He disapears every friday for about three hours at night,my mom is at work so she dosen't know when he leaves,about 6 months ago I called my mom and told her that he wasn't there and it was already 12:00am.Then my mom called him and asked him were he was,he got mad at me and came screaming in my room asking me why I had called my mom and told her he wasn't there,I didn't answer him and just ignored him,ever since I have told my mom when he leaves but I have asked her to please not tell him I told her.Last week I was brave enough to tell my mom in front of him that he had left for hours and I didn't know were he was,he got really mad at me and didn't talk to me for a while.Another thing that is suspicious about him is that he dosen't let me even open his cellphone,and I'm starting to think that he's hiding something in there.My mom also thinks he's cheating on her,but dosen't tell him anything ,do you think he's cheating on her???
2007-04-13 13:34:06 · 21 answers · asked by *Lime~~~~~Green* 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
STAY OUT OF IT, this is between your mom and dad, If you notice this chances are your mom notices it and more, so you need to let her handle it. There is no way your dad will admit it to you or stop if you confront him, all it will do is make a bad situation worse, because his guilt most likely will be masked with anger and he will lash out at you, and if you tell your mom then she may be embarrassed for wanting to stay with your cheating dad, like a lot of married woman do who don't want to throw away years of hard work building a family. So as hard as it will be stay out of it!
2007-04-13 14:06:13 · answer #1 · answered by moks 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are in a horrible situation. You're caught between your parents and that's never a fun thing to do.
I've never been in your situation, but a lot of my parent's friends are getting divorced because the guy was cheating. I do think that he is cheating on your mom. I think you should sit down and talk with you mom about (to sound all shrink-like) how you feel and what sort of effect this is having on your life.
Your dad is only mad because he knows that what he's doing is wrong, and that makes people defensive. Your mom should do something, like suggest marriage counseling, but that may be hard for her. To hear it from you could help.
I'm so sorry that you have to deal with this. If you have more questions or just need someone to talk to, I'm here and you can always email me.
2007-04-13 20:53:54 · answer #2 · answered by bookworm1317 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless your dad is the type to plan really great surprises (like a special birthday party or anniversary gift) that entail a lot of in-person consultations, he's doing something fishy. And your mom is aware of it. If your mom doesn't feel the need to confront him about it, just let it slide. Keep an ongoing list of when he's goes out unexpectedly, when he returns so if your mom ever asks you, you have it all written down. It is not your job to spy on your father (or your mother). You've informed your mom what's been happening, leave it at that. No use antagonizing your dad against you since you don't have any solid proof. Let the adults handle their own relationship; that's their job, not yours. If your mom asks you to continue to keep her informed, just nicely tell her you'll keep a list of his comings and goings but tell her you don't want him attacking you because of these reports, she's going to have to find another way of letting him know she is on to him. Your dad already knows you (and probably your mom) suspect him. That's enough. Step aside and don't get caught in their games.
2007-04-13 21:16:48 · answer #3 · answered by Inundated in SF 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it but yeh I do think he is. I know its hard but if he gets mad at you for telling your mom (his wife) that hes leaving when she has every right to know than somethings going on there, and if any man snatches a phone from you or keeps it close to his hip and doesn't let you go through it then theres something going on there. I really feel for your mom cheating is the worst way to hurt someone well that and a few other things but keep your head up and I know you probably want to hate your dad but try not to.... GoodLuck
2007-04-13 20:40:11 · answer #4 · answered by sweetninnocent86 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What I advice the most, is keeping quiet. These problems usually get solved by the adults in the relationship. ( I know during this someone will cry)
I suggest you keep quiet. You might say something you really didnt want to say. Im not saying dont tell your mom. But dont talk about it around your dad.
Trust me... :)
2007-04-13 20:40:22 · answer #5 · answered by Ale! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he could possibly be cheating....but never assume* You will need to leave this with your mom to figure out.....you've let her know...she now has the doubts and suspicions..he will have to answer to her...Just keep your eyes and ears open.....and leave it to ur mom to find out.
Confronting your dad could get pretty tense*...but if you feel you need to, then do so, with your mom as a witness so he doesn't harm you*.......GoodLucK*
2007-04-13 20:41:03 · answer #6 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every thursday on my way to work I listen to 104.1 KRBE, its a local Houston radio station, well they have this segment called Roulas Roses. The point of the segment is to find out if a male is cheating on his lady or vice versa. Roula calls the guy or lady offers roses to send to anyone with a little greeting...it has really worked for many people.
2007-04-13 20:39:09 · answer #7 · answered by country4u05 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey, for the time being, leave it to your mom. It sounds like she's aware of the situation, so she's probably got it under control. She might not confide in you about things because she's trying to protect you. Just try to be there for her.
Also, try not to choose sides. They are both your parents, and everyone makes mistakes. Hopefully he'll evaluate himself, be ashamed of himself, and stop.
2007-04-13 21:13:05 · answer #8 · answered by Zuker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow you are one bad kid. That isn't really what I want to call you but you get the idea.
It's not your place to get between your parents or spy on your dad. This is between them and them only. You are the child, not the parent. When someone rats you out, remember what you did to your dad. You don't know what is going on, but you have caused heart ache and pain to your parents...both of them. Your father was right to be mad at you, he should do even more to you than just be mad as you deserve it.
Karma will pay you back for being a bad daughter. Remember this when it bites you on the ...
2007-04-13 20:41:14 · answer #9 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
this could get ugly--seems like you are being asked to choose between mom and dad which could be a tough situation for you...I hope you can find someone trustworthy(outside the immediate family) to talk this over with
2007-04-13 20:40:44 · answer #10 · answered by njyogibear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋