We have talked about it many times(he's usually the one to bring it up), we've gone ring shopping, and still nothing.
If I bring it up, he will say that he can't afford it right now, but then spend a couple thousand on his car! In the past I have decided that I will just relax and give him time, but this usually results in him bringing it up! We live together in a house that we bought a year ago, so it's not that he isn't committed! Can someone tell me what's going on?
2007-04-13 09:50:44 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
R-E-L-A-X.
Why would you want to nag someone into asking you to marry him? You'll never know if he did it because he was truly ready and wanted to, or if he was just sick of hearing you whine.
Set yourself a mental time limit, and ZIP IT (your mouth, that is). It's obviously frustrating, but ask yourself why you love this person, and why marriage is suddenly such a priority to you; what would being married "change"? You can love him just as much if you spend another two years unmarried. And, if you get really impatient and being married (not the ring, the wedding, or the fancy fru-fru dress) is THAT important to you, ask him yourself! It's time to let go of little girl fantasies and approach your relationship as an adult.
2007-04-13 10:10:07 · answer #1 · answered by Courtney 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
There are several reasons why he could be waiting.
My best friend has been talking marriage with her bf of 3 years for a while now. And she thinks he's never gonna propose but he has told me he is waiting for a special date that he has set.
As for your bf spending money on his car and not a ring... Think about that. He needs a car to get to work and to help pay for the house you guys live in. The ring isn't gonna help pay any bills.
So i'd wait it out. He may have some specific date or a certain time, or something special in his mind that he wants to do. You'd be surprised how romantic guys can get with the proposal. Most of them realize that you're gonna be telling that story for the rest of your life and that if he just asks you one night at the local bar with some lame ring you're not gonna be proud of that story.
Give him time. Two years isn't a very long time together in the long run... The more you question him or ask him the more he's gonna feel pressured into asking and he'll feel that he didn't ask because he wanted to, but because you wanted him to.
Good Luck!
2007-04-13 10:01:59 · answer #2 · answered by Dawnwalker 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
if he didn't ask and give you the ring he's not serious. If he wants to wait until he's making more money, he would love you enough to give you your dream wedding, and not a $10 ceremony at city hall. I think he told you what you want to here, because he would have asked all ready. I've seen this situation where the man says the right words but no action behind it. If he is serious demand he ask you the right way, or tell him to quit playing games.
2016-05-19 17:53:45 · answer #3 · answered by diann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why buy the milk when you can have the cow for free? I'm saying this as a joke because I am getting married this summer to my guy of seven years and we have a three year old son, so I hear ya! Finally, the last time he talked about it, I made up save the date cards and sent them out! I was a bit tired of thinking maybe..one day...Guys are lazy and they like things to stay the same, if you are happy, don't worry about it, it's just a legal formality. If you want more, explain how nice it would be if he could stand up and proclaim publicly his love for you. Suggest a small wedding, which might not be so intimidating, or a weddingmoon, where you guys run away together! Good luck. PS Who says only guys can propose? You are already a "non-traditional" couple, why worry about silly things like who asked who?
2007-04-13 10:08:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Maybe he wants to surprise you. I was with my fiancee for 2.5 years before he proposed, we'd talked a lot about it. And I hated answering other peoples questions/rude remarks about how long we'd been together without getting married. In the end he was able to completely surprise me, and our relationship is stronger because we've been through so much together.
2007-04-13 10:12:25 · answer #5 · answered by CincoBride 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If getting married is important to you, then maybe you should tell him. Blunt tends to work well with guys. It sounds like you guys are on your way to a life together anyway so maybe you just need to make it clear to him that you'd like to make it official. (He might have something planned and it just hasn't been time yet)
2007-04-13 13:25:25 · answer #6 · answered by K S 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hear ya!
Join the club sista.
1yr and 10 months and I still have NADA. I don't live with him but he can easily afford an engagement ring. That adorable bastard.
2007-04-13 10:22:07 · answer #7 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Girl, he has no need to or want to get married because the two of you are shacking up. Period. If marriage is really what you want, you are not in the best position to go for it. Move out on your own independently, keep dating him, and see what happens.
2007-04-13 09:57:37 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 6⤊ 5⤋