Ok so i got this big problem!
so recently on this friday the 13th,my boyfriend and my ex met at the same bus stop. and had a talk on the bus,i called both of them and asked what they talked about but they said boy stuff.
im only 14 yrs old just so u know.
i just hate this right now.
me and my ex still have been talkin and stuff. so seriously should this bother me because it is what if they become friends this can't be good! thanks 4 the advice!
2007-04-13 10:38:16 · 27 answers · asked by ♥Classii1♥ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are too young to be worrying. Just have fun.
2007-04-13 10:40:43 · answer #1 · answered by Audee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't obsess over it. So what if they do become friends... if you bf will dump because of something your ex tells him, then he isn't a decent boyfriend anyway and you're better off.
Just ask your boyfriend that, out of respect for you, that he not discuss you with your ex. They can talk about "guy stuff," just not you or your relationship with either boy. That's fair.
Friday the 13th has nothing to with it, stop being silly. Life just happens.
2007-04-13 17:43:01 · answer #2 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It didn't have anything to do with it being Friday the 13th!
A chance meeting on the bus doesn't make a whole road to a friendship. You're taking this way too serious. Enjoy life!
And they probably did talk about boy stuff...sports, silly stuff, etc.
2007-04-13 17:44:46 · answer #3 · answered by rugbee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said it, you are only 14. You cannot worry about what other people talk about.
You should not worry about it if they become friends. They aren't girls. Girls usually are the ones who gossip and don't like the ex's etc.
Why can't everyone be friends? You called your ex..... Why did you do that? It really is not any of your business what they talk about. It is your insecurities that are making you nuts. Be confident in who you are and don't worry about other people and what they talk about. Be the best you can be. You should not be trying to get out of one what the other said either. You probably will lose your boyfriend that way. No one likes that kind of thing. You will see that growing up.
Just be yourself and Get to know your boyfriend for who he is and don't worry about what he says to anyone. Get to know him for who he is and how you two can develop as friends and how your relationship can develop.
If you want to be friends with your ex, then you can talk to him. If you are only talking to him to get out of him what your boyfriend talked about, forget it. That is childish. I am being frank and honest.
2007-04-13 17:47:03 · answer #4 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it shouldn't bother you, that they become friends. At your age, serious relationships aren't in the cards.
What you should be doing, is just having fun. What you are doing is learning social skills.
It's unlikely that you will be with these boys for ever. You all will grow up and move on to other girls and boys.
So as they say, just relax and go with the flow. I'm sure you will come up in their conversation as they both know you, but I can't see them saying anything bad about you.
2007-04-13 17:45:24 · answer #5 · answered by johnb693 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are young and starting to live. I would not let it bother me just because this is a free country and you should have the right to be friends with whom ever you wish.
Don't let it bother you and if your boy friend really likes you, he will show you common respect of privacy and not prob and ask about private things you talk with others.
Good luck!!!
2007-04-13 17:42:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give the date any meaning. There's nothing bad about Friday the 13th unless there's a guy in a mask chasing you.
It's not a big deal. What could you have possibly done to be freaked about? Don't let them see you panic, or they will play head games with you.
Just relax about it.
2007-04-13 17:53:40 · answer #7 · answered by amstaff 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They were comparing notes. It shouldn't bother you at all. If you are comfy with your ex and your boyfriend is too, no need to worrry. If your ex is comfy with you moving on, no need to worrry also. Its not a big problem due to Friday the 13th LOL.
2007-04-13 17:43:57 · answer #8 · answered by dharrasunrise 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have feelings for your ex and are hiding things from your current boyfriend, then you have a problem. Also, if you aren't saying anything bad about either of them to each other, you really have nothing to worry about.
2007-04-13 17:42:26 · answer #9 · answered by SquirrelBait 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is it a problem if they're talking? Unless you've been saying or doing things with your ex that you shouldn't be doing when you have a new boyfriend then so what.
2007-04-13 17:43:58 · answer #10 · answered by Kris M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i think that if there is a prob between ur ex and bf, u would see it. h'll be spitting comments at u under his breath and stuff like that. And i think that it is okay to be friends with an ex. thats perfectly normal. and having ur ex and bf buds, great! no worries
2007-04-13 17:41:48 · answer #11 · answered by <3leopards 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋