ok,many of u gave me such a roar at being bad natured towards my housekeepr...i will tell u of some incidents?

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then u all can judge as much as u like:
1) she burnt my b'tiful top
2)she makes rice as if it were some sort of a paste
3)she cleaned my table with the drity sweeping cloth
4)she has a distinct habit of throwing things away---she simply threw all the short pencils that i use for my compass a day before my exams
5)she threw away my form of a competition thinking it was 'just a paper'
6)that woman bleached my bag
7)she makes excuses n disturbs me when i am studying
8)she put 1 KG of salt in rasna3
9)she bleached my bag
10)she i dunno how hears EVERYTHING opposite


and these are ONLY SOME of the idiocies she has done
am i expected to fawn her? and praise her for her good deed?
for the 'excellent' food she has been making?

so ppl,...if someone does not BEHAVE LIKE A HUMAN...HOW AM I ENTREATED TO BE TREATING HER LIKE A HUMAN?

i repeated some points...i can put in new ones...there is an unending row...
1)she puts excess or no salt in veggies
2)cant do ANYTHING

yeah...she has gone AND I AM DOING THE WORK MUCH BETTER..SO DONT CALL ME SPOILT..I CAN DO IT IF I COME TO IT

u think i have NEVER CHEAKED HER?
I HAVE CHEAKED HER A MILLION TIMES....AND THERE HAS BEEN NO EEFECT

i AM doing it for myself....i just put this question in coz some of u feel i am a 'spoilt brat'.....i wanted to show u real reasons why i have been so resentful

Answer 1

I completely agree with yo the more you love them moere they try to take advantage of you For these past three years, I am going through the same experience not only with me but my maid did some unfogivable things to my kids and such things are unforgivable, all we can do is either do the work on our own or learn to play tactfully

Answer 2

It is human nature to see the faults in others and ignore your own faults. Are you not capable of doing your own work? And have you ever wondered what kind of a life your housekeeper is leading? If she is illiterate, a competition form would just be a sheet of paper. If she is uneducated how do you expect her to know that your short pencils were needed for your compass?

If you cannot do things yourself and need servants then you need to tell them how you want things done and I believe anybody can learn once taught well. If you don't find it satisfactory then its better to do it yourself than to criticise others.

Answer 3

You are a hateful person if you treat anyone as less than a human, no matter how much salt she puts in your rasna3. If she doesn't do a proper job, either teach her how to do better, or replace her.
I did not read your original question and am only commenting on this is particular question.

Answer 4

You're privileged enough to have someone waiting on you hand and foot, and you're complaining? The audacity of some people. This is what we call "spoiled rotten" in America.

That being said, she's an employee of you, your house, and your parents, yes? If she's doing something wrong, tell her. Leave notes by your things stating exactly what you want done with them. But, the best way to know it's done right to your standards is to do it yourself. Imagine that concept.

Answer 5

No, I totally understand. It's as if the housekeeper resents you for being someone of means. I had housekeepers who purposely ruined some of my things. I mean, these were just ladies that showed up once a month, not to the extent you have. Of course, if she does resent you, then that's more often for her to screw things up on purpose.

Answer 6

I know you're angry and exasperated about this. Some people apply and work for jobs only for the money. They don't really have any idea on how to do the job properly and correctly. Your ex housekeeper seems to be one such person.
Don't stress yourself thinking about it.

Answer 7

The person who pays the housekeeper's wages is the only one who has the right to give instructions or complain. If you don't like the way she does something then you talk to your parents about it and let them handle it.

Answer 8

I have seen people pamper their pet dog, and the dog gives no output.
The housekeeper does only that which she is instructed to do, maybe u should concentrate on providing her more explicit and appropriate instructions, and make provisions for feedback and monitoring.

Answer 9

If I were her, I'd be glad to be away from such a vile hateful person. Do the work yourself and learn some humility.

Answer 10

You are a *****-this was a professional relationship and you acted like a spoiled brat. As someone said, if she couldn't do the work,let her go.