I don't miss my ex that much anymore. We broke up 2 mths ago...but my heart just crashed when he said he has no feelings for me anymore. I don't love him that much anymore but it just hurts to know that he can forget about me in such a short period of time...We were together for 1 year plus..
What should I do? What can I do to lessen the pain?
2007-04-14 03:41:37 · 19 answers · asked by Grace 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
get a new one and forget him
2007-04-14 03:44:58 · answer #1 · answered by Ian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, 2 months is not a long time to get over a 1+ year relationship. In general, it takes 1/2 the time you were together to get over the person. I think it's pretty accurate. One year is not a long time - but it can still hurt. The best way to get over it is this:
If you find yourself thinking of him, focus on the negative qualities....don't think about the good. The less you think about him, the better. This is the time to concentrate on yourself. Go to the gym and work on yourself. Go out with friends. Stay busy. You can move on.
I ended a 5 year relationship which was even harder. However, I stayed positive knowing that he was never going to find anyone as pretty or as smart or as fun as I am. And guess what? He's still alone and I am engaged to a wonderful, incredible and handsome guy! It can happen for you as well. Think of the future and don't dwell in the past!
2007-04-14 10:49:43 · answer #2 · answered by Lioness 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you broke up with your bf! But you've to move on! You've a life to enjoy! you don't wanna ruin it by worrying about someone who blew you off!! I know it's hard! But that's the way things are! You've to keep moving. Try to keep yourself busy! Engage yourself in various activities! Try reading a good book or hang out with your friends! You're still in the old guy, and that's probably the reason for you to be all sad! Pls. 4get the past! Maybe it's all 4 the best! Hope you'll feel better! Take care! Good luck! =)
2007-04-14 10:49:47 · answer #3 · answered by doglover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're falling into some sort of depression over your ex, and the first thing you should do is to forget everything about him, throw away anything that reminds you of him, otherwise you would never forget about the relationship between you two. You should also try to build back up and not let this set-back pull you down, there's always someone out there who's waiting for you, so don't give up on yourself.
2007-04-14 10:48:21 · answer #4 · answered by Soaring 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough question to which I have no answer. If only one person is in love in a relationship, well, then it not much of a relationship. I guess the best answer I can come up with is to take it day by day, and try to look at is as a beginning and not an end. Good luck. I feel for ya.
2007-04-14 10:56:30 · answer #5 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a hurtful thing to hear but he was being honest with you...His feelings have changed and he chose to move on...It may not have been anything you did...he just grew apart..and felt like you two werent meant to be ...You need to do the same~ hang out with friends, start getting out and having Fun*...You WILL meet another guy who you'll fall for , don't let This experience hinder your feelings of trusting again. Not every guy is the same.......and in the world of "love"...there are no guarantees*......You just have to pick yourself up...and move forward.. Live life instead of suffering because he broke up with you....worse things have happend to ppl and they still pick up the pieces and move forward in life. We only have one life so Live It* Be Happy* Enjoy doing what you like to do~ Take up a new hobby, something you've always wanted to do, but never gave it a shot* Trust me, you will meet other guys and fall in and out of love , and hopefully meet the man of your dreams*
COMMUNICATION HONESTY AND TRUST are the Keys to a long healthy relationship* Without those you have nothing......Keep on Smlin* Best wishes*
...Move on with your life* ~~
2007-04-14 10:50:44 · answer #6 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Typical... maybe you should have told him he was supposed to pine for you until YOU found someone else ... and YES this is about your bruised ego... grab a big...BIG bucket of ice cream... sit in front of the TV and watch "Sleepless in Seattle" a dozen times... then brush yourself off ... have a shower, brush your teeth... paint your face... put on some nice clothes... head to the nearest coffee shop... and flirt with the sexiest... single guy you come across...
and don't call him "MY" ex... that implies ownership... he's "THE" ex... start thinking about him in those terms and it won't be long before you're back on "your game"
Oh..yeah... own your emotions... you feel like "this" because you choose to feel like this... reach into the bag and choose to feel something more positive.
2007-04-14 10:51:46 · answer #7 · answered by alex b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on!!! Do other things!!! Meet other guys!!! Volunteer!!! Pretty soon you'll be so busy you won't think about him anymore. Sure it hurts to hear a guy that you've been with for over a year express feelings that don't include you, but you said it yourself, you don't love him that much anymore, either. Don't dwell on what he said to you, it's a part of moving on, maybe he had to say those hurtful things so he could move on himself. God Bless, Martha S.
2007-04-14 10:50:19 · answer #8 · answered by Martha S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it only took him such a short time to get over you..then he wasn't worth it anyway. it means he wasn't truely in love with you..and that you were just another fling. so you should just shrug it off..and move on.
if he was really in love with you, and was with you for a year..it would take alot of thought to get over you..and time.
i would say..if you still like him..then try to get him back. tell him how you feel about what he said..
but if you feel that you can't see yourself out with him again..then just drop everything, and move on...
finding some1 to replace him will make you forget about him in a heartbeat..believe me...
2007-04-14 10:50:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have some type of feeling for him or you wouldn't care how he felt about you. Just don't worry about him, there are too many other guys out there for you to be worried about one. Go hang out with your friends and mingle! In no time you will forget about what whatshisname said.
2007-04-14 10:48:02 · answer #10 · answered by diamoniquejazz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i'm not trying to be rude but you must still have feelings for him if you're still sad and probably the best thing to do is pick a night that you and your friends are free and just have a girls night out or pick one of your closest friends and have a shop til u drop day. that usually helps because it keeps your mind off 'him'
2007-04-14 10:47:55 · answer #11 · answered by hillsofhardin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋