i'm having dinner at my boyfriend's house with his parents...help!?

Question

i have been dating him for almost 6 months now, and i've only met them once before briefly. im finally going over to their place for dinner...what do i wear?... i dont want to be too dressy or too casual...should i send a thank you note afterward?

Answer 1

Depends on what kind of dinner... for a BBQ I would say jeans and a nice blouse would be perfect, but if it's a dinner where his mom is bringing out the fine china then a skirt or dress that isn't revealing would be appropriate. Ask your boyfriend what he will be wearing and dress accordingly with that. I think a Thank You note would be over doing it and that his parents might appreciate it more if before you left you gave his mom a hug (if that's a little awkward a hand shake or even a wave would do... but it would show your boyfriend that you feel comfortable around his family and that can make a big difference in a relationship) and his dad a hand shake, said thanks for dinner, and let them know how much you enjoyed it (even if it wasn't your favorite). Good Luck, have a great time! And remember to be yourself, if you're faking it his parents will see right through you and you don't want them to form an opinion of you as a liar.

Answer 2

I've had two serious boyfriends, and what you'll want to wear is something classy, but you're right, you don't want to be too dressed up. I'd say it's safe to wear khaki pants or jeans with a nice button-down shirt or some other nice shirt that doesn't reveal too much.

No thank you note. I would just be extra gracious when you're leaving. Compliment the food/cooking and decorations aroung the house. Thank them for their hospitality and let them know you hope to see them again soon. The key is to leaving a lasting impression. Instead of a thank you note, I'd probably send a greeting card on the next holiday and write in there that you were thinking of them and the good times you had at their home. Be sweet and they'll be pressuring their son to stick with you!

Answer 3

Your on the right track, you just need a little help from a conductor (me).

What to wear: wear something nice, but not to flashy, dressy, or revealing, remember you want to impress the parents on your personality, not your clothing or your body.

Do I send a thank you note after? Yes you should, and if you could try to take the time to write a letter, yes, a real letter not an email. Most people (myself included) are delighted when they receive mail from someone else, because that means that that someone else took the time, to write the letter, and put it into a mailbox.

Good luck,
Some general advice:
Don't hold hands or kiss each others cheeks (if you are at that point in your relationship.) unless the parents are ok with it.

Good luck again,

Answer 4

Ok, to start when you go over, try to put a good impression with your personality. Im sure you have plenty of it and try to appeal talk about more casual topics. Be polite, of course, always and if you really wana come on strong, answer yes/no sir/ma'am for yes or no questions. Wear some nice pants and a decent, but not overexposing, blouse. Honestly, I would not send a thank you note, maybe call but not a thank you note. But, If you feel his parents ARE thank you note type people, then go ahead and send one. But, remember, you are going to make an awesome impression. Follow your instincts... Good luck with everything.

Answer 5

i'm sorry, besides the undeniable fact that it seems such as you're being very immature. all people is worried assembly a boyfriend's family contributors for the 1st time, besides the undeniable fact that that's a huge step that he needs you to fulfill them, and that they choose to fulfill you too! Your anxiousness will truthfully help you to be on your best habit. Be your self, yet be the best version of your self! compliment them on their homestead and on the meal they have arranged. Ask them questions approximately themselves - how long they have lived interior the homestead, in the event that they grew up around this section, the story of ways they met, etc. in case you have uncontrollable laughter, it ability somebody reported some thing humorous - and all people likes to pay attention laughter while they have reported some thing humorous! you're imagining it to be plenty worse than that's. pass to dinner, rejoice with attending to be attentive to his family contributors, and enable them to get to be attentive to you too! a very advantageous gesture is to ask the host/hostess if there is something you are able to hold to dinner. maximum possibly, they're going to say "No, only carry your self!" besides the undeniable fact that that's amazingly mature and well mannered to make the grant.

Answer 6

be more dressy than casual, nice jeans (not the ripped up kind) or nice pant like from the gap or sumthing. then like a longsleve shirt, not the deep scoop neck ones. i dont think u should send a thankyou note afterward, just thank them at the end of the evening. and just be urself, u know when ur around grown ups.

Answer 7

Awwww, you are too adorable.

Wear something not too dressy, but not sloppy; dress slacks and a simple top, maybe?

I think the thank you note is a lovely touch, and his Mom will probably think you're a wonderful girl.

Good luck.

Answer 8

What ever you do don't wear anything sexy. Wear some jeans and a pretty blouse. Don't give them your life story either. If they don't ask don't tell. Don't send a thank you card; just say thank you. Ask if you can bring something. Don't hang all over your boyfriend either. Smile a lot, and make eye contact.

Answer 9

send a thank you note? that's a first. don't kiss *** so much. let them see the real you. giving them a big thank you at the end of the dinner is nice. simply enjoy their company, let them enjoy yours and try to calm yourself down before hand.


good luck!

Answer 10

Just dress casual and no you don't need to give them a note. Just say "thank you the food was great" and smile. thats it