how to speak and behave nicely to stupid housekeepers? PLEASE HELP?

Question

im 15
people in inda would understand my prob well coz of same culture: my housekeeper left her job and i am being blamed for rudeness to her, making her run about on errands and sneering at her for not doing her work properly

note for non indians (so that u can understand the situation better): housekeepers in our country are illiterate and mine is brainless too

i think she left coz it was her chidren's hols and these ppl once they get some money, stop working, she took to many hols at it is, and made excuses, did work HORRIBLY

my question : WHAT sould i do, HOW should i behave with my housemaids NEXT time...

they have every freedom in my house :
dishwashers, washing mach, ovens,electric sewing mach. are already there to do half the work for them, other servats are there too,food,generosity in a family of four---AND THEN TOO!

my parents blame me for not speaking and treating them nicely---HOW SHOULD I TREAT THEM? ANY IDEAS?

yeah...I AM doing MUCH of that work MYSELF...and sincerely: I AM DOING IT MUCH BETTER

no....no agencies here

SHUT UP SOMU....IF U CANT GIVE A POSITIVE ANSWER--THEN U HAD BETTER GET OFF AND NOT ANSWER AT ALL!

i ALSO PRAISED her for good work, unfortunately i did not tell u of the good works that i HAVE done to them or u would tell me that i am the most generous and considerate girl in the whole of india.....ur a fickle mided person

my QUESTION WAS HOW SHOULD I BE TREATING THEM IF THEY PUT 1 KG OF SALT IN RASNA INSTEAD OF SUGER? HUH?

IF I WAS A HOUSEKEEPER: I WOULD NOT HAVE DONE SUCH A STUPIDITY......EVEN THOUGH I STUDY, I HANDLE ALL THE WORK MUCH MORE EFFECIENTLY

i agree with u wizard of oz: i have started following that concept...the thing is: i dont have TIME...there are hundreds of works pending everyday and it doesnt do!

Answer 1

I understand how you feel towards house helpers. I had some experiences similar to yours when I was your age and up until now. Sometimes you want to scream because they can't get instructions and ruins expensive stuffs. But I agree with what everyone here says, they have to be treated with utmost respect the way we like to be treated.
If she just continue with all the horrible stuffs, just replace her. Maybe she wouldn't resent you more if your parents would do just that.

Answer 2

Chill. Haven't you ever made a mistake? You're blessed to have a housekeeper; most of us don't have that luxury, and have to take care of our own selves and houses. Even if your housekeeper is making mistakes, she is a human being! Maybe you need to work 6 months as a housekeeper for someone else so you can see what it's like. If your housekeeper just can't do the job, it's up to your parents to replace her, but in any case you should be kind to her. What goes around comes around.

Answer 3

First of all stop assuming that housekeepers are stupid.I agree they have lower intelligence and are arrogant sometimes but you must see them in that perspective. Their income sources are very meagre and non secure. They live under lot of social and financial insecurity. Use some empathy and you will start seeing their problems.
It does not mean that you should not employ them or assign them work. The only thing that is required that if they start feeling that you understand and respect them , I am sure all the chores will be done without any effort/direction from you.
We must understand and give respect to every human being irrespective of their level,status etc. Plse try working on this concept for a month and you will start commanding respect from everybody. Best of luck !!

Answer 4

If your parents feel you were rude to her, then you were not behaving in the way that they have trained you to act toward other people.

In many cultures, people feel that housekeepers and others who have similar jobs are INFERIOR to those who have more education, more money, more power, or better jobs. It sounds like this is NOT the case in your family - your parents feel she is worthy of kindness and respect regardless of her position and the quality of her work.

You may be a very brilliant young person, and if this is the case, you are going to have a long life of frustration if you do not begin to recognize that we are not all alike, but we all deserve to be treated kindly and with some level of respect.

I know that in your country certain people are considered lower, but apparently this is not your parents' belief, and so your family is teaching you that people have value even if they cannot read and write. Your housekeeper seems stupid to you, but if she never had the opportunity for an education, there are so many things you know and understand that are the blessings of your education - and she did not have that opportunity. So your housekeeper cannot understand things that you have learned because of your literacy.

You don't have to treat others like your friends and family, but you can learn to distinguish between a person's behavior and abilities and their worth as human beings, and speak to them and talk about them respectfully. You also have an opportunity to set an example for other young people in your country when they deal with people like your housekeeper. I heard once that the quality of a person's character is not how they treat people of honor, but how they treat those who do not have it!

I applaud you for even caring about learning how to do things in a different way - a way that will bring more harmony in your family. Good luck.

Answer 5

The solution is pretty simple. You treat a housekeeper as you should treat any other person - with kindness and respect.

What is not simple is the implementation. It seems that you're so caught up in how "stupid," "illiterate" and "brainless" your housekeeper is that you miss the fact that she's a human being with thoughts and feelings and she (like many of us) is just trying to get by.

Answer 6

If you can't handle them then don't get a housekeepers. Do the job yourself since you've mentioned that you have all the appliances and you can do better than them..Even if they are what you think they are they still have feelings and good for them to run away from you. Don't expect them to act and think the way you do since they are not educated like you. I hope you do get I mean.

Answer 7

Domestic workers are humans too. They are not less than you. Because you had the good fortune to have more than they have doesn't give you the right to look down on them. Remember that all people have hopes and dreams and do not deserve to be treated poorly. While you seem to think they have it easy since you have common appliances, non the less it is tough work (if it weren't you would do the work yourself instead of hiring someone to do it for you). Treat them with the utmost respect.

Answer 8

I work on the 10 floor of my office building, and people here are always polite. They no not always speak, but there is always a slight nod or smile or something. Most of them will say something like "Have a good day" when they are exiting the elevator. I live in the south too..maybe people are just more laid back and easy going here.

Answer 9

U have all the gadgets, why do you need the housekeeper ?
Learn to do all your household jobs, then u need not depend on the housekeepers and listen to all their excuses. U also score on them by making them loose their jobs.

Answer 10

I bet she gets a good laugh about you
when she's with her family and friends.

You need to be in a yearly Boarding School.
Out of sight, out of mind
If you are going to act like a brat.

Let your Mother handle the Help.
You just speak to them, and treat them nicely.