baby lives with me his daddy i have all his benefits and have close bond between us, mother does not see much?

Question

off him ,and does not buy him eneything can she come and take my son to live with her what can i do to keep him, i have my name on birth cert

Answer 1

Get legal advice and keep a note of everything dates, receipts etc.
And its great to see a dad that wants his kid...be proud of yourself and good luck....x

Answer 2

I would strongly suggest seeing an attorney and getting sole custody of the baby. If she never sees the baby and doesnt help support it financially, she probably wont fight it. But I would see an attorney soon so she cant come along and try to take the baby. If she tries to take the baby before you go to court dont let her take the baby. Your name is on the birth certificate and you have been the primary care giver. Also save all your reciepts for diapers, formula ect. I applaud you for being such a good Daddy! But see a lawyer soon so everything is legal.

Answer 3

Without knowing the full facts, you should really have got a residence order in the beginning to protect yourself and your son. So you need to see a family solicitor and get this sorted straight away.There may be a chance that mum would get custody of your son...she is 99% likely to get access as the court will only look at what is best for your son,not whether she has financially contributed.If she is classed as an unfit mother she wont get custody or access,even supervised.

Answer 4

I went to see a solicitor a few years ago after my ex wife kept threatening to stop me seeing my kids. Bearing in mind that I always paid maintenance and have never been violent towards any woman (I detest men who hit women) I expected to be presented with a list of rights as the father of my kids.

In reality fathers have very few rights at all and of those you have, none of them are ever enforced by law. The solicitor told me that, as a father who was married at the time my kids were born (and therefore in a position to claim the most legal rights) I would be entitled to see my kids for 48 hours a YEAR if my ex wife made me go through the courts to see my kids.

I was told to expect a legal bill upwards of £20 to £30,000 so I could see my kids for a total of two whole days a year. The same solicitor told me how she had recently helped a woman to stop her husband from seeing his children because the woman was "stressed" when the man saw his kids.

Family law in the UK is terrible if you are a man who actually wants to be involved in his childrens life. I hope your situation doesn't change, as you are obviously a caring Dad, but be warned - if she decides she wants the child there may be very little you can do to stop it. The law is completely sexist when it comes to Dads.

Answer 5

I would get so legal advice. But if the child lives with you and all they needs are being met, I'm sure that the courts won't take the child from you. The mother will almost likely get some kind of access but providing you don't give her any reason to take you back to court it will be fine. The one question that will be asked is why the child leaves with you and not they mother?

Answer 6

there are horror stories on here, but dont listen, each case is unique... uk.if there is no residency order in place either parent can at any time take the child and the police cannot get involved so that means she cannot get the police to snatch the baby, so dont give her oppurtunity to snatch him herself. you need to apply for a residence order which you are likely to get as you are his primary carer, it is nonsence that they favour the mother in all circumstances, the mother usually wins because she usually already has the kids with her and to remove them is most upsetting for the kids unless they are being abused or neglected. you dont say how old the baby is but the longer you have him the better, to be honest i would apply for emergency tempory residence if you think she is going to take him, that way if she does you can get the police involved, but i would then stall any proper hearing for as long as you can, the longer you have that baby the better your chances.the fact there is little contact or financial support will go in your favour, you will also need to demonstrate how you meet his needs with regard to working and childcare, any family support you have, dont slag her off , this will go against you,just focus on what you have and can continue to provide,also acknowledge some proper contact is necessary but only in court, do not nag her to visit now but also never stop her as this will look bad on you, the less she has seen him the better for your case. it will be her who has the uphill battle to prove you unfit and that her circumstances have changed. the very best of luck to you.

Answer 7

I am puzzle are you the birth mother of this child?
If not why do you have your name on the birth cert .
OK you want the child mother to help out .
Maybe you have to think she might not want anything to do with this child. You can't force the mother to see the child.

how about you raise the child and love it due to the child know you . why mess the child telling them that this other people your mother . leave it the way it is. Maybe that what the birth mother want to have nothing to do with it

Answer 8

hey

Well I am like the opposite of you... My son lives with me and has never seen his dad and he does not provide for him in anyway... I went to see a lawyer and they told me that if there is no contribution made then there is no easy access to the child... However, I don't know if this is the same for a man stopping a mum. The best thing would be to talk ot someone about where you stand in the law... i would suggest citizen's advice or something similar where it is free.

Answer 9

the courts will look at the whole picture, and if your child is happy and well adjusted they wont want to unsettle that.

get advice from solicitor or the citizens advise team (its free)

also keep a note of important dates, like when his mother did visit, the babys behaviour afterwards and did she keep to the times arranged all this will come in your favour. the more written evidence you have the better.

good luck

Answer 10

Huh? You are not the birth mother? Or are you the father?

If you are the biological father and the biological mother does not have much to do with your child you should be able to retain custody of your child.

I would highly recommend o consult a lawyer ad make your custody legal.

Answer 11

Apply to the courts for a residency order. As much as the law is generally on the side of the mother, you have a good case for abandonment, especially if she really doesn't see the child much.