do i need to do it, because he said so.?

Question

im secretly angry at my brother for always telling me im ugly because im not skinny, not sexy,and the more he tells that the more i feel the urge to eat and really i do loose my self worth, and because my brother says that i suddenly start to believe that indeed all men are shallow, and that men would only love women with perfect bodies, like i always here my cousins, that woman would have been beautiful if she were not fat, like most of the men i know wouldnt even look at you twice if you are not skinny enough, im not really that big huge woman, i fit in my clothes, i know i look great, i have admirers and a couple of women told me they want to look like me,
you see i dont want to diet just because my brother says i have too so that men would like me more, i dont want to be a slave with what men wants, i want to be liked and loved for me, i mean i can get thinner and all, i can enroll in a gym, but i would remain the same person hateful of myself.

Answer 1

No don't diet. If you are happy within your skin, don't listen to your brother. If you're getting compliments from other people, then he could just be jealous, or just mad at you for something else ands using this to push your buttons.
Men out there like all different types so so what if your brother doesn't think you're all that? Relax, there are probably plenty who will!

Answer 2

NO!!! Like yourself for who you are, don't let others tell you otherwise!! If your brother thinks that then thats his opinion and you shouldn't let it bother you!! and no offense he's being a big jerk!! if you know you look great and you're fine with the way you are, then continue being that person that u are!! never change for anyone! the man who will fall in love with you in the end will love you for who you are no matter how you look, he'll learn to appreciate what's inside!! remember beauty comes from the inside, not the outside!! I know many girls who are chubby or fat and they are beautiful and have found someone of their own!! if i were you i wouldnt listen to your brother!! just because they are shallow and they don;t know a word of what their saying dosn';t mean every guy out there is just like them!! and if you feel you want to improve yourself then, go for it but don;t take it to the extreme!!! hope i helped!!

Answer 3

Be true to yourself and to HELL with the crap your brother has been feeding you!!! There are lots of men out there that like Healthy women. I know some large women & their men who are extremely happy with their size.
If you feel good about yourself then don't worry about what other small minded people say! That is one of the many things wrong with our country now, look at all the bolimic and anorexic women in our society. As long as you are healthy and your size is not a danger to you physically, tell your brother that not ALL men have pea-brains like he does. And that not all men judge a woman by her body but by the mind & personality inside of it. It's really sad that he can't be one of them!!

Answer 4

Your brother is not the expert on all men. There are actually some mature men out there who like personality over looks.
And I'm sure you're a great looking girl....I bet your brother says those things because he's insecure about the way he looks. Maybe girls don't like him so he decided to take his anger out on you.
Don't put any value into his opinions...he's just saying them to make himself feel better. Tell him to shut up and pay attention to his own life. And tell him how his words hurt you.

Answer 5

The best you can do for you is to be your own person. A brother is not supposed to 'look' at his sister as 'needing' to be attractive to men. It is part of their role to look after their sister/s and protect them.
If you are happy with you that is all that is important, what any one else thinks is their business and has nothing to do with you.
Being naturally thin is okay for those who are. People who diet are causing themselves harm. A study conducted on people who have dieted and those who didn't showed that dieters always regain their weight plus extra.
To be happy and healthy is the best you can do for you.
Just tell your brother he is not being respectfull to you and to mind his own business as everyone else likes you as you are. And he should be proud of you.
Be true to you and you will be happy.

Answer 6

I don't feel it's proper of a brother to tell his sister if she is sexy, fat, phat, skinny...I mean, what does a brother care what his sister looks like? Really...gross. I'd tell him to SHUT the heck up, does he have a perfect body? I doubt it. Just ignore him. Tell your parents that he makes you feel bad with all this BS he keeps feeding you. I'd never let my sons treat their sister like that if I knew about it. I hate it when a person degrades a person to break down their self esteem/worth.

Answer 7

Its not all men, its just your sick brother. He is probably trying to hurt you on purpose and is succeeding. its called abuse. if he is making u this angry now for the suffering your doing, imagine in years to come when u think back at how feeling shitty about yoruself and ruined your life and stuff. stay away from him dont talk to him if possible. hes disgusting

Answer 8

Don't diet to please a man. Not even your brother. Do it for yourself or don't do it at all. It is our jobs to take care of ourselves. But if someone loves you, then weight shouldn't matter unless it is a health concern. Love yourself before you can love anyone else.

Answer 9

your brother sounds like a real sweety....not...there is someone for everyone,and if a person cannot see your worth thru the weight you definetly do not need them. and this includes your a..hole brother.what ever happened to brotherly love

Answer 10

Your brother is beginning a very bad
habit--that is--demeaning females.
The only one he has to worry about is
himself. Tell him to keep his mouth off
you! What do your parents do about this? I would not speak to him until he
apologizes.