My girl friend (age 20 years presently) had (ALL acute lymphoblastic leukemia).....she is 10 younger than me n she also loves me very much. She was first diagnosed in JUNE 2002...then she took chemotherapy from TATA MEMORIAL HOSPITAL of Mumbai for 2 year approx...then she came back to home after 18 months of that treatment. she got relapse. then her doctor suggested for bone marrow transplant.. n she got a BMT in July 2005 from CMC Vellore n the donor was his elder brother....now today after 20 months...she is fine except little GVHD type problem....now i want to know that what are the chances of her survival. I want to marry her so plz tell me what problems will i have to face in future. Should i marry her or not...n what r the chances of relapse...n is there any treatment to get permanently cure for this disease...n when can we say that the patient of ALL is completely cured...
i m eagerly waiting for ur reply...
so plz reply me soon....
thank
2007-04-13 11:44:42 · 19 answers · asked by sandy_1 1 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Cancer
There are NO guarantees in life. You or she could be hit by a car on your wedding day. Or any one of life's unexpected ways of dying. If you really love this woman, you would never ask this question. What? If if knew she wouldn't live more than, say 5 years...you wouldn't marry her? Jeeez. If you really love her---the previous (yes, PREVIOUS) cancer wouldn't make ANY difference to you. It would be a non-subject.
2007-04-13 11:47:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, You really need to talk to the doctors who have been treating her. There is a lot of information on the internet but trying to understand what it means is difficult. Each case can be different. One table shows a 40 to 60% survival rate for bone marrow transplant patients after 6 years. The graph is flat at that point , so it suggests that if you make it 6 years you may live a long time after that. They dont tend to talk about cures with cancer . They talk about remissions , relapses and survival rates. From the stuff on the internet it seems a particular type of bone marrow transplant has the best recovery rates. The doctor can give you a better understanding of the illness, and any restrictions there might be for the future. Good luck whatever you decide. Dont be ashamed if you decide that you cant marry the girl. It is very hard to deal with that sort of problem at a fairly young age . Do try though to be there for her as a friend .
2016-04-01 00:38:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are so many things that enrage me about you, man...the problems YOU will face?? Listen, if you wouldn't marry her because she might relapse, then I say go ahead and move on. Give her the chance to find someone else (who isn't a selfish jacka$$)to spend the rest of her life (however long) with.
2007-04-14 08:32:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Marry her if you love her and are willing to continue to honor and cherish her for the rest of her life- whether that turns out to be 1 week or 100 years... That's the idea behind for better or worse. Good luck to you both.
2007-04-13 11:53:43 · answer #4 · answered by kitkat1988 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, after losing my brother, my 3 uncles an aunt, my grandmothers some friends and my mom was diagnosed last year....I would say talk it over with her. What is it you realllly want...What would make both of you happy... albeit temporary. Remember...you will be here and her memory will be with you long after she is gone.Talk ..it is an extremely important decision as I am certain you BOTH already know. Think about the ramifications if any.
I wish both of you much love .
2007-04-13 15:19:45 · answer #5 · answered by commited7 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you loved her and wanted to spend your life with her than you wouldn't think twice about her health. Very important to stand by your love through good and bad sickness and in health. That line would be part of your marriage vows. Sooooooo if you have doubts do not get married. 51% of marriages end in divorce.
Good Luck
2007-04-13 11:53:40 · answer #6 · answered by smyles777 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What does your marriage have anything to do with her illness? She needs you and your support. What you SHOULD be doing right now is trying to get married as quickly as possible.
Best of luck
2007-04-13 12:14:35 · answer #7 · answered by s_a_b_t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do u know what marriage vows are? Through sickness and in health till death do us part... There are no promises in life. Think about what your really asking
2007-04-20 17:21:40 · answer #8 · answered by bubbawilma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry about whether or not she might have a relapse or have problems in the future. If you love each other, then do it.
2007-04-13 11:50:34 · answer #9 · answered by dancerhelen2006 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you love her and cannot imagine life without her, marry her. a few moments of true happiness is far better than a lifetime of what ifs.
2007-04-13 11:49:37 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋