What is your point of view on casual sex? what if one person has feeling? how te get over those feeling? or how to make the other person develop feelings so it can turn into a serious relationship?
2007-04-13 09:34:34 · 12 answers · asked by Lala 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Typically means casual without commitment. I've had two relationships like that. No one the girl did try to turn it up too much more commitment. I might have been interested but she took it too fast and started to become controlling. I broke off the relationship quickly.
I read your other questions so I realize this is the second main you've been with. You were with your husband for a few years and then divorce. It's certainly not difficult to be infatuated with this guy who's only her second lover. He was right there in the time when you needed support. He made you feel sexy and probably confident that divorce was not a man but a new beginning.
Now for girl comes up to me at work and says I'm getting divorced... four hour in no most of her life story because she's told me. Then I will pursue this girl because casual sex is very much a possibility. She's mad at her husband and wants to move on, she's probably not been having sex with her husband for some time before the divorce, all this is mated to busy for her to date and a she has a child than her dating activity is even more curtailed. This guy was deftly there at the right time but he may not be interested in doing anything else more permanent.
But your question is how do you turn the tide. Well one thing is just ask him. He other ways to be sneaky about asking him. Next time you're in bed together and after you've had sex (always ask commitment questions to guys after you have had sex.... never before.... because will say anything before sex). Telling the you've been thinking about dating Jim (a coworker)..... you hope you will say "Jim ... that moron in shipping? That guy is no good for you" of course that is your clue to "but I thought our situation was just casual... I would be very interested in dating just you" ......
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2007-04-13 18:29:21 · answer #1 · answered by AdviceManHere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, he's taken you on a few dates, and in the average adult relationship three dates take place before sex. So actually, you're right on track to have sex. However, what worries me is that he's terming it "casual sex" and TELLING you that it's only going to be about sex. I think you should stick to your guns and tell him you don't have sex with someone until the two of you are in a clearly defined relationship. He may be testing you to see what he can get away with, but if you put your foot down and keep it down he may just give in.
2016-05-19 17:49:38 · answer #2 · answered by venus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The term 'Causal Sex' is mostly only used by men. From my experience, there is no 'causal' sex for women, it always involves feelings and assumed commitments and responsibilities. There is no way to get around this - it is just a fact.
Having sex with a guy is no guarantee that he will ever have a serious relationship with you. And more sex is not going to cause a relationship to magically happen.
The only way to develop a relationship is to get to know each others likes and dislikes, what music he likes and what movies you hate, whether he wants to settle down or is just out to have fun,.
Conversations and non-sexual activities are where you develop a relationship.
Sex is just the icing on the cake.
Sweet icing ! Yes!
But without real substance.
2007-04-13 09:51:51 · answer #3 · answered by dreamair 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sex is special why would you just want to have sex with everyone. Sex between two people that love each other is beautiful and very fullfilling.
I would be afraid of what I would get out in this world today.
How can you have respect for yourself or the other person when you hop from bed to bed.
I think it will be one thing that you would regret as you get older and mature. Not to respect yourself or the other person that you were a one night stand.
Treating sex like it is a trip to the hamburger shop for another quickie . How disgusting.
You need to be in love with person before having sex.
You need to be committed to that person.
You need to honor and cherish that persons . Not use them
2007-04-13 09:43:59 · answer #4 · answered by springer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is why casual sexual relationships most often fail. One of the people involved usually develops feelings and is hurt if they aren't reciprocated. All you can do is pay attention to the signs to see if there may be interest on their part too, but don't get your hopes up too high. They may not want to take it to the next level.
2007-04-13 09:39:34 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I refuse to do casual sex. I think more of myself than to just give it away to anyone. I also don't care to get STDs and that is the easiest way to get one (or more). There are some men and women that just can't seem to commit to a relationship - that's fine but I don't care to be involved with someone that has a revolving door on their pants no matter how nice and/or good looking they happen to be.
2007-04-13 09:43:47 · answer #6 · answered by lunasage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah- that's the problem with casual sex.
If you define your relationship by casual sex, it's pretty difficult to move it into love.
Love first. Sex next.
2007-04-13 09:37:52 · answer #7 · answered by Morey000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is why it should be communicated right from the beginning what to expect and where (if any) is the direction the relationship is going.
2007-04-13 09:37:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think casual sex is fine is both parties are consenting.
2007-04-13 09:39:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex is never casual, it is the most intimate you can get with another person...and i believe that it shouldnt be done without feelings
2007-04-13 09:37:18 · answer #10 · answered by puppyluv 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋