I went on a field trip w/ my daughter today and a boy in her class told me a couple times that my daughter liked him - So later I asked her about why he was saying that and she said " well he loves me" she went on to say that he asked her to be his girlfriend and that she said yes Later I asked her if she knew what it ment to be someones girlfriend I told her g.friends and b.friends kiss and hold hands - hoping to gross her out I even added an ewwwwww. But when I questioned her a little more she said that boy had kissed her on the cheek.. What should I do? I am totally not ready for this. is this just one of those childhood things? what do you guys think about this.
2007-04-13 11:15:04 · 19 answers · asked by Chargers Chick 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
I was married in kindergarten. I had a ring made out of a bread tie and everything. I thought he was the cutest boy ever. Until 1st grade came around and I decided that he had cooties. Kids are kids. If you're a good parent and comfortable knowing that if anything unhealthy was going on with your child - you would notice or she would tell you. No worries :)
2007-04-13 11:23:00 · answer #1 · answered by V 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
It's weird.
My mom says I came home from my first day of Kindergarten and said, "Mom, I met the boy I'm going to marry". !!!!
Of course I'm 31 years old now and I did not marry him. But I still remember his name! :)
However... These days, I think it's disgusting how kids are "pressured" by some adults into thinking along the lines of "boyfriend/girlfriend" type stuff. It's a different day and age we live in and what was once considered "cute" and "harmless" back then... I don't find so cute and harmless today... And for my kids (daughter 3 and son 8 months) ...that kind of talk won't be tolerated at such a young age. Kids have to grow up so fast these days... why rush it any more than necessary?!
My mother-in-law bought a Valentines Day book for our daughter this year and it was The Berenstein Bears...Titled something like "My Valentine" or something.... and the whole book was about "if this boy likes me, if he doesn't like me", etc...... Both my husband and I thought it was completely inappropriate for a toddler (or even a kinder/grade schooler for that matter!) and we quickly got rid of the book. It's up to parents to establish what is acceptable and what isn't for their own kids... If you're not comfortable with this kind of talk in your home then try to find a way to explain to your daughter that there are more important things in life..... such as friendship...... that doesn't involve such grown-up things as kissing boys......Very scary for Kindergarten~ Good luck
2007-04-13 18:29:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on it's KINDERGARTEN! I'd be more worried if she was in 5th or 6th grade! Little kids just want to be like big kids and adults or whatever they see on TV. Perfectly normal, I think. But of corse I'm on the other end with a little boy:-) Either way it is cute and innocent. My son (4 in a month) holds hands with my friends little girl and we have play dates where they play pretend and he is the daddy and she is the mommy.
2007-04-13 14:46:08 · answer #3 · answered by fan 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry its a total child hood thing it will pass. When my niece was in kindergarten she had a "boyfriend" too. They used to hold hands and look in each others eyes. He kissed her once on the lips too. My sister was really worried and she tried to gross out my niece but she didn't seem to care. Now my niece is in 2ND grade and she thinks boys are gross and disgusting. It will probably pass
2007-04-13 12:07:30 · answer #4 · answered by nycgirl564 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was the same way in kindergarten. It's pure inosence and very cute, I say. My first kiss was in kindergarten also, but that dosen't realy count. They haven't a clue what the "birdies and the bubmblebees" are at that age. They talk about getting married and everything. Don't worry, it'll probly go away in first grade.
2007-04-13 13:48:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's pretty innocent. Just make sure to keep an open eye and ear on the situation. Communication with your little girl is key. Also explain boundaries and personal space. Good luck.
2007-04-13 11:44:09 · answer #6 · answered by ♡ kalila♡ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a kindergarten thing. She'll barely remember it in a few years or she'll have a good guy friend. Either way, it is nothing to worry about. (But I would keep asking about him, just so that you're in the know and it stabilizes your relationship even more for the future--when she gets real crushes she'll know she can talk to you.)
2007-04-13 16:56:44 · answer #7 · answered by Liz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughters in preschool and has a "boyfreind" it doesnt bother me they are at school all day they cant go anywehre and theres other teachers there that are watching them. I dont know about the kissin on the cheek thing...i think id proably be a little upset about it and talk to the teachers about it and see what they think...goodluck to you
2007-04-13 11:20:39 · answer #8 · answered by cutenwild1769 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
loosen up its just a play ground crush these things have been going on for years and years and that wont ever change....you dont actually think they are boyfriend and girlfriend do you come on they will hate eachother next week....its just like the george straight song check yes or no listen to it and laugh a little would ya......no big deal i promise
2007-04-13 22:33:31 · answer #9 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not unusual at all. Just chill out about it. For grade school children being boyfriend girlfriend means sitting beside one another playing together eating lunch together.
Save your worrying for that time when hormones start to rage.... THATS when you start worrying!
2007-04-13 11:21:15 · answer #10 · answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋