please help me to be able to do the correct thing.in advance an excuse for my not good English?

Question

I met someone in Internet, he say he is from Oregon and he is in Africa working, I live in Canada and he wants to come to see me, and formalize the relation, how I can know that it is real or is a farce, where I can investigate or what questions i must ask him to be sure more of not coming across of any bad person. it sounds very specially and I am falling in love I would not like to be cheated please help me to be able to do the correct thing.

Answer 1

It's a farce.
"A woman receives an intriguing e-mail message with a handsome photo attached. Soon, she's falling for a man who tells her he loves her, but is stuck in Africa and needs money. Nigerian scams targeting the lonely cost Americans more than $100,000 each day. Meet two women who get a wake-up call about the men they believe to be their soulmates."

"She responded to an invitation to chat online, and within weeks was in love with a New Yorker depending on her financial assistance to leave Nigeria."

Answer 2

It can be scary having feelings for someone you have never met before.If you haven't already... Spend some time on the phone with him.Get to know him.You will know in your heart if he is a fake or not.
Relationships are built on trust.If you cannot trust him and are afraid of getting hurt or worse.Than you two are not ready for a "formal relationship". Remember, It doesn't matter if you have met this guy on the street or the Internet.You will always run the risk of getting your heartbroken.Nothing is ever guaranteed in life.It's up to you to decide weither this guy is worth the risk!
Take all the time you need to get to know him.There is NO rush.Wait until your sure about everything.Time will grant you the knowledge you need and will help build a solid foundation for your new relationship to exist on.The Internet is a scary place and we all have heard those horror stories.That's why it is important not to rush things!
I know I am stating the obvious here but.... If he is asking for money or your personal information social security numbers etc,There is a good chance he may not be who he says he is.

Answer 3

I honestly have never been in this situation but perhaps you should start talking over the phone and see how he sounds. Maybe he will sound genuine and you can talk about your relationship. Also, if he is offering to come see you, you really aren't losing anything (money or energy) to allow him to come up to Canada. You should, however, meet him in a public place in case he's a creep. This way, you can talk about how you're feeling etc.

Don't give him money. My uncle was swindled by an online girlfriend he had who never really cared about him. It was devastating and he lost thousands of dollars.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

The one thing that would make me second guess, would be if he started asking for money to come visit you. Like for a plane ticket or whatever. Then, I would be concerned that he was just using you. Don't give him money. If he wants to meet you that badly, he can come up with it. Otherwise, I'd believe him. Don't offer to let him stay with you either. Make him get a hotel. You could offer to pay for that if you wanted. If he manages to get a plane ticket then I wouldn't think he was just trying to get your money. The first time you meet, meet at a crowded restaurant, and don't go to the hotel with him or let him come to your house the first night. Treat it like a first date. That's how I would handle it.

Answer 6

Hun, when you are meeting someone on the internet, there is no guarantee of anything. All you can do is take your chances. He could really like you and want to form something solid, be someone that takes you for everything you got, or be a serial killer or child molester! If you want to meet him and your heart is set in stone, than do so in public many many times and use your instincts. Best luck

Answer 7

Whatever you do, do this:

1. DO NOT give him any money. none, zip, zero, nada.

2. Get his FULL name, his US address, his address in Africa, his phone number in US and Africa, and do a search.

3. Meet him in a public place, with a friend, in another city. DO NOT meet him alone, or at your house.

4. Do not dress as though you have a money tree (in other words, wear casual clothes, clothes that aren't pricey and will make him think you are rolling in the dough).

Answer 8

A scam. an african guy [not from Oregon] who wants out of Africa, nobody is 'working' in Africa. Even if he doesn't to ask for $ he is looking for a gullible sponsor so he gets his butt in Canada. There he will deal in drugs or pimp. Same old same old. Any American from Oregon would fly to the states, then just drive to Canada, this african wants to get 'his foot in the door.' You live in Canada and hardly speak english, why don't you just help yourself?

Answer 9

Aurora,
There is in africa an underground network who specialised into finding canadian women, luring them into virtual relationship and then have them help move to Canada. This is a big NO NO, there is a big red light flashing in front of you saying DANGER. Please do not contact this man anymore. These men will tell you you are special and even they are in love with you. It`s a scam.

Answer 10

Is he an American Citizen ?
Who is he working for in Africa ?
Do a credit check on him ...
Check his family, education & background...
Investigate him...