why is my mom acting like this?

Question

i can't trust her with a secret
she calls me every second to get on my nerves
yell at me cause i don't anwser
she act like she don't understand i have a.d.d
i'm so depresss i don't like calling her mom cause she doesnt act like one
i'll try to talk to her about my problem she will change the subject to her past in high school how pretty she was how many people like her. she listen to all my sister problems in high school or college
i just wish i can move farrr away from her like right now i even thought about running away

Answer 1

WHAT AN ARROGANT B*TCH!

Answer 2

Sometimes parents don't know how to be parents. My mom sure as hell had no clue. Also, all we're getting here is your side. I'm sure she has her side too. The best thing to do would be to go see a therapist because you two need a mediator to find a better way to communicate. I doubt this idea will set well. In which case, you should seek therapy on your own. At least you will be able to find a way to have peace with yourself. I highly, HIGHLY recommend not letting your A.D.D. be an excuse for everything. It sounds like it's your go-to excuse. Stop it. You might have A.D.D., but don't let it own you. Lastly, the only thing you can really do is just wait it out until you are 18 and move out. To do this, you are really going to have to work hard to achieve a high work ethic. Even if you have crap minimum wage jobs, work them like they're paying you $20 an hour. If you clean floors, clean them like they are the floors of kings. Do you understand? It's the ONLY way you're going to get out of your situation. Be the BEST at doing what you do, and after that, the universe will provide for you. Good luck. Seek enlightenment.

Answer 3

Look stuff like that always happen between mothers and children.

We dont chose to be born into certain families.

However, you must preserve some sort of respect for her and then leave her be.

She must try and understand if not, dont despair.

People can change and as long as you can speak about your problems its all good.

I know of people who cant even talk about whats bothering them and live all their lives under the blissful ignorance of not knowing what the true problems are in the lives of their children.

Show her some kindness. and then retreat into your own private world where you can be understood by friends or better yet, by animals or anything else that can keep you going.

Do not lose hope in her. Im sure shes a lovely woman if shes got you for a son.

Good day.

Answer 4

Actually, don't be offended, but it DOES sound like she's acting like a Mom. It's your Mom's job to keep track of you and make sure you're safe and out of trouble. I know it's hard, but that's her job, and as much as you don't like what she's doing, she's doing the best that she can.
And, as someone who also has and grew up with ADD, let me tell you---never, ever use ADD as an excuse for lazy, bad or immature behavior. If you want to grow up and have a good life as an adult, then you can't go around complaining that nobody understands that you have "ADD", and therefore you should be permitted to behave somehow differently than everyone else. In school, they cater to kids who are diagnosed ADD, offering all sorts of extra help and special classes and special considerations. (Extra homework time, etc.) But when you get out in the REAL world, no one is going to want to hear it. Trust me, they won't give a cr*p that you have ADD. YOU need to take charge of yourself, and make your own life good.
If you don't want problems with your Mom, then just be a good person, answer her calls, show her you're trustworthy, and work at growing up to be a smart, responsible person.
Good luck to you.

Answer 5

Yeah, my mom gave me the same deal about she didn't understand how come I was having such a hard time in school, and how it was so much easier for her, but then again there were only 11 people in her graduating class for pete's sake, they had to all get along or they would have no one else to talk to! Even so, apart from that, it sounds like your mom worries about you alot. She also sounds like believe it or not, she is actually trying to connect with you about your experience in high school, but her experience in school was clearly much different from yours, and she is having trouble trying to connect with you on that. She may also find it easier to connect with your sister because she's female, and maybe she isn't quite sure how to go about connecting with a son. One thing I notice is you aren't mentioning a father, is there a dad around? ADD is confusing for the people who have it, and for the people around them. Maybe she is just calling you alot because she worries about where you are or what you are doing. Make sure not to give her any reason to worry, and maybe you should try to have a talk with her that you're growing up, and you would like her to trust you a little bit more. But if she says ok and backs off some, it will be your job to make sure that you are earning her trust. I don't think ADD is an answer not to answer your phone when she calls, maybe she wouldn't worry as much if you were answering. Try sitting down to talk to her, but be respectful, you will catch alot more flies with honey than you will with vinegar. If you get all angry with her, she will get all defensive, and not be receptive to what you are saying to her. If you can't work it out, maybe you should ask if you can get some counseling, to help you cope..
As for not being able to trust her with a secret, well, moms talk to other moms, and compare notes, yeah, it can really get on your nerves, no doubt about it. I thought about running away when I was younger. I thought about it and decided to stick around, if for no other reason than that I wanted to make sure I at least got a high school diploma. I'm glad that I did stay around to accomplish that. I left home when I was only 18, didn't get along with my parents much better than you are right now. But guess what? The older I get, the smarter they get! Just wait and see, you won't believe your eyes years later.... :) Good luck....

Answer 6

Tell her how you feel about not trusting her,this will help her understand you better.She calls because she love you and is trying to stay connected to you.I know it must drive you crazy but most likely she just does this because she loves you.I do it to my daughter too,shes in college,I just tell her I cant resist stalking her.I tell her to call me when she can,and she does.Don't blame add for being rude though.Maybe when she tell you abut her childhood,shes only trying to be helpful with examples.Just remember your Mom is human too,she will fail you,as you will her.Forgiveness frees us up from so much pain.But do tell her the truth in love how she is making you feel.Good luck and be blessed.

Answer 7

Sit her down and tell her you need to talk to her, and specify "please listen." If she interrupts you, ask again, "please just LISTEN". If she interrupts you or changes the subject again get up and walk away and try again some other time.

When you talk to her, its easy for people to feel attacked. So, pick one topic at a time and try to phrase it not as, "You're all wrong!" but rather as, "When you act like this, this is how I feel." The most important thing is to DISCUSS, not ARGUE.

Answer 8

sounds like she herself has some disorder like maybe selfabsorbtion, egomanic, etc......
i myself have add---you need a parent who is there for you and someone to talk to and understand you
unfortunately your mother isn't going to be the someone---try seeking advice from a school counselor or a friend's parent
i wish you the best of luck
i don't think your mother necessarily is a bad person---i just think she may be self-centered and needs therapy

Answer 9

Your mom could be going though problems of her own....
Try to find out and be more helpful!
Not so self centered!

Answer 10

Print out what you've just posted here and show it to your mother. Then talk to her about how you feel.

Communication is a beautiful thing.

Answer 11

what is the dd you refer to? Remember that your mom is human and has problems too. She needs your understanding as much as you need hers.