She is an excellent mum, but my other cat (her brother) has abandoned me...he wont come to me for cuddles etc anymore. I am heart broken, as i love him to death!!
I tried to introduce him to the kittens a few days ago, but tried to attack them, so i put him outside....did i do the right thing?
Any advice as to what to do to help him accept the new kittens??
2007-04-13 09:45:27 · 15 answers · asked by ? 6 in Pets ➔ Cats
DON'T PUT HIM OUT OR PUNISH HIM. He's feeling insecure!
I have a male uneutered cat, a few months ago we found a stray mama with 6 six kittens in our yard and took them in to care for them. At first my cat was VERY jealous and would hiss at the kittens and smack them around a bit. Just gently move him away from them if he becomes aggressive. He's not trying to kill them he just wants to establish his authority. Don't stomp on his pride!
Be extra encouraging and kind to him right now. He feels threatened and sees the new cats as competition. Show him some extra love and attention. Don't scold him too much.
He'll get used to the kittens! My cat did and he LOVES the babies now!! He's giving them baths and playing with them like he's the daddy!
Don't worry! He'll love you again! Give him some time to adjust!!! EVERYTHING WILL WORK OUT!!!! Give his a month or so!!! :) Good Luck!!!!
2007-04-13 10:26:10 · answer #1 · answered by Arnie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, poor little brother! First his sister has kittens and starts ignoring him and now his human has kicked him out of the house! He's feeling lonely, abandoned and resentful right now--do you blame him? He needs a LOT of extra love and attention. Keep him out of the room where the kittens are as he may not accept them for a long time. And try giving him some catnip or a new toy to let him know you still love him.
2007-04-13 09:55:12 · answer #2 · answered by Alice K 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He maybe jealous of all the attention his sister and the new kits are getting. He will probably never completely accept the new kittens so it is best to keep him away. But don't throw him outside. He feels abandoned by you at this point. Bring him back in and show him some love and affection and he will come around.
2007-04-13 10:37:00 · answer #3 · answered by llfitzpatrick 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldn't put him outside as he will think he is being punished. He was there first and you need to acknowledge that by just letting him do his own thing. Don't force him to be near the kittens and make sure if he is in the same room that he always has a clear escape route. It will take time but keep treating him as you always have, don't disrupt his routine and eventually he will accept them.
2007-04-13 09:51:37 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa A 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I used to have one cat and then I took in a stray who brought me her 3 kittens. I kept them separate from my older cat for a while until one day, they all got loose and I had to leave for work. My older cat hated me for a while but I took him in a room every night just so I could have one-on-time alone with him. He eventually go to like the other cats, especially the mother cat. My older cat lived to be 20 years old so having the other cats around I believe kept him company while I was at work and they entertained him. I still have the mother cat and 2 of her kittens.
2007-04-13 10:14:57 · answer #5 · answered by Me, Myself & I 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Find time to hang out with him separate from kittens. He may eventually come around.
Putting him outside is NOT the answer - NO cat should be dumped outside EVER.
2007-04-13 09:59:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I dont think he as abandoned you it just takes time for a cat to adjust to new things like other cats. You also cant force him on the others by introducing him you just need to let it happen naturally. Im sure all he needs is time and im sure he will return to cuddle again you just need to show him attention to dont make him feel left out.
2007-04-13 09:51:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Be careful! It is in a Tomcat's instincts to kill babies (because he does not want competition or offspring that is not his own around). Keep him separate from them for awhile, because I have witness one swoop in a grab a kitten, with a mother cat in the box with them. Awful!
While Mom is busy with them, you are more available to snuggle in another room with him though. Maybe if you show him he can have you all to himself he'll come around. He loves you too and can't resist snuggles forever.
2007-04-13 10:04:12 · answer #8 · answered by cat lady 200 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-18 01:10:00 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't throw him out of your home, but put the kits and their mother in another room. Let your tom roam the house the way he used to and allow him to get to know the kits gradually. If you keep them seperate until the kits are a little older they will be able to defend themselves if he attacks.
2007-04-14 04:04:28 · answer #10 · answered by deccaboo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋