Adults: Have you ever decided to cut all ties with a parent, change your # without warning, etc.?

Question

I am so there.

P.S. Just my dad, who does not live with my mom. My mom rocks, and I would say that even if she wasn't on my Answers contacts list. (Hi Mom)

Answer 1

They've avowed to 'disown' me on numerous occasions, from the time I was a child, based upon things like wanting to visit a friend on my 17th birthday to failing a math test when I was 10 to the fact that I quit college and didn't do exactly what they told me to do in my 20s. I am in my early 30s now. I had to ties for a few months, for my own sanity, a couple of years ago. Once I had built up some defenses and could see them as limited I started talking to them much more often. My mother, especially. She calls nearly every day now. I'm crazy about her but I'm not anywhere near as VULNERABLE to her. I've made it quite clear that I will hang up the phone if the verbal lacerations commence. I've done it many times now. I always don't upset as quickly. In accepting their limitations I can understand why they are the way they are more.

Why? Bob cuttin' out? Growing up too fast? Getting too tall? ;-)

Answer 2

I have cut ties with my father about 2 months ago. I am an adult, legally for about 15 years now! He was just too disturbed for me to deal with normally. I was just left emotionally exhausted, and the time we spent together was pained and dragged on. It hurts, still. No one wants to be estranged from mom or dad. But sometimes, it is the only way to be healthy mentally. My brothers still maintain some contact, so I will know how he is doing. Sometimes, parental relationships are better at a distance. Don't feel guilty about preserving your own sanity. You are the ultimate authority when it comes to what you can handle. Cut ties if you must. You can always repair them. Parents are always very flexible when it comes to their children. Just be honest, open, and yourself.

Answer 3

As an adult you can do this. Think of how you would feel if your child does this to you. My daughter has not seen or spoke to me in 9 years and it has hurt me more than I thought anything could. I would do anything to make things right but that isn't good enough. The years tick by, i get older she gets older she has never seen her nephew, her grandparents are now 79 years old and they miss her so much. Don't do this!!! Find a way to resolve whatever problem you are having you have one set of parents and they will be there for you always, can you guarantee that with anyone else in the world?

Answer 4

honestly not Bruce. Jesus demands Obedience to his Commandments. The Commandments are a transcript of God's character. God is the author of his Holy regulation(Exodus 31:18). His regulation is a Revelation of God's will to mankind. to regulate the regulation may well be such as changing God. The Bible says "i'm the Lord thy God, i regulate not." God Holy regulation is immutable. guy would not have the flexibility to regulate God's phrases in any way. we are obligated by using God to maintain his Commandments. The regulation of God is Holy, only and sturdy(Romans 7:12). The regulation of God is the two eternal and known and it is been prevalent perpetually(Romans 3:31). Jesus reported that he did not come to smash the regulation(Matthew 5:17-18). Jesus magnified the regulation. He raised the extreme ethical widespread of the regulation while he lived between adult adult males. people who get carry of Christ into their coronary heart and shop his Commandments will stay perpetually while Christ returns the 2nd time. specific observe: a million John 2:4 a million John 5:3 Revelation 12:17 Revelation 14:12 Revelation 22:14

Answer 5

Yes, I moved 750 km's away. It was the best decision I ever made. I will never regret it. She has cut us out of her life, but mostly, I am happy about that. There is something not mentally right about her, but no one can fix that but herself and she doesn't want to. Adult children need to live for their own families, not their parents. I have friends who's parents won't let them grow up, even decide what city they need to live in. I think its selfish. My 2 cents.

Answer 6

I've actually done this before. After my Grandma died I severed ties with my dad's side of the family. Unfortunately, they found me anyway. My old landlord told my Uncle, Aunt, and cousins where I had moved to (he had helped me move). They didn't know the actual address, just the building description and that I had a brown gate. When they got on my block, they each went the 3 buildings that fit the bill. Mine was the one in the middle. They were ringing bells and calling my name. When I came down and opened the door my cousin said "uh huh, you didn't think we were gonna find your ***". It was so embarrasing!

Answer 7

I did two weeks. To make a long story short after nasty emails and such I decided the best thing to do is remove myself from the situation. It is hard,however not receiving the nasty emails and such makes me feel a little better. As a parent myself, I hope that will ever happen between my children and me. I would never think to say such mean things to my child. I would not want them to feel the way I feel.

Answer 8

Honestly, it depends on the reason why you are doing what you are doing. Sometimes it's the best thing to do, such as when they bring forth bad memories from a chilhood (like childabuse ect.) But it may also be worth it to talk about it. Nothing people can say will change your mind. But sometimes, it's worth it to consider the options.

Answer 9

My parents are two of my best friends. One of my fondest memories is, several years ago, sitting at the dinner table with them, my little sister, boyfriend, and grandparents, coming up with ways to turn "Harry Potter and the Sorcerer's Stone" into porn titles. Sorry if you've got lame parents, but I'm sure they mean well.

Answer 10

Well me and my parents have butted heads many times over the years but completely cutting them off has never been something I would have ever done. I'm not sure what your situation is with them so it's possible that you might have to. Are they borrowing money or doing something else to take advantage of you? Please give more details.