mommy?ok. me and my mom have not been in a "great" relationship. so i dont know what to do. she just had her

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ababy and im trying to help her as much as i can. i also know that when ur pregnant, you get lots of mood swings, and that has happened, but now its a tiny bit better. i feel like no one appreciates me, and i tried talking to my dad and it didnt work, i still feel unappreciated. i NEVER and im talikin NEVER get what i want. of course i get what i want, what i mean is that i get small, tiny things like, can i go to myy friends house, can he come over, can she come over, etc. but, i never get big things like, can i go shopping, that is pretty big for me since my mom is always busy. what should i do? also, another problem is that i have a softball parade tommorow @ 9:30 am and then i have practice we have a game right after practice @ 12:00 but we only have practice since this is our first game. and i also have acting class @ 11: 15 to 1:00 pm. my show is on may 5 so idk. but it is really boring. all u do is just sit and watch other people perform their script. i dk what they r gonna do.

also, i dk what to tell my acting teacher, maybe ill just lie to her and say im sick. anyway, i thank all of you who put their effort into this... not the ppl that just wanna get points, so thankssss soooooooo much, i really need the help.!!!!!!!!!!!!1


xoxos

thanks ever so much!!!!

Answer 1

It is hard when you don't feel appreciated. Maybe one day soon you can sit down with both your parents at dinner and say "look I know you both are busy and sometimes don't feel well, and I do appreciate all that you do, do for me. I just feel that from time to time I should deserve a little something too. I would love to go shopping etc. Like I said I don't be little anything you both are doing for me and I know it may seem like I just want more more more, but that isn't really how it is. I try to help out and I just want to be appreciated too. Oh ya by the way I have a conflict in my schedule so I am going to let my acting teacher know I won't be able to make it.

Also if your not intrested in the acting class and your parents are paying for it, maybe you should give it up and not waste the money, maybe talk to them about putting it into another weekly activity for you.

Good luck.

Answer 2

COMMUNICATION - TRUST & HONESTY are the best policy* If you start to lie...you will end up getting caught. The truth always comes out eventually. If you have to be at a softball parade and then a practice then a game, you best be honest with your acting class teacher and let her/him know you have other commitments , and that you're unable to attend.
As for your mom....she may not show you in the way you want her to "going shopping etc" as she's quite busy with the new baby. Don't be so selfish, this isn't all about you*......sit down with your mom when the baby is sleeping...and let her know how you're feeling.......and could she put some time aside at some point where it can be just the two of you to go for lunch or a quick movie or shopping for spring/summer clothes. Let her know you feel you're helping out and just want some "time" with her. Don't bottle your feelings up as they will build and build and then you'll end up exploding ....Talk this out with your mom*

Answer 3

Firstly for the being in two places at once. I wouldn't lie as you are sure to get caught. Just explain the situation to the relevant person that you just cannot make it this week as you cannot be in two places at once and stand firm if they pressurize you.
I would try to speak to your mother when she is in a good mood about how you feel. If this doesn't work then just hang in there as things will not doubt settle down once the baby is a few months older. It is a tough time when you have a newborn in the house so she will be moody. She most likely looks at you as a person she can rely on doesn't see she is putting pressure on you. But if you do not express your feeling she cannot know and dads are sometimes as thick as a brick when it comes to how you feel.

Answer 4

hi Sweetie, i'm a "weird and wonderful" mom of three boys ( a lengthy time period 10yrs, 7yrs and 14 months). i'm able to truly relate to that weird and wonderful mom stuff. I too experience "tender" at the same time as my boys practice signs and indications of adulthood (like the at the same time as my 10 twelve months old new bf appears a particular neighbor female.!!) yet i'm able to sympathize with you. It might want to look smothering at circumstances and unusual. Being an only newborn truly doesn't help. Your mom is going with the help of quite some deepest stuff as she sees her only toddler transferring away emotionally and close to be on your own. there's a lonely empty feeling that numerous oldsters get at the same time as the "little ones are grown" maximum individuals call this "empty nest" syndrome. It feels like your mom is battling the idea of you being her toddler and attempting to evolve to the subsequent element of no longer only your existence, yet hers as well. You for sure love your mom sufficient to favor help with this example... sturdy for you :) right here's my suggestion... first of all see is you may administration the "mush element". So she needs you to share your existence, attempt sharing only the bits that isn't reason too a lot mush... communicate about clothing, college, your famous color etc, Little stuff and save the juicy bits (boyfriends etc) on your individuals or diary. at the same time as she does get tender, enable her comprehend that you adore her, yet that you want your area as a maturing youthful individual. in the morning say such issues as, "mom, i'm only no longer a morning individual, do we communicate later". you may keep somewhat distance and somewhat closeness together. Please do no longer ignore that your mom is only a man or woman doing her maximum proper together with her emotions. there should be a time in the destiny once you'll value the closeness that she craves now, so be affected individual together with her and ask her to be affected individual with you. i rather wish issues paintings out for you, sweetie. are you able to put up something later and enable me comprehend what occurs? My heart is with you. Love and good fortune--MissDelanne

Answer 5

First off never lie to anyone, explain to you teacher your problem with trying to do both, I'm sure he or she will understand. You sound like a real good kid, helping your mom so much. One day you will get your reward for all your effort, just hang in there and do what's right.

Answer 6

WOW
that is a big problem to not be in a good relationship with her
you know
you just have to go up to her and say "mom i dont like being in a bad relationship with you i want to just be happy with you and get along ime sorry for not having been a good girl and i want to be forgiven will you please forgive me" then she will look at you and say "of course ill forgive you" and she will give you a hug and you will then be two happy people
another thing is to spend more time with your mother you two will enjoy it