My husband is gone alot due to his job. We made an agreement with our 17y/o son to do the extra things around the house that his dad would do and if he did he could drive the extra vehicle as much as he needed to. My husband has decided that our son is not holding up his end of the deal because things aren't being done as my husband would do them. Things are getting done, like trash to the curb, oil changes in the cars, fixing things around the house, etc..My husband dosen't think there is more than one way to do something, it's his way or no way (With certain things). So he is taking the keys to our 3rd vehicle. I don't agree with him. Our son is doing a great job. He has dropped his plans to get something fixed around the house on more than one occasion. Our 15y/o daughter overheard the conversation and said that wasn't fair because our son does do what he is supposed to. So now my husband is VERY angry and is saying that we are babying our son. Never had this problem before.
2007-04-13 13:27:31 · 6 answers · asked by leigh J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
That's so sad.. YOur husband needs to grow up* and understand what a great job your son is doing*, and having to change plans to make sure things are fixed ...it's not his job to do your husbands jobs....but he is doing them. How ungrateful your husband is to his son* WoW*........I reallly feel for your son. Perhaps this will now cause a major rift between father and son> the son must feel he isn't appreciated at all by his father when all he's doing is trying to make his father be proud of him and let him know what a good job he's doing while the father is away.
Your husband needs to think what it is that 's really bothering him.....is it , the son is doing a great job, and your hubby feels HE should be there doing it??? there's something more to it .....ask him what his problem is and stand up for your son and what a great job he's doing~! That you are PROUD OF HIM and he deserves the car* and take the keys back from your husband.
GOODLUCK*
2007-04-13 13:51:52 · answer #1 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband that you are the person in need of all this help since your husband is away a lot. Tell him since you are the person needing this help, it is your opinion that counts, not his. It sounds like he could feel threatened by his son's performing these little jobs around the house. The fact that your son changes plans so he can get chores done makes him a keeper in my book. Tell your husband to take a deep breath and loosen the reins. Your husband may be VERY angry and that is his big fat old ego talking when he's angry. But - here's the problem when dad micromanages tasks and he's away - you suffer because of it. Not him. It will be you who watches your son rebel and feel crushed by the criticism and give up doing the work. Why should he? Your husband is not unlike those horrid stories of bosses who run around the office ranting and raving about the copy machine using too much toner. Ask him if he doesn't have better problems to worry about!
2007-04-17 12:50:36 · answer #2 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to stand up to your husband. especially since you run the house. since he's gone working and your tending to the house, work should be done to your standards not his. and if you say your son is doing great then you should be able to give him the reward you see fit (car keys). even if that means making an extra set.
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