My dad died yesterday... He was ony 53. It doesnt feel real.... I am 26 and planning my dads funeral.... This just feels like a bad dream... when is the reality going to sink in??? I cant do this.... when is this nightmare going to be over????
2007-04-14 01:07:07 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Pray for peace about it. Share good memories about him. Make a scrapbook if you have any pics of him. Always keep his memory alive.
Everyone deals with death at their own pace. Some people get over it faster than others.
2007-04-15 08:39:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i am so sorry for your loss.your dad was so young. you can do this and you will survive. right now, you're going through the business end of death. the running the phone calls the planning. it sucks but it has to be done. you can do it. when all that is over and you can breath again, that is usually when reality hits you. right in the face. let it happen. take as long as you need. there is no time limit. when my mom died, a good friend told me, at times i would swear i was going crazy. REALLY crazy. she was right. she told me, beware of the shower and driving in the car for those are the times when your mind will wander and you'll start to think. she was right again. she also said that i would feel better. right again. things may get worse before they get better but, if you know that it's normal, it will help. there are many support groups out there if you need them. it worked for me. call hospice or your county and ask them about it. my sympathies to you and your family.
2007-04-14 09:09:31 · answer #2 · answered by racer 51 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so terribly sorry for your loss. It is unbearable. My mother-in-love was only 52 when we lost her to cancer and we were devastated! It is such a terrible rip off!
It takes a long time to get over this, although we never completely "get over it". You need to let your emotions out, don't try to stuff them. Try to get some help with the business aspects.
One thing that helped us was instead of having a funeral, we had memorial services and kept things light. Marge was such a lover of life and she had always said she didn't want a sad goodbye. Her favorite songs, stories, and pictures were shared. There was so much laughter and joy, and yes, lots of tears, but in remembering her for who she was, that heavy blanket of sorrow was lifted. We also bought 52 helium balloons in all of her favorite colors, and at the end of the service we released all the balloons as if we were releasing her spirit to the Creator.
This is an incredibly difficult time. My mother-in-love passed away in 1991 and my husband still hasn't gotten over his loss. Try to celebrate his life and stay busy with positive things. Cry your heart out when you need to, be angry and punch pillows,and buy the book "On Death and Dying" by Helen Kuebler-Ross. It will help you understand your feelings. Blessings to you. Annie
2007-04-14 10:24:42 · answer #3 · answered by Annie 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First I am so sorry for your loss. Second you are in shock at the death on your dad and it will take time for your feelings to emerge after the shock. When my older brother who was only 23 died I though i was going crazy because I couldn't cry couldnt feel anything and I was pregnant with my son. I told my doctor something is wrong with me why cant i cry or feel the grief and she told me your in what we call delayed shock. You know he is gone but your mind and body are in shock. It took to after my son's birth and i broke down sobbing that my brother was gone and would never know his nephew. It is our bodies way of protecting us. You just lost your dad and there are no words that can take away your pain. Give yourself time to grieve and deal with your lost. One way that helps me is findagrave.com you can post your fathers name date of birth, date on their and leave virtual flowers and messages and its free. I do this all the time and express how much I miss my brother and leave him messages and this past Feb. 13 he has beengone for 18 years and it does get a bit easier as time passes but the pain is always there. This is a good site to leave your dad messages and tell him how much you love him, miss him. God bless you
2007-04-14 08:15:48 · answer #4 · answered by bbinqueens33 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear about you lose!!
I hate to tell you but it doesn't go away we just learn to live with it. I lost my dad 4 years aog and it feels like it just happened. God bless!
2007-04-14 11:59:34 · answer #5 · answered by Di 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ijust lost my brother who was killed by a drunk driver...hun it never goes away! Just pray and know he is in a better place and is always with you! I'm sorry for your lose. Be strong!!
2007-04-14 08:12:43 · answer #6 · answered by hopeless 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋