How should someone go about telling their family that they are a cutter (self abuser) without making them fear further for the individual's life (suicide attempts in the past, currently diagnosed as bipolar, manic depressed, and looking into the diagnosis of having a borderline personality disorder)
2007-04-13 19:10:29 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
The cutting is not in direct responce to a certain situation. It is, in my belief, because of the overall bipolar condition. I've talked to my councelor about it, but she's more concerned about me drinking to run than she is about me cutting to run. She knows that I run from my problems, but she dosn't know the extent that I cut.
The only idea that my family has that I cut (since I live at the dorms at a University) is last year when I went home over the Summer, my mom saw a few cuts on my arm. Since then it has become much worse of a problem. She reacted to it then by saying "Do you want to end up at St. Luke's?" (mental hospital in the city we live in)
2007-04-13 19:31:57 · update #1
well, there is really no known way that you can tell someone something as serious as this that wouldnt cause even ur parents to develop a strong concern for you! even im concerned! haha~ but really, try to take it slow, get their attention, sit them down, talk to them... and everything will naturally fall into place :) im rooting for ya! :)
* dont hesisitate, its better for them to know then having never known at all :)
2007-04-13 19:44:05 · answer #1 · answered by :) 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you need to educate yourself and your parents on cutting. it is a very serious disorder that is addicting and is about control. even though you don't mean for it to be a suicide attempt it can end up being that way, just one cut in the srong spot or that was to deep and you could be in serious trouble. you should deffinaltly tell your parents and don't think as hospitalization as a punishment think of it as a break and some rest so that you can get the therapy that you need and get the regulated on the meds that you need, you are not alone by any means in this. i have been hospitalized and after i felt great and i am on the right meds and i feel as though i can function like a regular person again. your parent will fear because they love you and don't want anything bad to happen to you. so just tell them and tell them that you want help. so that they can get that for you. hope this helps and i will be praying for you
2007-04-14 02:44:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me advise you: tell a woman first. Women are the sensitive sex and can understand your position better than men. Then let her tell the man closest to her (if it's not you already). Then, maintain a diary and make sure it comes in your people's watch.
There is a quicker way, though. Call a family meeting, order pizzas, and speak out loud, "I have a problem, can you help me?" I've hav some problems with my girlfriend and I solved it that way.
Believe me, there is so much to be happy about that you really don't want to care who's not helping, you'll find plenty of friendly person to forget the one who makes you blue.
Just be happy.
2007-04-14 02:26:17 · answer #3 · answered by El-Foyo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bottom Line, wanting to tell someone is an outward expression that you want help. The truth is, EVERYONE needs help at one time or another. To reject this is simply vain. To think you dont need help is to suggest that you are essentially better or smarter that any one else. Besides people like to feel like they did somthing to help somone else out.
Look at it this way, Give them the opportunity to feel good they helped someone else. Feeling good is essentially what you want.....Do unto others my man.
The other part is, if you seek help, they won't try to lock you up. This shows you have the good sense to do what is right.
Peace and Love my man, Stay Fresh!! :)
2007-04-14 02:19:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may want to request a doctor visit and let the doctor know you are cutting. Then you can have a sit down with your doctor and your family and tell them. The doctor will be able to explain the difference.
2007-04-14 02:15:34 · answer #5 · answered by DOC-2009 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They will worry...
But they will be happy to help you feel better and fix whats making you sad...
Also because of your disorders, try just sitting out side in the sun for 15 minuter.
You could also have mild sad like I do. And even if you don't, fresh air just makes the world seem calmer...
2007-04-14 02:16:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's really hard to tell one's family that they are a cutter. you just have to come out and tell them. chances are they already know and are just at a loss on how to help you right now. explain to them it's not that you want to die and then explain the reason why your doing it. ask them for help and their thoughts on the matter. offer to go to therapy and keep them informed. when you feel like cutting go to them. make sure though that you have somebody there to support you when you do tell them. it really does help.
2007-04-14 02:17:43 · answer #7 · answered by blueeyedbaybee2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well they should first talk to someone they know like a close friend who can help them in talking to their family. Just have a friend be there when you tell them about it.
2007-04-14 06:50:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask your councilor how to approach your parents.
When you do talk to them, do assure them that your getting help, but you want their support to help you through the tough times.
I would also take as much information about each condition, so they have that information to read when they are able to. This will also show that your trying to help yourself, as well as getting help and support.
I wish you luck.
2007-04-14 02:48:38 · answer #9 · answered by Georgie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your family loves you and cares very much. Do share this now. There are numerous ways of getting help. Good luck.
2007-04-14 02:15:12 · answer #10 · answered by Jan C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋