i cheated on my boyfriend (we've been together for a month and a half) in the worst possible way with a guy who lives in another country(a month ago). i still can't look him in the eye withot feeling pain cause o love him. worst of all, i don't regret it cause i want to go find him one day...help!
2007-04-14 06:12:23 · 34 answers · asked by Phoebe 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well you must not love your boyfriend very much then since your actions and behavior are as such.
Be fair to your bf and break off with him. He deserves a fair chance at love too.
2007-04-14 06:15:26 · answer #1 · answered by cookiedough 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
My advice to you: For starters you sound like my bestfriend. She wants to live life as well and not setttle down. People make mistakes sure; but we learn from them right? You've probablly heard that a lot from all these answers. But this does tell you something about yourself. You're not ready to settle down into a relationship. Or less be in one. I think you should tell you're boyfriend and break up with him. A month and half might be big to you in your life but really in reality its just a starter. I know you think you love your boyfriend and care for him. Maybe you do care for him. But if you really loved him you would have thought of him when you were with that other guy.
You don't regret. Sweetie, you have to let go of this other guy.
Live life, go and mingle, have fun, travel. I understand you don't want for it to be too late. But do what you're heart says. Love is something that is unpredictable. yes it maybe love at first sight. But for sure your boyfriend is not the guy for you.
Be honest. He at least deserves that. And feeling guilty, its ok. We all feel it. But next time have some self control and think. Is it worth it? Ask your heart.
It knows you more than anyone does. And you'll find the answer. Live life happily.
Good Luck!
2007-04-14 13:27:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why you cheated, but I think you should tell your boyfriend and then break up with him. At the least, separate for a while, see other people. If you two were truly meant to be together, things will work out. But it's hard for someone to just "get over" being cheated on or cheating on someone.
2007-04-14 06:23:25 · answer #3 · answered by Mailman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you did what you did. The right thing to do would be to tell your boyfriend what you did. No matter what the consequences, you HAVE to take them, because you did it. And it was your choice. But if you're not sorry and you don't honestly regret what you did, don't say "I'm sorry". That would be lying t him. I think you already have enough on your shoulders. We all make mistakes,, but you have to learn to have self control and that when you start a relationship you have to be loyal till the end. :)
I hope the best for you
2007-04-14 06:20:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you don't regret it then leave your current bf you cant love him entirely bc you loved someone else already. you need to break up with your bf now any way possible. ok i personally hate you bc your the type of person that should never deserve love again bc you didn't respect it and destroyed it for you and others. go to your forgen bf carry a long distance relationship it might work. then again you cheated on him to so your a hopeless case i hope you never get a second chance on love again
2007-04-14 06:28:14 · answer #5 · answered by dontstandoncorners 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't commit yourself unless your are done "playing the field", even then....you have to know in your heart where you stand on a steady, or girlfriend/boyfriend level. When you are serious enough to make that commitment, I wouldn't just go thru the motions and pretend. When you are ready, you will know it. Obviously you are not serious enough with the guy you've been seeing for a month....actually, a month is not that long to commit yourself whole heartedly to one person.
2007-04-14 06:19:26 · answer #6 · answered by LARGE MARGE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl you need help ... why do you feel awful if you still want the guy you cheated with ... and a month and a half is not a relationship ... it's a start and since you cheated it won't work out between you because you have this awful secret and you still want some other guy.
2007-04-14 06:16:41 · answer #7 · answered by emnari 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all you had no love for your b/f and you need to grow up and learn the meaning of love,Now that you are a cheater you are branded as a cheater and you are telling everybody as if you are proud of it.,and what gos around comes around how you treat others,so one day when you at lest expect it and have found the meaning of love your time will come around to be hurt by b/f husband cheating on you.
2007-04-14 06:24:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A month and a half is hardly exclusivity. Unless you established this between the 2 of you...you're permitted to date anybody.
I think your biggest worry deals with your b/f finding out about your indiscretion from ANOTHER SOURCE? So you might as well "fess up" and suffer the consequences...if any?
2007-04-14 06:17:41 · answer #9 · answered by argytunes 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You do not love him if you cheated on him. The moment you looked at this other guy and decided to sleep with him, you said I don't care about my bf feelings. I don't care about the trust or love we have. I have to have this other guy. Therefore you can't love him that much. If you did love him, you wouldn't have done this. You wouldn't have been able to cheat on him because you would've known how much it would hurt him, and you wouldn't have wanted to hurt him for anything. I have no sympathy for you.
2007-04-14 06:18:15 · answer #10 · answered by benjis.girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You feel guilty but don't regret it? Sounds like you don't need a boyfriend. You're not married, play the field but don't commit to anyone while doing so. Wait to commit until you only want to be with that "one" person.
2007-04-14 06:17:45 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋