n now though i never cheated on him or even flirt ever...yet he thinks m a chaet...even if i sit bside a guy he gets me wrong... n so now he broke up with me...coz he thinks m sick n a chaet..n accuses me fr driving him crazy... but even now when i meet him he kisses me hugs me even makes love to me..but den says i love u n care bout u but i dont trust u..n i wont ever b with u... i'v been with him fr 5yrs now n b4 he got ill he really used to love me n pamper me a lot but now he got very rude n at times even abusiv..but his really a very nice person..i jus love him like crazy...n without him my life seems worthless n i jus wish i die sooooon...i hate to live without him...n his still a little ill...doc said he needs more counsellin but his not goin n his family is not helpin him..m worried..i love him tooo much n i jus cant deal with dis situation..m goin crazy myself..i love him more than my life...his my soul...i wish i die..
2007-04-13 12:21:31 · 8 answers · asked by shehreen m 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
No matter how much you love him, you have to ask yourself one question.
Are you happy?
If the answer is no, then it isn't going to change if you get married!!!
The only chance for your relationship is for your fiance to go for more counselling. If he refuses you must walk away and find the happiness you deserve elsewhere.
Good luck!
2007-04-13 12:33:55 · answer #1 · answered by Copper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to get back your ex is https://tr.im/l9RIB
Here's the hard part: Pretend she never existed, like it was all a dream, don't call her, that will make you the smaller person, be the bigger person since you deserve better, what she did to you on Valentines Day was immature, especially after dating for four years. This person wasted allot of your time and through it out the window. Go out tonight, even it it is only yourself, don't drink and call or feel sorry for yourself, this will only cause you embarrassment! I know your hurting..This will eventually will go away in time. Today is not a good day for you and your emotions are spinning all over the place.
Please, whatever you do, don't answer her calls and don't call her. If she keeps calling, which she pro bally won't, don't return her call for 5 days. Make her sweat and DO Not get back together right away if you discuss this in 5 days. Tell her since she Broke up with you, you have done allot of thinking, and had the taste of "being single again" and you would like more time being "friends" for now, so you are sure you are making the right decision. Remember "She decided she didn't want to be with you" so the door is open for you to get out and see what you have been missing for four years. You honestly need to do this for yourself.
She doesn't know, but what she did was give you the best valentines day present you will ever get! A new start and a new beginning, use it to your advantage. You will look back on this and Thank God this happened now instead of 4 more wasted years of YOUR life. Today does suck, stay Strong and I promise you your life is going to be so much more exciting and you are going to be happy. If you continue to call and call her, she will think of you as needy and won't want you. She is going to rethink what she did to you today and will be hurt, if you act like you could care less. Girls always want the ones they can't have. That is who you are now to her. Let her suffer,realizing what a mistake she made. This will drive her crazy. Right now she is on cloud 9 thinking you will take her back, OH, is she stupid!
Your life isn't ruined, hers is..She lost someone special, and gave you a gift to let to live life and find someone you deserve. You are not getting back at her, your teaching her what an idiot she is and what she lost and what you gained without her. SO when You eventually talk to her, tell her thank you for what she did...
She will be hurt and you will be happy!
2016-07-20 02:50:31 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get out of this relationship, and I think deep down you know it. I was in a relationship like this for 10 years and it very nearly destroyed me. It aged me and I lost all confidence and self esteem. I couldn't even make basic descisions for myself when it ended!!! I basically lost all the important years of my life (from 17 to 27) I left my ex just over 4 years ago now and the relief is amazing :) I have a new man and we live in a flat together, he is nothing like my ex and my life is so different. I can go anywhere I want, do anything I want, wear anything I want, say anything I want and most importantly I believe in myself again, and believe my opinion is as important as anyones. I has taken time and effort but the end result is priceless!!!! Do it now before it's too late...don't lose yourself :) Think of YOU :)
2007-04-14 07:12:40 · answer #3 · answered by Tluni 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have just exactly described the kind of man who becomes an abuser once you are married. To a "t." Once the marriage license is signed, the man feels like he owns you and the jealousy and possessiveness get worse and worse. Men like this are dangerous and if you value yourself, you will think long and hard about continuing your relationship with him. There is no reasoning with a person who is full of jealousy. And if you are considering suicide because you can't live without this, which sounds like a bunch of mind games, you may need professional help yourself.
2007-04-13 14:30:44 · answer #4 · answered by Amie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Want to know how to get your ex back? Change yourself. Don't worry about changing other people, worry about changing yourself. Go to https://tr.im/Jroom
Once you do that then you can start to worry about getting back together with your ex, other wise you will find that you are fighting about all the same things and getting no where. Do what it takes and I promise things will work out in your favor.
The funny thing is I came to the realization that I had to change a little too late. After I was kicked out and after I was about to lose the only things that truly mattered to me - her love. A funny thing happens when we truly love someone and lose them. We do what ever it takes to get them back. For me I had to drop bad habits that had caused not only our relationship to sour but practically every other relationship I had had in the past. Not only with women, but with friends, co-workers, family, you name it.
Which is why I say to you as my ex at the time said to me, the only thing you can do is change yourself. Work on yourself and improve on the person that you already are. Drop the negative things in your life that don't belong there and you will see all of your relationships start to take off to new heights.
2016-04-25 05:40:59 · answer #5 · answered by shaunda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm rather sorry to assert this hun, yet i imagine both of you're very undesirable for an additional's psychological health. He for sure has his own topics, and also you seem stricken by some form of co-dependency. that is large that you're seeing a therapist for this - keep doing that. i imagine that you both favor it gradual aside. there is not any way both of you receives better functional at the same time as you're nonetheless in this cycle. conform to take it gradual aside and both paintings on your topics. if you're meant to be together, you'll do much better functional once you're both in a better protect psychological position. xx Emmie p.s. his ailment isn't your fault. he's incorrect to blame you for this.
2016-11-23 18:02:21 · answer #6 · answered by delange 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget about it and move on..its the best thing you could do
feel better
and we all wish we could die sumtimes but really don't mean it so yeh just relax and try to cheer up
2007-04-13 12:26:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aaaarrrrgggh! Someone decipher this for the rest of us!
2007-04-13 12:24:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋