If a guy goes to the movies with an ex who he is still friends with, is it a date? What constitutes a date?

Question

So, my exclusive boyfriend of 3 years is still friends with his ex, the girl who he "went on a break" with and asked me out less than 2 weeks later.
He let me know in advance that he was going to "hang out" with her. When he got home, he was very open about everything. He told me that they went to her house for dinner with her family and then they went to the movies. I asked him about the movie and he said, "We saw 'The Reaping', even though I wanted to see 'Blades of Glory' ". I had already felt uncomfortable that the two of them went to a movie together alone and when he said that, I couldn't help but say, "Well, the girl always chooses the movie." He got very upset and insisted it wasn't a date. I asked, "Did you pay for her ticket?" He said, "Yes, but that doesn't make it a date. I was just being a gentleman." Well, he is very traditional about chivalry and I am not, but even so, I don't think it applies to so-called platonic friends. Does it? I still feel like it was a date.

Answer 1

I wouldn't look too far into her choosing the movie - friends make sacrifices/compromise too.

I don't think I'd be very happy with him buying her ticket either, I can see how you would be upset by this. But if it is his nature to do something like this, then I wouldn't be too worried.

Do you think he would have been upset if you had wanted to go too? Has his communication increased with her since the movie? That's when I would be worried.

You have been dating for three years - if this girl was a threat, I think something would have already happened :)

Answer 2

Women on this forum always say a man and woman can just be friends. If that is true, then it was just two friends catching a movie. Yes he can pay for her ticket, as long as next time she pays for his....of course next time you will be on the curb and it will really be a date.

Answer 3

wow if i was you i would be straight up with him about my feelings. tell him how you feel about it. and that you have the right to get mad and suspect something because you`re his girl. and spending time alone with one of his ex is not acceptable at all even how much you trust eachother its still doesnt look right because they had history. and having dinner with her and her family doesnt look so good either. why does he have to spent time with her alone? and eat dinner with her family? It would bother me alot if my boyfriend do but i know he wouldnt because he knows its not right...abviously you`re boyfriend doesnt look at it that way..or maybe he aint tryin to look at it that way. Confront him again hun. Maybe he`s using he`s being open person to do something behind your back. So you wouldnt think he`s actually crepping around.

good luck!