me and my boyfriend always of an "argument" over who should pay for things...we always spend more time arguing on who's going to pay at the register than it should usually take...so who pays...girl, guy, or both...?
2007-04-13 16:27:57 · 44 answers · asked by Emilie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would never let a guy pay for everything. Why is that fair that he should have to pay for everything? I always paid for 1/2 of everything when I dated the boyfriend that is now my husband of 12 years. I still chip in my 1/2 because I work, too. It's just respecting a friend I guess.
2007-04-13 16:32:50 · answer #1 · answered by sugarbud 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
honestly i think it should be 50/50 but in todays world most of the time the guy will pay
but with big things like plane tickets you should all the way unless he invited you
and you should alwase have a check or a credet card or some money in case anything goes wrong
oh but if he never pays or olny pays about 40 precent of the time he dosn't like you or he just wants to **** you
but its prettty much a sign that hes not a good guy for you
unless hes really por broke in debet or somthing like that
2007-04-13 16:35:33 · answer #2 · answered by help 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you've been dating long enough to share burdens, then you should split it.
There are different ways of doing this though. One can pay first, and then spilt the bill with the other in the car.
Or you could take turns. He pays one day, you pay the next.
But PLEASE don't do the "I'll pass my entire paycheck to you and you'll administer our expenses" thing. Unless you're married, of course.
I think as long as you both understand that the bill has to be split, it should be ok.... Just don't have the waiter standing there while you both go, "OK, you had the steak, but we shared the salad, so that works out to be...."
2007-04-13 16:43:08 · answer #3 · answered by Hulabaloola 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
relies upon how long they have been mutually. I recommend, on the initiating of a courting, i think of that's frequently occurring for a guy to pay. Or if he develop into the only which asked her to the flicks, then he ought to pay, and vice versa. yet as quickly as they have been mutually for a mutually as, i think of that's greater helpful in the event that they chop up costs, or pay their very very own, or perhaps one in each and every of them treats the countless time. however if a they do no longer continuously chop up the fee, a woman ought to a minimum of furnish. Realtionships are a supply-and-take undertaking, and each and each ought to be keen as a fashion to make that realionship artwork. yet you need to submit to in suggestions that each and each woman is distinctive. some have self assurance that the guy ought to pay continuously. in my opinion, i do unlike men paying for me. i could enable them to for the 1st date, and probable the 2nd, yet i like no longer feeling as though i'm based too lots on their wallet. Peace --Tamberlinn
2016-12-29 08:45:47 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both.
Take turns, at least.
Heck, I don't think I've spent more than $100 on the girl I've been dating for the last 3 months, and she hasn't spend that much on me (excluding gifts and such for both of us).
If money is a problem for you and your boyfriend, maybe you should talk it out and reach some sort of compromise before something silly like this stains your relationship.
2007-04-13 16:31:51 · answer #5 · answered by Alex 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Have you heard of the give and take relationship? Since you're a couple, you share not only with the responsibilities but the expenses too. Talk about taking turns when it comes spending money.
2007-04-13 16:37:13 · answer #6 · answered by thatsraven 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The guy definitely. He doesn't have to pay ALL the time, but the first date and the few following. It is courteous and thats how men used to do it "way back when" because men usually brought home the money and food, since women did not have rights back then.
2007-04-13 16:31:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Take turns if it's this big of a deal. Or, find out who can most easily afford to pay. Like if you had a lot of bills one week, then it would be nice if your boyfriend picked up the tab, and vice versa. Also, if you made the plans and picked the place it would be nice if you paid. If he made the plans and picked the place, it would be nice if he paid.
2007-04-13 16:31:05 · answer #8 · answered by Jas 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I pay. I'm the sugar mama lol.
I think you should discuss who's paying for what before you leave the house. Try & take turns so one doesn't feel like he/she is paying most of the time.
2007-04-13 16:35:09 · answer #9 · answered by Sunshine Queen 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its considered to be the man who pays as a general rule of a gentleman. If it bothers you that much tell him you would like to pay every now and then and agree upon who gets to pay before you get to the register.
-NmD!
2007-04-13 16:31:55 · answer #10 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋