Do you think the breakup was my fault or his??

Question

ME:
25

looking for a job, just graduated from my masters
complained to him a lot that i was bored when he got home from work

got drunk 3 times around him...once on my birthday and he had to help me to the car, everyone had fun though at my party ...one time i went home and cried after drinking

i have a lot of baggage...and trust issues

i accused him of cheating when i found condoms in his travel bag

HIM:
34

very cocky

complained that i was not sexy enough and should wear short skirts, one time said that what he thought was sexy are innocent girls...im a very modest girl

commented on how sexy this girls bikini was at the pool and how sexy certain types of girls are in movies and magazines

moved into my house after his roomate told him to leave

told me that what he knows about me: im sick a lot and have no job

ignored me after we went out to a bar for 2 days bc i got drunk and cried

stopped taking me on dates as soon as he moved into my house

Answer 1

this is definitely, 10000% his fault. What kind of bf tells you you should be more sexier and wear short skirts, while he comments about other girls who are sexy. He should try to help you out with your problems, everyone has problems even i do, and i dont want to come home to someone who is unsupportive, and acting like a jackass. I hope for your own good you find some1 better for you.

Answer 2

Girl that's his fault that he's a jerk. He didn't have a "sexy" problem when he met you or he wouldn't have dated you in the first place. I see why his roomate kicked him out..he's a jerk...tell him to jerk off...We females do carry baggage and men should understand that sometimes it hits us in the head. He was a jerk anyway. Oh and the condom thing, im sure it was one of his traveling friends' condom, not his. Yeah right! **** him..i HATE men like that. he should have stayed single instead of wasting your time and energy and putting more into the baggage you already carried. Drop that baggage, have fun, and forget about a relationship for a while. Do you, don't fall for any guy from now on. But don't block 'em all out. If you were having sex with him, find someone else who you can be monogomous with and no attachments and explain you have a trust issue. A friend maybe...but you have to be strong on your decision...it took a lot of heartache and pain for me to finally do it...but one of my friends and I are mutual on that. Discuss getting him get tested of course and if he's a real man, it won't bother him at all... It's hard but at the same time its easy. GOOD LUCK!!

Answer 3

Listen, it is all for the best like every one else is saying.
You where not meant for each other, it does not matter who is to blame, it is done and you should thank God for that.
If he loved you, he would have taken care of you during your sick days. But sweaty, don't get drunk, it does not pay, you will just make a full out of yourself, you have a masters and you work hard for it, enjoy it and show the world how smart you are.
By the way, get yourself a smart man, next time and learn from your mistakes, do not throw away your education by drinking and making any human mistake in life.

Good Luck!

Answer 4

I don't know about whose fault anything was, but it sounds like at the very least you two are a bad match - if you have some trouble trusting the guy, he's really not helping by pointing out other girls and suggesting they're more attractive to him...

find a guy you can count on, who loves you for you, and thinks you're the sexiest woman alive, or at least is kinder about how they suggest new things... let him date one of the bikini-wearing chicks he likes so much

Answer 5

It really doesn't matter whose fault it is. It's over, and from the sound of it- Good Riddence!
After a break up you should really do some strong and deep self-evaluating. You need to reflect about what YOU truly want in life, what you enjoyed in your relationship and what you wish to avoid in the future. You cannot control what other people do, but if you want things to be better in your life, you must make that change within yourself.

Good luck!

Answer 6

i think a breakup is the best way to go in a situation like this. if he isn't happy with the woman ur trying to be, we isn't worth any more of your time. he shouldn't be looking at other girls bodies. more less their bathing suits. looking at another girl in lust is even worse when u are commited to someone else. he seems like hes interested in "sexy" people, and if u aren't like that, u dont have to be! he can tell u what he expects from u, but he cant tell u who to be. or really who u are. if u found condoms in his travel bag thats REALLY not a sign of faithfulness. especially if u guys haven't started having sex. i wouldn't trust him.......and i think u made a really good dicision. :) good luck ~em

Answer 7

This is a little one sided but thank god it sounds like it was your fault. Just kidding he is the one who ended the relationship far before you noticed and tried to make it seem like it was your fault. Don't worry about it move on to bigger and better men.

Answer 8

I would have dumped you for sure, in fact probably never have made you my girlfriend to start with. That being said you are both losers. You are better off without him, but you have serious problems. No boyfriend worth his salt will put up with a girlfriend getting drunk all the time.

Trust issues...out, baggage...out, jobless...out, drinking problems...out.

Answer 9

His fault totally. Because you got drunk a few times, gives him no reason not to talk to you. And who doesn't complain if they are bored.

Answer 10

What about option C: you're both at fault. Perhaps you should work on your trust issues before getting into another relationship.