he sometimes hit me too but like i said sometimes..and the sad part s he s a cop..
2007-04-14 00:46:29 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You might want to consider getting her and you some counseling for abused spouses and children.
Also, if your afraid that calling the police to report his abusive behavior would only cause more problems call your states Children Protective Agency and get them involved and relate to them your fears because he is an office who is suppose to uphold the law and thinks he is above the law.
In any case you need to get help for you and your mom weather she wants it or not and you need out of that environment.
CALL SOMEONE and report this abuse before one of you or both of you end up maimed or dead.
2007-04-14 00:55:53 · answer #1 · answered by Nana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your fathers' job is to protect and to serve.....his anger problem is a big issue and hitting your mom around is even a bigger one. You said he also hits you sometimes. None of this is acceptable. I would sit mom down and have a heart to heart talk, women that are abused often feel like they have no place to turn. Your father being a cop, makes her situation even worse. Talk to your mom and tell her that whatever her fears are about turning your dad in for this CRIME can be over come. Tell her that you would rather the both of you leave the situation and struggle then have him hit her again. You must protect your mom. If your father is leaving bruises on either you or your mom, take photographs, get a video camera and record the altercation for your proof. Contact the captain at the police station and inform him of his behavior, let the police know you have proof. Tell the captain that you want protection for you and your mom and that your conversation with him is not to be discussed with your dad as you are fearful of what he might do. Make arrangements to move in with family or friends until you and your mom can afford your own place. Good luck sweetie. You probably wonder why your mom hasn't done anything about this situation, she is a victim and victims lose their sense of self esteem, she is scared and knows that cops protect cops. You can also contact the Alliance for Family Violence, they will provide shelter for you and your mom.
2007-04-14 01:42:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As far as him hitting your mom there is probably not much you can do, my step father hits my mom and every time I ever got in the middle of it I ended up the bad guy. I would say don't be silent though maybe you could ask your parents to go to church with you or seek family counseling. No matter what you should definetly let someone know if your father continues the abuse it is not right. Him being a police officer only makes it worse because he's supposed to protect and serve and he can't even protect his own family from himself how can he protect all those other families. If you are in school I would start by seeing my guidence counselor.
2007-04-14 02:07:14 · answer #3 · answered by stuffy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your father is a control freak, and the only way to stop his hostile behavior is to gather evidence and make police reports when it occurs... thus he either gets professional help, or faces penalties under the law... do what you gotta do in order to stop him ASAP, because often such hostile behavior progresses to a point of severe beatings, or worse...and the fact that he's a cop means nothing, he's not above the law...
2007-04-14 00:56:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you can do google domestic voilence on your computer and show it to her. IT makes it worse that he is a cop and he is breaking the law because he is physically abusing you both. She needs to pack you and her stuff up and leave him because it will only get worse. He will not change unless he wants to and by her staying not only is she allowing the abuse she is allowing him to do it to you. Tell you both need to get out and away from him it does not get better only worse
2007-04-14 01:10:21 · answer #5 · answered by bbinqueens33 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the cops on him. Him being a cop does not make him immune to the domestic violence laws.
2007-04-14 00:50:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am sorry to hear that,and i could understand of your feeling,my father sometimes lost the temper to me and my mom,i know it is tough,but everytime i must hide until he was calm down.
i didn't want to tell my friends or call the police because i am afraid they will look down upon me
as you are a boy,i think it would be better for you to ask a social worker to pursude him
2007-04-14 01:22:08 · answer #7 · answered by happy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the cops!
Tell your teachers!
Tell your friends!
Tell your friends parents!
Tell childrens services!
The more people that know, the more that will be done. Tell anyone and everyone until it stops! You and your mom do not deserve that! God bless!
2007-04-14 04:55:38 · answer #8 · answered by Di 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
on da sneak tip u need get ur dad arrested by callin 911 4 domestic violence bcuz wen u have da police involved u feel semi safe, bcuz dey will attempt 2 take care of it, now once hes gone...LEAVE!!! far away, u can keep in touch through fone bcuz da closer u r, da more in danger u r
2007-04-14 01:19:35 · answer #9 · answered by semajriley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I want u to tell someone. A principle, a teacher, someone that can call your mom in, to speak with her, and convine her to get help. Unfortunalty, she may be to scared, or just not want to...but that doesnt mean you can't get help yourself..no one should have to live in fear of getting hurt. Good luck.
2007-04-14 12:04:16 · answer #10 · answered by combodeal2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋