How do i word it in the wedding invitions that i want money as the wedding gift,without upseting anybody?

Question

asking guests for money as a wedding gift

Answer 1

There is no polite way to ask for money. It is never appropriate to tell guests what to give as a gift.

Answer 2

You can not. Can not, ask for anything other than the presence of the guest in the wedding invitation. No mention of gifts (even if it to say "no gifts") can be mentioned in an invitation. An invitation is just that: A request for your guests to attend the wedding. Mention a gift of any kind on an invitation is guaranteed to annoy people and rub them the wrong way. It also reflects quite badly on the bride and groom and the hosts of the wedding. Don't insult the intelligence of your guests by telling them what to give or not give you. Most guests at a wedding give some sort of monetary gift anyway, and if you receive an engraved cake plate or some champagne glasses instead of what you "want"...oh well.

Answer 3

Don;t do it. It is very tacky and not wedding etiquette. When you invite a person to a wedding, they are your guest. You don't dictate to a guest what kind of gift he or she should give. So forget the suptle hint on your invitation and hope for the best. On the east coast money is the thing. Wedding gifts are given mostly in the midwest and the westcoast but I believe it is changing a little.

Answer 4

You don't. That's considered extremely tacky, and horribly, horribly rude. The wedding invitation is just that, an invitation. NOWHERE on the invite should a gift preference even be noted. The way to put this info out is spreading it word of mouth. Tell your bridesmaids, family members, etc., that you'd prefer cash for a gift, but I would register for a few gifts anyway, because some people are not going to give you cash no matter how much you beg for it. Also, many stores will accept a return if it was bought off the gift registry, so you could return a gift, and get cash back (maybe--check with the store to be sure).

Answer 5

you shouldn't mention anything about gifts in the invitations. the invitations purpose is to INVITE people to come to your wedding and celebrate with you.
ettiquitte says they should send a gift but ettiquette also says you shoudl not expect gifts.
besides what id someone picked something special out for you two you don't want to ruin that fun do you?
if you want people to know you would like money instead of other gifts then you should mention it to your immediate family (mom dad siblings maybe grandparents) and wedding party. They will be able to spead the word when people ask what you'd like/need for starting out your new life. if people ask you two it's ok to say some thing like "we're saving for a house so that's really what we'd prefer" or something along the lines.
but please oh please don't ask for gifts on the first thing that guests will see for the wedding - it looks very selfish.

Answer 6

You can't. You get what you get, weddings are not supposed to be for-profit events. Some people might not give you anything. They don't have to, they're not obligated to, and some people even wait a year to see if the couple is still together before wasting money on a present. And, if the couple gets divorced, they have to give back all the gifts. Look it up in Emily Post's Wedding Etiquette.

Answer 7

You simply DO NOT. It frankly doesn't matter what you want. You and your bf are inviting guests to your wedding to witness your vows at the ceremony and celebrate with you at the reception. They are not "required" to give gifts. However, of course, most do. They would choose something they think the couple might like or might use.
You thinking of asking for money is crass, rude and tacky. You just cannot do this. If you don't want gifts at all, that is fine to say. However, you don't say you want money instead.
If you cannot afford the wedding, or the honeymoon, or whatever, simply amend your wedding plans to the budget you and your bf can afford.

Answer 8

There isn't one. Gifts are optional at a wedding, not mandatory. The point of inviting people to your wedding is to celebrate your happiness with others, not to sponge people for gifts. If they bring one, that's a great bonus. If not, then you enjoy their company. With that said, there's no polite way to tell someone what kind of "gift" you want them to give you. Good luck and best wishes.

Answer 9

Let your guests know of a large item you are saving the money for to purchase. ie a house, HDTV, tempurpedic bed or anything that has a high price tag. One of the best ways to do this is setup your own "wedding website" before you send out the invites and include a piece of paper that tells them to visit your website for gift ideas.

Explain on your site why you want money and not gifts.

Answer 10

I say just charge admission liek on a prom bid
I would word it:
Enchantment Under the Sea Wedding
Couple: $60
Stag:$40

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But seriously though you are not holding an event where you exchange food and drink for a cash or prize compensation.

It is rude to ask for money. Period.
Everyone from Miss Manners to Miss Piggy realizes that.

I supose you can have your family spread the word that your house is already set up and you don't need much at all. Then allow them to decide what they want to get you.

Answer 11

A wedding invitation shouldn't include any mention of gifts at all. It should only invite people to attend your celebration. Your gift preferences should be given by word of mouth. No matter how you word it, you're going to offend someone by insisting on money only.