My girlfriend and I recently broke up. The underlining reason of this being that she wanted to get back in touch with herself spiritually and felt that she had been ignoring a large part of herself in being with me (I claim no religion). Also know that I love her.
So my question is, should I explore sharing her religion even though I would be completely modivated by my love of her and not of God?
SUBQUESTION: I never asked her to put her morals or ethics on the shelf for me...so why do I get the shaft?
Is it better to burn out or to fade away?
2007-04-13 13:16:54 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm sort of your polar opposite, in the sense that I eagerly embrace pretty much every religion (for their essence, not their dogma anyway). So I'd encourage you to explore her religion with her. If anything you'd probably be a catalyst for a lot of growth on her part, since going through it together, you'd obviously take a lot of different stuff away from the experience.
A lot of religions might have a laugh at your connundrum, loving her, and not God...since as you love one another so have you loved God. It's kind of at the core of a lot of spiritual teaching, that loving God doesn't happen at the exclusion of love for anyone else in particular. Love isn't a currency that anyone owes anyone... it's just a way of being in the world.
On the matter of your subquestion... typically, what instigates a turn toward spiritual investigation and nurturing is a lack of spiritual and emotional clarity.
It's the same sort of thing as fasting... the idea is to refrain from indulging in our attatchments and to step away from comforts in order to see more clearly. In emotional relationships it's often difficult to see the forrest for the trees. It's unlikely that you're really an obstacle to her spiritual life, but it's difficult to be sure without taking a step back to evaluate things.
-Rob
2007-04-13 13:30:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you really love her and can't imagine losing her, then ask her about religion. You don't need to be a hipocrite but it won't hurt you to listen. You know many people say they don't believe in God but as soon as someone they love has been in an accident and barely alive, then they start praying to God for help. You know what? After you have been around her and her religion, you may just start believing in God. Good Luck and don't let her get away just yet. Give it a try, it won't hurt you.
2007-04-13 13:21:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is always a good idea to explore who God is, even if it isn't for the best reason. I know that I am dating a guy who is not as into church as I am and it is a very draining experience. Mostly because, although he believes in God and has faith in him, his morals are not completely the same as mine. So I am in this constant struggle of who is more important to me, him or God.
2007-04-13 13:29:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say that if you love her so much, you could be motivated by loving her, and at the same time not lying to her by faking your interest in her religion. (trust me, girls don't like it when they find out). in trying to explore her beliefs (Christianity, I'm guessing) you might find something within yourself that will always last as well as how much you really love her. keep digging and maybe you'll find religion yourself. this will definitely show that you care - about her and about your relationship. that will mean a lot to her, and it could give YOU two good things to have, if you understand. this is merely something to think about and maybe consider. i wish you good fortune in your decision making and the path your decision leads to.
2007-04-13 14:18:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is better that you stay. Believe it or not, that could be God's way of calling you too. But yeah, don't go. Don't leave what you love.
2007-04-13 13:33:21 · answer #5 · answered by Brownie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well going to church and knowing God may save you life well if you love her as you say go for it if it dos not work well that's the way it has to be
2007-04-13 13:25:32 · answer #6 · answered by overhills 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unless you really believe what she believes, dont change cuz u wana be with her, and even if u do change, i dont think shell really appreciate it unless u really believe in God, if u really love her and if u really WANT TO CHANGE, then try it, but dont change unless u mean it
2007-04-13 13:23:04 · answer #7 · answered by jenny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you dont believe in God, let her go so she can find someone that does feel like she feels
2007-04-13 13:19:12 · answer #8 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to high to care right now
2007-04-13 13:20:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋