I recently emailed my bf n asked whether he was happy being with me and all and that i always picture him happier with another girl.its in my habit to do that for the past 3 yrs. we have been tgt for 3 yrs now coming 4th this yr.He replied me with something like i did thought of that too but he still cannot let go, in me and for me. and he said its up to me whether i want it to end or to continue. i feel quite hurt, i am like trying to salvage it and he is just letting it hang loosely?... and in the first place i did state that i didnt want it to end..things have been gettin cold, and we are drifting. the limited time we have is becoming a problem..we have been through alot the past 3 yrs. we fought through the parents objection to be together..but maybe time have neutralise everything .sometimes it doesnt feel as impt anymore...isit me or isit him?i am upset.but i cant cry. i feel like everything's bottled up inside. gosh. pls help....
2007-04-13 13:15:28 · 6 answers · asked by blacked_sheep 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well I can see why you migh be hurt because he just is all well if you want to end then its that. When really it isn't so easy to just decide when you guys been together for 3 YEARS!!!!!!
Thats a long time for like a relationship so you have been a good one because if it was me I would have been left him if he didn't like feel we should stay together.
Well yall cuz its not about me lol
2007-04-13 13:23:06 · answer #1 · answered by astateson111 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For 3 years you've been telling him you see him happier with someone else? No wonder he's drifting - you made him believe it. He would probably end it with you if it didn't make him feel bad - he probably doesn't want to hurt your feelings or something like that. I really have to ask you though what you want from him when you speak to him this way? I wouldn't like it. What game is it your playing? If you're hurt then you're hurt because you didn't get the answer you were wanting and you can't handle that. Ask yourself why it's so important for you to turn his eyes away from you and toward another? Think about it. Good luck.
2007-04-13 20:21:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him call you, start being more independent, the more you pull yourself away, he will keep returning, maybe he does need to date other girls, which is not a bad thing either, if he truly loves you let him figure that out on his own and he will come back. Guys hate it when the girl is pushy or calling all the time, by you showing him that its a good idea to split for awhile for him to decide, when we (women) show that we need them or they think they have us wrapped around their finger, it just make us chase him more, do the opposite, by putting him in this position it will make him think and probably not like the fact that you may find someone else either. He has to miss you and have his thinking process and if meant to be you will be.
2007-04-13 20:25:01 · answer #3 · answered by BuLlY LoVeR 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should break up with him, because if he doesn't care if he's going out with you, he doesn't deserve you. I know you will be hurt. But you will eventually get over it and move on. I'm think that it depends on what you want to do. From what you said it seems as if you guys are still together because it's normal. That is a common thing with long term relationships. I think you should do what you want...and follow your heart... and do what you want? <3
2007-04-13 20:28:18 · answer #4 · answered by cindy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. I keep asking the same things. My family hate him still. and sometimes he and i still get into the hugest fights. and all he ver says is that i am the one who has to say it's finished. but I have good friends who give me good advice. If you are happy, that is what counts. if he is unhappy, that has to do with him. you have to do things for you, now. and when you start doing things for you, you will start to see things looking up for both of you. when you are happy for yourself and because of simple things, then you are doing things the right way. don't be dependent on him for your happiness. if you give him that power, he has that and so much over you to hurt you and make you feel the way you are feeling right now. like you are going crazy, because you jurt so bad, andyou can feel it but can't cry,and you can feel yourself going numb so fast, and you want to talk to him and make him understand and that makes it harder and more hurtful. don't give him that power. I have given it to mine, and I am in a spot I don't want to be, but still struggling to get out. just be happy for yourself, in who and what you are, and don't let him get you down, no matter what. he will make his own decisions. and they are not in any way on you. you gotta do things because you love yourself first. once you do that, it will help your relationship go in the direction that it is meant to go, and it won't be your fault or his. good luck
2007-04-13 20:29:17 · answer #5 · answered by Angela 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um if he says its up to you then this isnt serious.. it sounds as tho u 2 need a break or a counsleor.. bored. no growth is happening.. none..
2007-04-13 20:21:14 · answer #6 · answered by gypsygirl731 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋