I've been dating my male friend for 2 years now. He gave me a key to his home to come and go as I please. I was excited when he gave this key because I felt with a key this will put a title on friendship. So now that I have this key things are not what they seem. to start, he comes in around 2 - 3 am has to be to work by 6am, lay on the couch, sleep to about 4:30am that's when his alarm clock goes off. He'll then get up come in the bedroom where I am lay next to me for about 20-25 minutes touch me all over my body and doze off to sleep. Then he'll get back up and get ready for work. Now the story is a little more complicated because he hasn't had sex with me in over a month and a half. This frustrates me. I've spoken to him about our no sex life several times and all he says is "I am tired, but I will start having sex with you more". Then he never does. I don't know what to do anymore, should I walk away giving back his keys or stay and try to work it out as i really love him.
2007-04-13 10:40:41 · 14 answers · asked by candi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
look. im not trying to be rude..but is sex the only thing that matters to you...you love him...hes tired after work, be with him and be there to comfort him even if he doesnt have sex with you!...im sure sex was not the only thing you were looking for when the tow of started dating?!
look...you have the keys to his apartment and so you can have sex anytime you want..dont wori..but for now stay right next to him..because i suppose you love him and he needs support!
My only thing is ..be there for him!
2007-04-13 10:47:49 · answer #1 · answered by roxie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where has he been for the rest of the day, he must only work about 8 to 9 hours a day. And he doesn't come home till two in the morning. He's either playing around, with some other gal, or has another job.
I just think he's cheating on you, if he's laying beside you and touching you all over, then dropping of to sleep, he's not thinking of your needs.
Most guys, laying in bed with you, would have no problem, having sex with you. In fact they would be overjoyed to do so.
Seems to me, this isn't working for you, and how could it.
So give him his key back, it's doing you no good, and find some guy with a day job and time to be with and satisfy you, sexually.
2007-04-13 10:51:09 · answer #2 · answered by johnb693 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first question I want answered is where is he until 2-3 am???? It sounds like you're just a friend with benefits and he has a gf somewhere else. Give the key back and walk away.
2007-04-13 10:48:48 · answer #3 · answered by lunasage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it does aound a little selfish on your part. he is working his @$S off and all you want to do is have sex. i think that this guy got into a relationship without being able to make time for you, and i think you need to be more understanding.
in conclusion it sounds like this relationship will not work out and you guys should probably break up as neither of you are happy
2007-04-13 10:46:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him to take a shower with you(soap up those titties, bend over, let him take a look...ask him to give you an oil rubdown when you have nothing but a thong on...ask him to not touch himself so he can save himself for you...give him peep shots, make him chase you around, have him lift you in his arms(give me the proper "heading")...get imaginative...when he is about to come home, take a shower first, then ask to also shower, and then 69...you'll BOTH get off
He's GOT to deliver the goods...
2007-04-13 10:48:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
where is he that is out until 2-3am? I would guess he isn't at work from 6 am until then...why can't you ask him to come home after work sometime....have a nice meal ready, maybe some sexy little thing for you to wear. romance him, seduce him, whatever you need to remind him when it is that he is missing out on!
2007-04-13 10:46:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess it all depends on what your willing to put up with. if you like having sex on a regular basis with your partner and you enjoy feeling desired and wanted then i think he maybe isnt the guy for you. however, you could always buy a vibrator, i mean that always helps relieve the tension just a litte. good luck.
2007-04-13 10:49:13 · answer #7 · answered by k-la 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand what u are going through tho im not on the receiving end like you are.
Me n my boyf dont do it as often (my fault) n i do work hard i comehome n clean n feedeverything (pets that we have... lizards) i just am tired n i do try but it gets hard.
So just be understanding ok, talk to him dont get angry do u think he likes not giving you what you love!
2007-04-13 10:52:29 · answer #8 · answered by stevieglenwright 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry sweetie, but this has cheating written all over it, id fallow him see where he goes till 2 in the morining...
2007-04-13 10:45:13 · answer #9 · answered by lovely 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is having sex wth someone els somewhere else...
You are just his "backup plan".
respect yourself!
DUMP HIM!
2007-04-13 10:44:42 · answer #10 · answered by dreamair 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋