I have a long time very good friend of mine whom I keep in touch often, my husband hates her and he hates the fact that I see her, talk with her, or go out with her. I knew her before I even met him, he has forbidden me from ever going out with her ever again.............she is a hooker! Does he have the right to forbid me? would you also do the same if in same situation? she is a very nice person and we get along very well, she just decided one day she was tired of low paying jobs!
2007-04-13 09:52:20 · 11 answers · asked by Niki 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have tried many times to explain to him that we have been friends for a long time and just because we spend time together does not mean I will become a hooker.........
2007-04-13 10:00:12 · update #1
I can't say that I blame him though I can only imagine where he's coming from. I'd like to tell you that I wouldn't like it, but if you were friends before me, then it's totally legal and I'd leave it alone. But even the thought of not saying something like what he's already said is hard to accept. I mean, the first thought I had when I read this is what if you two are out to lunch and the police arrest her or something? Granted, probably never happen, but the fact that it could makes me think you really have no business hanging around her.
One other thing. Do you mind that she's a hooker? Do you think it's a good/positive thing for her? By seeing her as a friend, you are enabling this lifestyle. You can be the judge of whether that bothers you or not.
2007-04-13 10:12:11 · answer #1 · answered by randyken 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but your husband does not have the right to forbid you from anything! Marriage is something that takes two to work, it's not managed by one person. True he is allowed to have his opinion but he does not have the right to tell you what to do or what not to do.
And so what if she is a hooker? It's not like she will influence you into doing that or people will think you're a hooker too. The fact that she is a nice person is enough to be her friend. Oh and since she is your good friend please remind her safety at all times, there are a lot of sick people out there and they don't even know it sometimes... even worse... there are psychos too. Sorry a bit off the topic but I couldn't help myself.
Tell your husband that it isn't fair that he is discriminating her for what she does and that he is forbidding you from anything. You need to sit down and talk about it, find out what is really bugging him. Good luck!
2007-04-13 17:01:04 · answer #2 · answered by JV 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
The fact that she is a hooker should have nothing to do with it. You are not your husbands slave. If he has a friend and you said to him I forbid you from going out with him ever again he would probley get mad. You have every right to see your good friend. You didn't say why he doesn't like her. He knew she was your friend before you too got married.
2007-04-13 17:03:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think he's more concerned about your safety than anything else. She's a hooker right? Well you're only as good as the company you keep, and I'm guessing that in her line of work she doesn't keep very good and/or safe company. I'm thinking he doesn't want you to end up in a dangerous situation. Or he's afraid she'll talk you into making some extra cash by joining in on a threesome. or foursome. or bachelor party.
2007-04-13 17:03:27 · answer #4 · answered by double_o_shelbo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see why he hates her. He is afraid that if you approve of her lifestyle which you do since you still hang with her that maybe you'll decide to get tired of low paying jobs too. or maybe you'll get caught up in some trouble she is in and get yourself hurt. In this instance i would stay away from her for the sake of your marriage. Now if he hated for for something else like her nose or personality then I would ignore him but what she is doing is wrong it's illegal and dangerous. What if your husband decided to hang out with a coke dealer or child porn dealer would you approve just because this guy was nice?or because he knew him longer then you?
2007-04-13 17:02:18 · answer #5 · answered by Harry Hood 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband needs to divorce you and find someone new.
If the shoe was on the other foot, you wouldn't be too happy. No he can't tell you what to do, however you shouldn't be having this person as a friend out of respect for your husband.
If it was me, I would not have this person as a friend in any way for no other reason than that I respect myself.
If you want to know the quality of a person, look at the quality of their friends.
2007-04-13 16:58:17 · answer #6 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he don,t what you to become a Hooker, but he has no right to tell you that your not a lowed to hag out with. also he,s jealous you spend more time with her then you do with him . if had cant stop controlling you then your better off dumping him.controlling is a warning of abuse,
2007-04-13 17:02:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Personally i dont see a problem with you seeing your friend just because of her job description.
Perhaps the best thing to do is to talk to your husband about why he doesn't want you to see her. Maybe there is a underlying reason. Maybe he feels threatened or something? He certainly doesn't have the right to stop you seeing your friends.
2007-04-13 16:56:22 · answer #8 · answered by sisbon13 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
What she does for a living has no relevance. He's more worried about someone seeing you with her and having someone tell him his wife was seen with a hooker, and if his wife is a hooker. This is all about him, not you and your friend.
2007-04-13 16:58:35 · answer #9 · answered by mojosc 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
your husband cant forbide you from seeing anyone what are you 5? unless you doing somthing bad or something but if your just having fun then theres somthin up his a$$ cuz i wouldn't mind its not like YOUR having sex with her..
2007-04-13 16:58:18 · answer #10 · answered by Ruben191 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋