My dad has a Master's degree and is very bright. He is a devout Christian. He actually had the nerve to ask me the other day why, if I love him as much as I claim to, and have so much respect for him, why I don't want to be JUST LIKE HIM?! I told him I am not his clone and he told me not to state the obvious. I told him that I pick and choose the good parts and ignore the other parts and he seems to have a problem with that...lol! I am my own person and have no desire to be just like him. He has many faults in my personal opinion. (He tells people they're going to Hell for example and that they're not really Christians for another example, he fought for and got custody of my nephew in a nasty custody dispute and I don't think he fought fair for another example) My point is I think he is being unreasonable and arrogant to think I should want to be JUST LIKE HIM if I claim to love and respect him so much. BTW: I'm 33 years old
2007-04-13 10:01:00 · 6 answers · asked by icu812 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My dad is the same way. Very much a Christian yet always judging everyone on their relationship with Christ. Saying "oh they'll never make it to heaven." Crap like that. Funny, arent we supposed to leave the judging to Jesus? LOL
Anyway, since you already made a comment to your dad that you werent his clone, he already got it. Just drop it, I bet he doesnt bring it up again. Dads, I tell ya, do they ever grow up? LOL
Take care, you sound like a smart, loving daughter, what more could he ask for?
2007-04-13 10:43:02 · answer #1 · answered by Peg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that he has a lot of great attributes and that there are some great attributes of yours that you've gained from him. Tell him you feel bombarded by his constant need for you to do things HE wants you to. Say that you are your own person now with your own interests and will pursue them as they seem fit to your life that you want to build for yourself. Your much to old for him to be trying to push upon you what he wants in your life, but now is better than never, so really stress to him that you need the differentiation of his life and yours. Don't lay on the "I really love and respect you, don't take this wrong" becuase that may sound like "I'm buttering you up and hoping you'll take this as a distraction becuase I'm saying I don't love and respect you". Point the convo towards your needs. Saying things like "I'm not your clone" will be communicated much better if you really elaborate on how you feel and why.
2007-04-13 17:10:10 · answer #2 · answered by throughthebackyards 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have already told him and irregardless of his education or Christian background it is unreasonable for him to expect you to be just like him. We would all be going to hell if not for our Lord Jesus Christ. Nobody deserves to go to Heaven, it is only by the grace of God that we have a choice. Your father is no better than you and needs to get down on his knees and repent for thinking he is. You have a God given right to be what God would have you to be, not what your human father wants. Listen to the Lord's voice and follow him in all that you do, seek him in all that you desire. Follow the true Father and you will be happy. God Bless!!!
2007-04-13 17:25:21 · answer #3 · answered by MJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could say something like:
Dad I know you want the best for me and you probably think that if I am just like you , life will be better for me. However if YOU love ME you cant ask me to be like you, you should love me as who I am otherwise you will just be loving a copy of yourself ( loving yourself and not me )
Good Luck!
2007-04-13 17:26:59 · answer #4 · answered by B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him fine, you'll be like him. Start by telling him he's going to Hell and he's not really a Christian.
2007-04-13 17:24:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont tell your dad anything that will hurt him
2007-04-13 17:04:13 · answer #6 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋