Is this normal?

Question

Okay, I'm a teenager, and I hate to give ya'll my age, but im not like 16 or 17, im younger.. okay, well, I go to a private school, I moved up here like 2 and a half years ago, and I started wearing nicer clothes and everything, and I don't think my face is that bad. There are like 20 people in our class and it's taken forever but I'm friends with all the girls, but I'm way to shy around the guys, and almost everyday my friends are talking about how the guys check them out, but they never pay attention to me, it makes me feel REALLY bad about myself, because I'm at the age where looks always matter, it makes me feel really ugly, and I know I can't be that ugly because adults are telling me how pretty I am. Anyway, what is it that is so wrong with me!?

oh. guess i forgot to mention..
i'm not fat. i'm short and my body is athletic, everyone even my friends tell me that.

Answer 1

ok, so your new. First impression my darling.
clothes, hairs cuts and push up bras will do nothing.

i know many a beautiful girl, but i'm just not interested in her for the simple reason she seems a bit too shy.
shyness can often be mistaken for snobbishness.

what i can say, start going out with them, hang out with them after school. if the girls of your class don't hang out with them,
suggest that you all do,
you'll be doing two things, one leading the girls
two being with the boys ,

then here is the word many people will tell you 'confidence' get to know them , what they like etc

were clothes with a statement (not sluttish though, please don't do what a lot of girls do when the want attention)


and hey, if there is a boy you like, you never know
;)
i suggest you call your girls now, suggest to meet up with them and the boys,
catch ya later

Answer 2

there is nothing wrong with u sweetie. and its ashame that these guys dont c it! teenagers r way 2 infatuated with what they c on magazine covers and on tv. by u being so young i can only tell u i know this is a critical age for u and u may find urself comparing ur looks 2 those of ur peers. everyone is unique and different and boys look at the same things in every girl. But dont despair that sets u apart from them and u can sit back and wait 4 the right guy 2 c those qualities in u they may not find in other girls. never feel like ur 2 blame or theres something wrong with u cuz its not. boys typically go 4 what they feel there friends will accept, but rest assured they r checkin u out. its just the girls they feel they can get the furthest with that they go after at ur age. dont focus on this right now u have ur whole life ahead of u. u have to have confidence in urself accept urself and know that no matter what other people may think of u ur beautiful inside and out! how many girls do u know who can honestly say that?

Answer 3

I think i'm about your age. Atleast it sounds like it. So, if you want guys to check you out too, then when one of your girl friends is talking to the guys just go up and join the conversation. Wear a little make up, try to look hot, and before long they'll start noticing you too. Adults tell me i'm pretty all the time too, and my friends do too so I'm guessing you are pretty, and your friends just don't say it because they're not those kind of people. Just trust me on that. You just have to put yourself out there, and you'll be noticed.

Answer 4

Guys get attracted to confidence as much as looks- doesnt sound true but it reli is. So if you have the looks but no confidence, then they wont know what to do!
It is either that they get turned off by your lack of confidence or they find you too pretty to talk to as they are scared themselves and are as nervous and shy as you may be. Make yourself look extra pretty one day like wear some more makeup/straighten hair and this should make you feel more confident. They are people too! Maybe approach another shy guy first and get him chatting. As you do this you will soon see that talking to guys is nothing to worry about and they will see this and get attracted to your confidence around them instead of seeming silly and nervous all the time.
Good Luck!

Answer 5

i am 17 and that still happens.... guys talk about girls all the time.. thats pretty much all they look and talk about... it will go on through ur life i guess. don't feel ugly i feel the same way about myself... ugly, unattractive... too fat or too skinny.. all that stuff... but u r yourself and u have t o accept the way u r made... a boy will come around who enjoys u and the way you are so dont worry hon.. you are young probably like 13 or 14 so u have a lot of years to impress men ! good luck...

Answer 6

Oh Please! They are probably jealous of you. Girls can be so rude and catty. Just try to realize you wont be seeing them forever ( you will look back on this and wonder why you worried) and be the best you can be academically and every other way ( be gracious, smile and stay out of gossip) You sound quite superior so it is all in your mind. If you let them intimidate you, they certainly will. Try to keep busy with extra things like sports or dance classes if you are getting all A's now; but if not, then talk with your teachers about what you can do to improve. It will impress them.

Answer 7

#1 You're not ugly, everyone's different, special, and pretty in their own way, and I know that everyone says that, but now that I think about it, it's so true, not every boy likes the same look that the other boys like. Even though I should be saying this to myself too, it's hard I know what you mean, I feel the same way, but there was this guys that I liked and he liked me back, and at the time it didn't matter if some other boy would've liked me or not, then he got all jealous because he thought I was saying this other boy was cute, and he acted like this other girl was his girlfriend, anyways it's a long story. But those other girls just like to say that because it makes them feel better, even if it is a complete lie, and even if it was true, he might not be that great of a guy. I know how you feel about being ugly because even though the adults say that, it feels like they don't mean it, like they have to say taht, but they really do. For awhile when I was actually ugly(trust me I was, you would've even said that to me), no one complimented on how pretty I was they would jsut say something else, like your shirt is cute or something, but now they compliment me like that, and I have to admit I look better than taht at least.
Since you're shy, usually boys taht liek you won't tell you if they like you, it seems like they are always more cautious about saying taht if the person's shy. The girls might be jealous of you too, because tehy're not going to say that ypu'er pretty to your face, I swear there's got to be at least 5 girls taht are jealous of you, even if you don't thinks so, that always happens. They like to say taht around you because they're so jealous(at least some of them) taht they want your self esteem to go down, because they think, oh she's so pretty that she should be so happy wiht herself, so they want you to be miserable like htem. Or they could want something taht you ahve, like maybe your grades or your talent, and they get jealous, or they like your clothes, but are jealous so they say thy're ugly, I used to have friends taht did that. Don't let them get to you,a dn who care sif boys don't like you right now, until they see the real you, just try to have a gerat time with your friends, ebcause it really only matters if ! boy likes you in the end, cuz that's the one you'll marry, and you'll be more happy with him tahn anyone else.
Hope I ehlped, I have more to say, but I think that would be WAY too long.
Penguin

Answer 8

The other girls are SAYING how the guys like them. It doesn't make it true. The boys are showing your friends attention because the girls talk to them. So all you need to do is talk to the boys and they'll 'notice' you too.

Answer 9

Just be yourself...have confidence in yourself....on the inside as well as the outside. YOu just need to work on your personality...open yourself up a lil so ppl can get to know who you are. If you're quiet like a mouse....how can anyone get to know "you".
Perhaps go to your local library and grab a couple of books on self esteem* Feel good about yourself, the rest will follow* GoodLUck* ps...be yourself dont try to be someone youre not to try and fit in..just work on your innerself and all willl be fine*

Answer 10

There is a long word called Charisma. it means a ton of diferant things. I will tell you one thing that will make a ton of differance in the way young guys will see you. If they see you as shy, then they are going to be shy. You need to work on your confidence. Showing more confidence will make you more attractive.