Many years ago?

Question

I got raped. I cant get over it. Two weeks ago I tried hurting myself once again. How many years does it take to get over something like that. Is been 5 years. I havent really given people a chance. I isolate myself. Is there any free numbers to call a hotline. I am going crazy.

Answer 1

I know how you feel. I was raped 3years ago. I use to cut myself aswell. It doesn't help. Trust me.

Cutting isn't a effective way of dealing with pain. It'll only create more. You must stop this in order to heal. You'll be amazed how much better you feel.

I don't live in America so i'm not aware of any hotlines for you. But i'm sure some one else can help you there.

Isolating yourself isn't going to help with the grief. I'm very hypocritical in saying this but you need to get out there.

You will forgive and move on but you will never forget.

You need to talk to someone.

Feel free to email me anytime.

Answer 2

So sorry to hear of your trauma.
Time alone does not heal. You would do well to talk with a trained, licensed counselor or psychologist. Crisis times do arise, such as you speak of. When they do, it is essential to have somewhere to reach-out.

I am looking at the Denver phone book -- Community Service Numbers -- near the front of the book. Here it has only local numbers listed. Look under RAPE
[phone] is our 24-hr. hotline.
To find a local or toll-free hotline in your area, you can call either your local hospital, or police, and they should know the number. You can also call 1-411 for "information" to acquire a Rape-Crisis Hotline number.

One crisis number I know of 1-800-NEWLIFE. (If they don't have someone immediately, they will call you back)

I know, nights are the worst. I've been there myself. Through counseling therapy, and spiritual healing through Jesus Christ, I am at peace with what evil violence was done against me. I pray you will be healed also.

Answer 3

I am sorry since while answering i am reminding you of that incident. Please don't hurt yourself, if you did this to yourself you are not different to the person who hurt you. There is no such time frame after which you can get over this. This is a life changing moment. It was not your fault, you just happened to be in the wrong place at the wrong time. But to get over you need not try to think about that incident. it would be normal if subconsciously you get reminded of it. Please do not isolate yourself, you are missing out on people who can really help to move past it. If you decide that everybody is going to hurt you, then actually you are the one who is actually hurting you. Trust people around you, be optimistic. You went through a bad thing, but you could have done something the or did it to prevent it, but it didn't succeed. But Don't give up on yourself, you still have much to look ahead. Do not allow that incident to cripple your life anymore, just be brave and face your future/dreams.

Answer 4

I am sorry to hear about your incident. I have a few suggestions:

- Call your telephone operator and ask for SOS numbers

- Use the NLP method to release your thoughts. First lie down comfortably on bed or in a chair. Close your eyes and imagine a screen in front of you. Watch the whole incident on the screen. Then rewind the whole incident backwards like a tape recorder at a fast speed and in black and white. Make sure you watch everything backwards in black and white....and fast. Rewind backwards at least 10 times. Do this everytime you remember the incident. Soon you will no feeling when you think of it. I use it to remove the anger feeling I had when my boss scolded me. It works. NLP stands for Neuro-linguistic programming. There are many books on NLP.

- Lastly forgive. Everyday spend half hour kneeing down and forgive everyone. Forgive yourself. Forgive the rapist so that you can continue on with your life. Forgive your family. Always say "I wish myself/him/her well" after you say you forgive yourself/him/her. This step is important to leave the past behind so that you can move forward. Without forgiveness, you are stuck in your past where the pain is.

Answer 5

I am so sorry that happened to you. The first thing you must do is call this #: 1.800.656.HOPE. It's the Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network and it's free and confidential and 24/7. You may need to see someone who will be able to help you recognize that it was NOT your fault so you can get some closure and get your life back. Please do not hurt yourself again and call this hotline ASAP. I wish you the best of luck sweetie.

Answer 6

Yes there is help. Call a crisis hot line and ask them where to turn for help with this. Do know that no one had a rite to violate you and that is was not your fault. Good luck and God Bless you in finding help.