my bf & i had problems coz he's christian & i'm not, he's been trying to get me into believing god, but i felt so much pressure that i said some regretful things to him, like i why can't he accept me as i am. it's not like i don't accept god but i really want to do it on my own & not because of him. i love him. but now he's telling me that his feelings for me hasn't changed yet (no feelings). i really want to know how can i find those lost feelings again. we were almost getting to the marriage stage and i find it so disappointing for such a thing to separate us. what can i do to save our relationship?
2007-04-13 14:34:03 · 5 answers · asked by silver 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like your value systems are way too different. He can't make you more religious...and you shouldn't try and make him less. If you can't accept each other for who you are, then you are better off apart.
Sorry.
2007-04-13 14:38:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have troubles with the relationship now, think of what it would be if you and him were married. Jeesh! I had the same situation, hun. Except I do have spiritual beliefs that were different than his. I got tired of his wanting to argue and dumped him. He was a jerk. There are other great guys out there, so don't feel so bad. He wants you to convert to his beliefs, and what's the sense in it, if you don't believe the way he does? Someone else will come along who has more understanding.
2007-04-13 21:40:05 · answer #2 · answered by Suzie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to sit down with him and explain that you don't want to be pressured into something ...you want to do it when you feel you're ready to. Explain your perception of God* etc. ask him to explain his side of it. Communication Honesty and Trust are the three keys to a long healthy relationship* without those you have nothing. Tell him you don't want this to destroy your relationship and you want to talk this through with him openly and work this out~ He may not fully understand why you don't believe in his beliefs..you can explain to him what you're feeling etc.
GOODLUCK*~
2007-04-13 21:42:32 · answer #3 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well talk to him let him no how you feel and that when he kept talking to you about it you felt pressured and that you werent or arent ready for that but you still care for him and love him
2007-04-13 21:38:11 · answer #4 · answered by cutelilme 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
help him accept u for who u are.
2007-04-13 21:38:43 · answer #5 · answered by roselande s 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋