okie well i have just started a relationship with a guy i like alot, but i dont know him well enough to trust him yet, but i want to beable to trust him more than the world, im just not sure if i can yet. and he also has this "best friend" thats a girl, and he hangs with her everyday, therefore the part when i dont know if i can trust him comes in. and i just jealous because he hugs his best friend more than me, or and i just over reacting.. please help me! FAST!
2007-04-13 18:01:31 · 6 answers · asked by t_angel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Im just wondering?
okie well i have just started a relationship with a guy i like alot, but i dont know him well enough to trust him yet, but i want to beable to trust him more than the world, im just not sure if i can yet. and he also has this "best friend" thats a girl, and he hangs with her everyday, therefore the part when i dont know if i can trust him comes in. am i just jealous because he hugs his best friend more than me, or am i just over reacting.. please help me! FAST!
2007-04-13 18:03:31 · update #1
If you really like him all you can do is trust him until he truly gives you a reason not to or you will drive yourself crazy and drive him away from you so just take a deep breath and enjoy your relationship !
2007-04-13 18:06:19 · answer #1 · answered by Jules 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish to suggest that contrary to what hollywood culture would have us believe, more men are faithful than not. Perhaps he has known this girl for a while, or perhaps they really clicked, in a platonic sort of way.
And as for the whole hug thing, a guy could hug one girl a thousand times and another once, but think the world of the second. We don't QUITE make the same serious connections with physical contact that woman do. Thus potentially explaining why guys are more open on the whole than woman to one-night stands.
2007-04-14 01:06:56 · answer #2 · answered by Gatsby Follower 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're overreacting. If he wanted to be with her, then why is he with you?
As far as trusting him, I honestly don't think you should be in a relationship if you don't trust the person in the first place. Maybe you could start as friends and build trust. Because I'm going to tell you right now that if you don't trust him, then it's not going to work out. And if you're going to be jealous, then it won't work out either. It's just going to put a strain on the both of you.
2007-04-14 01:05:42 · answer #3 · answered by Treasure 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you're being jealous. the fact that he can be so honest and tell you who his best friend is, show's a lot. he's not afraid to tell you who he is close to, even though it's a girl.
it takes time to trust someone, and since this is a new relationship, you'll need to take time to get to know him. don't rush it.
as for him hugging her more than he hugs you, it's likely because he and her are best friends, where as you and him are new. try hugging him more then. he'll be likely to respond.
2007-04-14 01:10:12 · answer #4 · answered by Hulabaloola 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So your relationship is new to him, but you would like to replace the old one.(the girl,best friend). Sounds like you just need to give the relationship more time. You can't expect him to dump all his old friends (male or female) for you, until he learns to trust you.
2007-04-14 01:09:00 · answer #5 · answered by jimanddottaylor 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk with him about this. You will not get the answer on Y/A. Clear communication will get you the answer, and you need one.
2007-04-14 01:05:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋