My fiance and i broke up after almost being engaged for a year. (a week before our wedding last dec my family canceled it, and we've been tryin to save up for another one). He broke up with me, but he still calls me many times a day from work, and still tells me he loves me, and that he wants to get back w/ me, but that he needs some time. He said he wants to get his life in order and wants me to work on mine. He's about $4,000 in debt right now with credit cards and bills, and just got a new job so he wants to work 9-9 every day (temporarily) and doesn't think he could balance working long hours and a relationship with me right now. Also, i'm in college, so i'm busy also. I just don't know if he's trying to break up with me nicely (but he still says he wants to be with me) or if he's not sure, or if he really wants some space for now to get caught up. Are finances really that important to guys that they'll put relationships on hold? should i wait or move on? what could he be thinkin?
2007-04-13 10:11:21 · 6 answers · asked by Andii 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is not trying to just be nice, if that was the case he wouldn't call you at all. Guys will try to be nice when they first break up with you, or if returning a call. However they wouldn't keep calling you just to be nice, that is absurd since he has already broken up with you. You didn't really think this one though very well did you?
Now he would keep calling you because he wants to keep you on the line (like a fish), that way he can use you for sex later. You seem ready to be reeled in when every he wants to.
2007-04-13 10:19:09 · answer #1 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did he break up would be a question I want to know. Him wanting to get his life in order is great but he is asking you to wait indifinate time period. There is no telling how long it will take him to get life in order. It could be years. To some guys money is very important. He has already decide that work is more important. If he truly loved you he would make the time, might be difficult but he would make time. Sounds like he isn't ready yet. Also you need to concern yourself with school now. I say move on. He wants you to wait on his terms and that could be years.
2007-04-13 10:23:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one. He could be legitimate with his excuse or he could be trying to not look like a huge jerk. I say tell him to do what he needs to do and then to contact you. Don't be in his life until he's ready to commit and if you still happen to be available when he calls, then maybe it was meant to be. This way you're not just waiting around for him but you're also not closing any doors. But be stern about the not being in each other's lives until he's ready, otherwise he'll just be stringing you along, having the best of both worlds. Let him see what his life would really be like without you and if you happen to meet someone else in the meantime, then go for it. He's the one who would have blown it, not you.
2007-04-13 10:20:54 · answer #3 · answered by Ms. M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could seriously be trying to get everything in order. Talk to him and find out if he really cares. If you feel that you need to- then move on -after all he broke up with you right before the wedding.
2007-04-13 10:18:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's working 12 hour days after being so far in debt (and, being in debt also implies being there for a while) smoething has changed for him. I think i's a safe bet that you are why he has changed, that he means what he is saying, and that he probably wants to be very supportive, financially and otherwise, of you.
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2016-10-02 22:51:07 · answer #6 · answered by intriago 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋