My parents have helped me out in the past when I've been tied up. I've helped them before too without hesitation. They've been calling me. I called my sister that lives with them and asked her whats going on. She told me that my parents went out to the casino on tuesday and wed night..Its friday and If they went to the casino earlier they had money they just blew it off. My sister said they asked her to borrow some of her financial aid, of course she declined so now they are calling me. I wouldn't mind helping my parents out but If they are just blowing it at the casino I don't feel its my responsibility to help them out..I don't know what to do...
2007-04-13 10:55:30 · 30 answers · asked by 00666 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Most likely they probably want a couple of hundred if not just 100
2007-04-13 11:00:14 · update #1
I 'll give them the money if they really need it I don't care but If they had it and just blew it I don't feel I should give them anything.
2007-04-13 11:03:24 · update #2
There are 2 things to consider when lending money..
First-don't ever expect to get it back and second-don't ask why. It's a difficult question to shy away from but once that money is out of your hands only the receiving end knows where it's going to be used. Who knows.They may need it for something other than gambling. Have they ever asked you for money before? Even though they're family, it's not your responsibility. They're adults. You have a family to support and your own responsibilities. Unfortunately I've found that when you do let people (especially family) borrow money, chances are it won't be the last time. I guess you have to look at each situation and consider the circumstances. I mean if it's a health issue, that's a tough one.
Wish you the best.
2007-04-13 11:11:35 · answer #1 · answered by rediva 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, if it were me, I would. Has there ever been a time when you borrowed money from your parents and were not honest about what you would spend the money on or have you borrowed money from them and they didn't ask you what it was for? Even though you do not agree on how the money is spent, you should still give it to them. They have cared for you your whole life. It takes a lot of money to raise a child. Give some back without questioning them.
2007-04-13 11:10:47 · answer #2 · answered by Karma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know your parents are blowing their money on gambling, simply don't give them any money. If they need help with groceries or something like that, get them a gift card or take them out shopping.
I had a friend that got into drugs very bad. When I found out, I stopped loaning him money. Instead I got him the essentials he needed to live off of, but NO cash. He's clean now and doing very well. Your parents need to face the fact that they have a problem if they are spending money that they need for bills and such. If you give them money, you're basically telling them what they are doing is alright. Trust me, you are helping them out in the long run! Stay strong, and good luck!
2007-04-13 11:00:35 · answer #3 · answered by lionsworth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl that it is a hard decision to make. The way I see it is money does not come easy-especially since I know you personally and know that you have kids to take care of-I personally think that you should not let your parents barrow money for them just to go blow it at the casino. And even if they plan on using it for something else you still shouldn't let them barrow it because had they not went to the casino the other two days they would already have the money. Oh yeah and if they didn't win any money the other days why would they even want to go again.
2007-04-13 11:11:25 · answer #4 · answered by Hott Mommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they only want $100 you could pass that over, but let them know that it had better be being used to pay bills or buy food as you know that they blew their money on the casino. You could also let them know that this is the only time you will pass money over to them if they blow it at the casino. Then get your sister to let you know if they go again and that way if they do you have set the ground rules and you can feel comfortable in yourself that you should not give them more money as it would just be feeding an addictive habit.
2007-04-13 11:14:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is very simple.
Talk to your parents like they talked to you when you where younger. Tell them you have no other intentions than to help them in any way, shape, or form.
But if the money is for casino purpose, you can't help them, if the money is for mortgage, rent, or utility bills that they must of lost in the casino, than you can lend them the money, but just for that. People make mistakes in life and your parents are people.
Some times you need to give your parents advise and I am sure they will listen to you, because it looks like you listen to them as a child.
Good Luck!
2007-04-13 11:04:15 · answer #6 · answered by helenmgem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO not for that issue. That would make you an enabler . When I've given money and there was an issue, the money always came with my advice. That might work for you. Loan them money but give some words of wisdom with it. Good Luck
2007-04-13 11:02:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they blew money on a casino i would tell them that's their problem and they should have been more responsible. you can love and care about them without financially helping them out on this one. If it was something seriously like they are going to lose their house because your dad is really sick and your mom hasn't been able to work a lot that would be a different story.
2007-04-13 11:04:16 · answer #8 · answered by starkitty0707 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't "lend" relatives money, you "give" it to them and maybe it will get paid back.
If they are blowing it at the casino, then you shouldn't give them a penny. You would be feeding an addiction, would you give them money to buy drugs? The more you give them the more they will blow at the casino. This is money you will never get back, in fact you better start saving money when their house gets into foreclosure or they need to move in.
2007-04-13 11:02:28 · answer #9 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to give your parents a gift, that is fine. Do not give them a loan (e.g. money that you expect back).
The choice is really up to you - from a morals standpoint, you can turn them down without any bad intentions on your part.
2007-04-13 10:59:17 · answer #10 · answered by Big Super 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋