I want to make a move on a guy i have liked for a long time but how do i get us alone and bring up the subject?
what would you like to hear if a girl came onto you
how far should i go
i would love to go all the way as i have known him for 6 yrs and he is 6yrs older but dont want to come on too strong! help
2007-04-14 05:01:31 · 26 answers · asked by Iris 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am the wrong man to ask. I love it when women come on to me and I am not about to say no. If you are a woman over 18 and feel comfortable propositioning a man, go for it. Be sure to use birth control and do it a bunch of times.
2007-04-14 05:09:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Coming on strong is by getting him alone and trying to get him to do that with you. Okay maybe some cuddling alone could have people think "this girl is moving a bit too fast," but the S-Bomb? No. Absolutely not! If you like the guy, and you feel this will make him like you back, my answer is it will not but rather get him to think less of you, and what's worse is if he refuses (well these days guys rarely refuse, but it does happen!) then YOU will feel even worse and the six years you've known him will go down the drain as such an event naturally can damage the relationship. If you're with him, then those things come with time but when you force it, it is always a disastrous result. Like the trite but good saying goes, "good things come to those who wait." Simply take your time and let that come natural. Forcing it will lead to a possible loss of a friend and definite loss of respect for you. Let him like you for you and not initially base it on physical connections.
2007-04-16 02:22:42 · answer #2 · answered by dbm517 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right off the top of my head, I would say no.
But you have known him for six years.
Usually it is the man who asks out the woman, and is the first to ask for sex.
If you initiate the invite, it might come across the wrong way.
But don't think you can trap your man with sex and a baby. Look what happened to Bridget Monihan and Tom Brady.
Another aspect might be your ages. He is 6 years older. Older than what? Could he be waiting until you are old enough for a consensual act that could get him into serious trouble if you are under 18?
2007-04-15 08:50:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jee whizz..you sound very desperate...
Usually a guy will make the first move..since when must a girl ask for sex, men are always more than willing...maybe he doesnt want to sleep with you or date you..otherwise he wouldve made a move long time ago...
He can probably tell that you are easy..despite the fact that you know each other for 6 years, that cuts no ice...you are not in a relationship...
2007-04-18 02:26:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should do exactly what you think will make you happy, with no exception of what all these people think. If you want to have sex with him, which is not by any means a bad thing, just try to plan out some alone time, and just kiss him, kiss him like you mean it and you want him. I bet you'll get what you want after that.
2007-04-16 00:54:54 · answer #5 · answered by mettophobic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No problems there. First, find out who he is going out with. If he is as hot as you say, he probably has a gf. Follow him home from work, school sometime. How does he get there, drive, bus, motorcycle. Get to know the ride. If he has a car there must be some evidence of a relationship. A baby seat for example is a dead giveaway. A station wagon, woops there's Mom's car for sure. Once you've gotten to know your boy find out what movies he likes. Progress through the classics and see what kind of kinky movies might be introduced. Or if he likes to read, find out what kind of mags he likes to read. Slip a FHM magazine into the rack and see what his reaction is. Have fun. This could really go places if you let it.
2007-04-14 05:08:58 · answer #6 · answered by green3ch 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It depends on whether you actually want a relationship with this man - if you want him to think you're a girl who just asks guys for sex, then go ahead. If you want more to develop, then forget sex for the moment and ask him if he'd like to see a movie with you or something. Don't ruin your friendship by coming across as an easy lay.
2007-04-14 05:08:35 · answer #7 · answered by f0xymoron 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to the guy and tell him you like him! Ask him if maybe the two of you can go out for a drink or a meal on your own one evening because there's something you want to talk to him about. Don't have sex with him, because the majority of men do not see women who have sex with them straight away as being "girlfriend material". Its harsh and its hypocritical, but its true unfortunately.
2007-04-14 05:06:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
from a more realistic stand point, sorry cookie monster, i think that u should go for it...i mean go for the guy, but hold off on sex. if you really like him, then build a relationship that will lead into the physical part, and gain his trust and respect...but then again, if u just think hes hot, i guess initiate it, drop clues and flirt, he will get it and u will have acted your part...so he can pick up from where you left off.
2007-04-14 05:09:54 · answer #9 · answered by akb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what you want and in todays world there is no problem in going for it, just remember though it will change your relationship whatever way it goes, but if you dont try you will never know. Good luck.
2007-04-14 05:15:31 · answer #10 · answered by ph 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋