. thank you thank you.
2007-04-14 06:41:54 · update #1
whoopsy daisies...
i just meant to add:
"i don't want to date right now" and
"i'm not interested"
don't actually work.
i'm looking for non-verbal communication here maybe
2007-04-14 06:43:18 · update #2
be short in your answers, friendly but without touching or showing interest in any way, but respectful,and polite that you really give that person time and eye contact, if its somebody that you meet most of the time like a friend that you go out with for a drink or somebody that works with you. always say hi and ask how are they doing, and keep going. keep some distance 'cause most of the time the close friends feel embarassed when you say no to them....
2007-04-14 06:42:20 · answer #1 · answered by nestor j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Sophia,
Good Luck! You are a very beautiful younglady and guess what? You can't keep from being yourself and men can't help from being attracted to you. Blame mother nature if you want but it's done. Your meant to be attractive and that's it. Unless you want to change yourself and start wearing dark clothes that cover your whole body and hide yourself from everyone. But I don't think that is what you want now is it.
I think you should just be yourself and let them come. Honestly, men don't mind a beautiful young lady telling them "Oh no thank you, I'm not interested" instead of "go away you bother me." So just relax, be yourself, and enjoy life and the fact that men do find you very attractive. Could be worse, you cold be the oppisite and not attract anyone.
Hope this helped you young lady. So relax, enjoy life and have fun but, be nice.
HUGS&KISSES... :)
2007-04-14 13:43:08 · answer #2 · answered by Selvaggio 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Non verbally you can have few markers on yourself. Depending on your customs. Say in India, we have some signs of being not available, in the marrage/dating market.
These are signs of being married, like "Sindur" or what ever be your custom prevalent. That's a broad marker & I see that you may not in a situatio to use it.
Communication you would have received in some nonverbal mode that you would have to respond in the unavailable. The 1st impulse if only known could be answered satisfactoryly. Suggesting some examples:- Any body wanting to open an interaction with you
will need to come in a communicateable situation. He would first make himself avialable to you. Deny him that availability if possible. Negate any nonverbal communication by not responding. A good non verval communication could be a male friends presence, in his knowledge. or like
2007-04-14 16:07:44 · answer #3 · answered by amitarora1960 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant! the only way that will happen if u choose to be a nun! If u really want to get attention off u, get fat or some form of ugly! Stop with ur sluty ways like going to bars! Get a lot of female friends and hang out only with them!
2007-04-14 13:36:14 · answer #4 · answered by Devan 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you need to be more forceful and assertive than being in the middle of the road, tell them in your non-verbal communications that you are not interested. This will be more effective than the verbal ones (which you might sometimes regret afterwards).
2007-04-14 13:40:46 · answer #5 · answered by Diwag1962 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wear a t-shirt that says 'I'm Gay' in huge letters. Stay indoors. Grow a beard. Fart a lot. Pick boogers in public. Wear dirty, unironed clothes and don't wash. Wear a veil (like muslim women) or a mask. 'I'm flattered but I'm not interested' also works.
2007-04-14 13:36:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I'm exactly in the same boat as you. I just tell them upfront "I'm not interested in dating right now". No matter how lame it sounds, it is the truth. People can't ask for more than that.
2007-04-14 13:35:19 · answer #7 · answered by Susan 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ooh this one is a fun one,
depends if your naughty or nice. or just plain stupid
well i doubt you're sending out any come to me vibes, its just us men can't read body lang. too good, so often something get (pun this) 'lost in translation'
unfortunately i haven't had the experience of being turned down.
but i think something like 'i hate guys who just want me, but your difference you a friend.'
that should kill them, or just make them make a fool out of themselves, which can be amusing.
Or wear a wedding ring, say your in a relation-ship (although i think the most sexiest girls are the ones in relation-ships)
OR just check your back for the sticker, someone is playiong one good prank
2007-04-14 13:34:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hello, well my dear this may be unheard of in the world today but it"s actually very simple . Speak honestly from your heart !Sincerely Lonewolf
2007-04-14 13:46:07 · answer #9 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them thank you for the attention but you are not
interested in a relationship at this time...
2007-04-14 13:36:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋