they got into a terrible arguement with their sister over a will. My sister and I got into this terrible arguement when she explained that her and my mother arranged the will to be taken care of by her. She claimed she deserved the money most because she went to school and worked hard for her phd. She reminded me that I wasn't easy to live with as a kid too. She lives with my mother now even though she has her phd and must have convinced my mother to not speak to me. My mother hasn't called me or even sent me a birthday card in over a year. I refuse to give in to my mother because she has hurt me so bad. I've had a weak relationship with my mother any how because she used to verbally and physically abuse me as a child. But this really hurts that she wouldn't want to keep in touch anymore. She's old now too and I'm wondering if I will ever see her again. She even blew off my son that she claimed was her favorite grandson. Should you even say you have favorites?
2007-04-13 11:42:58 · 9 answers · asked by sweet 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Ask yourself this, will you regret it later by not contacting her now? You say she is old, and older people especially if they are counting on someone to take care of them are easily influenced. I suggest you go see your mother and tell her though you didn't always have the best relationship with her you love her and wish her well and leave your phone number and address on the night stand in a card. Then leave it be if she contacts you after then fine, if not and she passes you done all that you could and you will have no regrets.
2007-04-13 11:50:53 · answer #1 · answered by 20+ years and still in-love! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you should not have favorites...and as for your mother, she sounds like shes been a ***** her entire life and I would try to forget about her...BUT if you really want to have a relationship with your mother go over there sometime when your sis is at work and your mom is alone, even if she doesnt want you there voice your opinion and get everything out in the open (excluding the will...for now anyway) let out everything on your mind...from abuse to your son to you being afraid youll never see her again, etc. If nothing else comes from it at least youll have a clear concience. Good Luck!
2007-04-13 18:50:34 · answer #2 · answered by ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom just died and so I will try to be respectful and say that I have moved on, but she was depressed most of my childhood and my brother had some mental issues as well, since I was the oldest, i got the job of being Mother, while my Mom became the daughter. Quite confusing ot my dad, because i was doing housework and taking care of the kids and he thought i was a second wife. My schooling suffered and I never had a childhood, but one myust learn to forgive and move on with life so the bitterness does not eat away at a person and you becoems just like the person that hurt you.
2007-04-13 20:03:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are plenty of people out there in your situation, mother leave their kids all the time....almost as much as men do.
Everyone has favorites, but you should never say so.
Fight for what is yours, don't let your money grubbing sister cheat you. If she wanted to care for your mother, then great. If she did it to get more, then she didn't have a pure heart to begin with and doesn't deserve more. Be strong.
2007-04-13 18:49:55 · answer #4 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
relax-my mom is Jewish and had a funeral for me when I came to know Jesus-but we made friends again--this will help you cause it sure helped me=ok princess-get the picture-you are sweet and dont let your sister or your mom or others tell you who you are by the way they treat you. hug to you too
a prayer that helped me in this is "Jesus I am sorry for my sins, come into my heart and help me, be my friend, amen from Revelation 3:19&20 Jesus promised this too.
relax -pick up your head and do not worry-know you are wonderfull cause Jesus says you are and I agree
2007-04-13 18:47:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow. That's horrible. I can't even imagine something like that happening. Just stay strong. I don't think it's right that your mom stopped talking to you. In any case, maybe you should TRY to talk to her. After all, she is your mom, and you can't change that.
2007-04-13 19:01:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just find 'another mother', meaning like someone in your family such as an aunt or grandmother who treats you kindly and helps you.
2007-04-13 18:47:13 · answer #7 · answered by Mimí..ツ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your mom has troubles.Leave her alone for a while and think about it.Im thinking it will be fine...
2007-04-13 18:47:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that neva happened to me....but she soundsz ****** upp thoo....DAT IS RONG TO HAVE FAVORITESZZZ
2007-04-13 18:46:25 · answer #9 · answered by ABCDEFG 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋