Head of the family question?

Question

Ok this is a serious question, so first a little background on us. My husband and I have been married for 9 years and together on and off for another 6 before that. For the majority of that time I have been the leader in our family and he has been happy enough to just sit back while I make all the decisions for us. From where we live to homeschooling our children to the furniture in our home. For most of that time we have been fine. But now he has accepted a job in Romania where is father run a church, a real estate company an orphanage and a block factory and in the process of opening two more factories in other countries. It is time that for the sake of our family that I allow him to be the head of the family and step into the position I have had for all of our adult life. He will be expected to take over when his father is ready to retire. So my question is that how do I as a strong woman step back and all this. I have been the voice for our family how do I allow him to be that now.

I do not know how to allow someone else to have control over my life. I know that I need to figure this out if our family is going to be sucessful through his position under his father but I need to let go of this control I have. My husband is very smart and I know he can do it but I don't know if I can do my part and allow him to be the person they are expecting.

Answer 1

You said it yourself your a strong women and as a strong women you will struggle to let go of the control but none the less you will. Your best bet is to get involved in areas and maybe you can talk to your husband to help you do this. Start running some of the factories or orphanages, help your husband out with the business. Or get your own thing going and start something from scratch, you obviously feel the need to have some control and that isn't so much a bad thing, just put it to good use. BTW Your husband won't have control of your life, just the situations concerning business and the move of the family, doesn't mean you don't play a part in the home decisions anymore. Good luck and enjoy some of that freedom you will gain by giving up some of that responsibility.

Answer 2

Sorry to say but you are screwed. It's just not in him and never was, that is why he married you in the first place. If that leadership was part of his nature, he wouldn't be with you. You can't ask him to do what he isn't, that is not right. You will just have to control him from behind the curtain as you have been doing. He is a weak man and that is what attracted you to him from the start. If he were to change, he would probably dump you. Be careful what you ask for...you may just get it.

Answer 3

That is a tough one, I too am the head of household in my family of three kids and one on the way. If you are religious I encourage you to Pray, also talk to you pastor or whom ever heads your church. Also, your husband has to be willing to accept this role. You can still be head of the house all great men with positions of greatness , have a great wife behind them. Encourage yor husband to take the reins but help him realize he can come to you for support and help.

Answer 4

You shouldn't try to change yourself. You are who you are. You like to have control of the situation, you're a good decision maker, you're a leader, and there's nothing wrong with that. Your hubby doesn't (and hasn't) had a problem with it, so why change? It works for you, it works for the relationship. You can support him and this life change without having to change who you are.

Answer 5

A family must have multilple brianis 2 for parents
2 for kids

Answer 6

try to keep your question shorter and then I would try to help