i think my friends are turning against me because ever since this guy that supposedly likes me my friends have been getting really mad at me. one of my friends even said man i wish you would go away so that guy wont follow you...(yeah some friend huh?)
first i thought she was jealous then they told me they didn't like him because hes mean to them but hes not mean to me and i really don't know what to do. ......im so lost im losing my friends and i haven't done a thing! and then today my two friends after school i was talking to him then the boy that liked me came to talk to me and when i turned around they were leaving me there all by myself.... then i got so mad i felt so hurt i thought i was about to break then i went up to them and i said why did you guys leave me there! and they said because we don't like him and then they said whenever you around him were leaving.....(how could they do this to me).
2007-04-13 16:35:22 · 22 answers · asked by beautiful_yet_sad 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
They obviously don't like the guy. Ask your friends why they don't like him. Do you like him? If you do, take a clue and believe what your friends say. If you don't, tell him to piss off. Well, okay, not that harshly, but tell him to leave you alone. It really is a simply matter. Good luck!
2007-04-13 16:42:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are doing this to you because they are cruel. I know it's easy to say, 'Find new friends' because in truth, it may be hard. There are a lot of feelings there. But they are making you choose between him and them. It's cruel to force that kind of choice on someone. Also, it's THEM (more than one) against YOU (just one person) and that's not an even match either.
You could try to make some progress with the problem by explaining to the guy that your friends think he's mean to them. Let him try to bend over backwards to be extra nice to them, for no other reason than to help you with your problem. Tell him that you always feel forced to choose between him and them when they don't think he likes them. You might be surprised - he might say he really doesn't like them at all!
Then you will know that the choice is pretty clear. And you can make it at least knowing why the choice is there to make.
2007-04-20 19:55:03 · answer #2 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you are overlooking the fact that you maybe like this guy so much that he is in fact mean to your friends when you aren't around and they are upset because you aren't believing them when they were there for you before he came around. I think that maybe this guy is being rude to them and that usually indicates that he is trying to make you and your friends argue, therefore making you fight with each other, and then splitting as friends, leaving you all to himself and that means he has a controlling personality. I have had a similar experience and this is how it turned out, however in the long run, ( in about 3 years, after a long +bad+ relationship he and I broke up) my friends were the ones who were really there for me all along.
2007-04-14 00:05:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off they are not your friends because friends don't act that way.They are two back stubbing jealous girls you just hang around, there is a big different between acquaintances
and friends, and they are the kind of friends that will hurt you in the end .I bet they make fun of you when your not around.
The only reason they are walking away when you are with that guy is because he likes you and not them and they can't stand that so they are trying to get you to not talk to him. If he
was to go with one of the girls they would go with him in a second and leave you behind.
2007-04-14 00:24:43 · answer #4 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the guy that is following you has turned your friends against you... so you and your friends wont be much of friends any more like before this guy came in the picture thats why his mean to your friends and not you..........if you dont want to lose your friend tell the guy you are not interested and to back off.......and save your friendship with your friends befor you have noone........his not a nice guy if his turning your friends on you........friends will always be there but you will always find other guys to be with.....keep you friends......get rid of the guy........you just cant see what he is doing.......thats why your friends are telling you that his mean to them and that if your around him your friends leave you .........you really need your friends more then this guy.......think about what i have said i hope you make the right decision.........if you need more help you can ask me
2007-04-13 23:50:22 · answer #5 · answered by badgirlforlife007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When your the 1 in the relationship, sometimes you can be blinded. Your friends are on the outside looking in and can sometimes see possible damage that may happen. Don't put off what your friends say. Keep your eyes and ears open. Just because hes not mean to you now doesn't mean he never can be.
2007-04-21 07:47:35 · answer #6 · answered by sheena k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I bet there's been a problem of mis-communication, gossip can harm people so badly. I'd say: get together for a meal or so and talk it out. From experience, that's always worked. After all, guys come and go but your true friends will always be in your life.
2007-04-13 23:42:38 · answer #7 · answered by natiasis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, either their jealous, or the guy is rude? Which is it? If your bf is rude, and chasing all your friends away, you need to ask him to be nice, that it is upsetting you. If he cares about you, he will do what you ask. If the girlfriends are just acting immature, than I would just ignore them, maybe they will come around. Girls start to act like this when guys start to pay attention to some girls, and ignore others. I think girls are just being immature. Good luck either way..
2007-04-13 23:43:56 · answer #8 · answered by sue d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG that is mean. They're your friends! They shouldn't act like that even if they hate him. In a way, i do think that they might be jealous because maybe they're thinking why does he like her and not us? Maybe that's what they're thinking and they're just jealous. If you want your friends, i think you should get the guy away from you. Sorry.
2007-04-13 23:42:24 · answer #9 · answered by Missy Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time for you to question this guy who likes you. Apparently your friends have some sort of past interaction with this guy and you need to investigate on what's going on?
Until you are able to solve this problem it is best that you request to limit your visit with this guy. Explain to him the situation and you need to clarify why your friends consider him to be mean?
God Bless
2007-04-14 00:21:20 · answer #10 · answered by tony 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋