why am i failing??

Question

i am a very smart person but within the last year my grades have dropped ALOT! i have been under ALOT of stress. last janurary my father passed away. last july my uncle who i was very close with passed away. he was my mums lil bro. and 3 days after he passed away my mum had a heart attack. last september my best friend got into a car accident and died. also in the beginning of september my mum and i moved across canada. like 2 provinces from where we were. in october my best friends moved out west. my grades are very poor now. i was very depressed and i use to sleep for days because i was always upset. i have missed so much school i was kicked out. but im back in now. im seeing a therapist, and taking medication for my anxiety and depression. my mum and i always argue alot. and that causes me to have panic attacks. and i tell her i cant take it anymore. now we think she may die because there is something wrong with her liver.
anyways tell me what u think.
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Answer 1

You've answered your own question.

I would suggest that you just do the best you can under the trying circumstances you're experiencing and accept the fact that you may have to repeat the year.

With everything going on in your life, its a wonder you can function at all.

Good luck.

Answer 2

you are obviously under a huge amount of stress and experiencing tremendous grief and have severe worries about your future!! i think you should see a counsellor or psychologist. this is a lot to bear for any one person. one death is too much let alone multiple and the health concerns with your mum. plus you have moved. people have moved that you know. gosh its like an emotional hurricain has landed on you and not just any old one-katrina. please go and speak with someone professional, you need to lessen the load that you are carrying. i am not suggesting that they can physically change thing but they may be able to give you some coping mechanisms. and you may be surprised at what unloading can actually do for your head space. i am so sorry you have had to lose so many people that you care for at souch a young age. you are quite remarkable to cope as well as you are. stress is what is behind your grades. at the moment there is no room in your over filled mind for the study it would seem. oh i am sorry you are seeing a therapist it is late here-4.10am and my eyes are hanging out. keep doing what you are doing and again what has happened is a really cruel call i can only imagine that the universe has great things in store for you. best wishes.

Answer 3

OH! MY GOD!!! You have every right to feel the way you do!!! Everyone you love seems to be leaving you behind!! You have to give yourself permission to grieve how can you possibly do well in school with all this stuff on your mind!!! You have to take it one day at a time!!! Try writing it down how your feeling like a daily journal sometimes just trying to cope with one feeling at a time. If you see it in print maybe you can start to make sense of what is happening. Everyone dies sooner or later that's part of life and the living have to go on!! What would the people who have passed want you to do? Do you really think they would want you to suffer the way you are??? try asking yourself that every time you start having dark thoughts!!!! I know they cared deeply for you like you cared for them but wallowing in depressing thoughts will only make you sick!! Your still young and have alot of experiences to go though yet not all bad! Have you heard the expression S**t Happens!!! It's so true!! You have to pick yourself up and start living again!!! Get dressed and go out do something even if it's just going for a walk!!! Remember the good times ,that will keep your loved ones alive in your heart!! I would never wish I had never known the people that had passed so I wouldn't feel this way!!! I look back on the fun times we had together and there will be more to come I promise you that!!! Stop worry about school so much you can make it up when your feeling better there's lots of time you have nothing but time!!! Your Mother may pass on as well and she is sick at heart too that is why you two argue so much. She can't feel your pain just like you can' feel hers. Give yourself a break from her you don't need to see her every day for her to know you love her!!!

Answer 4

I feel what you mean, maybe not the same situations but I understand. Last year I got pregnant with my 1st kid for the third time w/ my bf of 6 yrs. Then before we were to get married he had a mental break down. Then I found out that the baby may be sick, and I was in danger as well. So a sick fiance' and a child that may not live, on top of school, and a family that disapproved of my situation for what ever their many reasons were. Pressure, sadness, and emotions I have never felt were so deep; tears couldn't even begin to express how i felt. when it all seemed to get worse I just gave it all to God. I prayed and tried to have faith in the Lord. I tried to keep in mind that the Lord would never give me a situation that I (and him, God) couldn't handle. you have to believe it. speak it to yourself--proclaim that God will do just what he says. remember he has a plan for you and that he loves you!!! trouble doesn't last always. my bf is still rather sick and b/c of this he doesn't come around much, but our son was born healthy and is doing well, I'm not sick any more. And I still have faith in God to restore my bf's mind and my family.

Answer 5

You have made a big step here in expressing yourself. You no doubt have gone thru a lot of stress. You are doing the right things by getting help with the stress. It may take some time for you to get the relief that you need from the medication.
It seems you Mom is your life and now you are worrying about her life too. Try to remember every day to be thankful for a good Mother and try to be very respectful toward her. We are lucky to have those who love us and to have some one to love too. You can change your attitude and behavior by being more loving toward her. God Bless you.

Answer 6

You have had many traumatic experiences. I`m 14 and have anxiety and depression too. I experience panic attacks as well. My grades are dropping because i give up on life, i just ten to not care anymore. email me.. we can talk and i would love to try to help you.

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