Right this may seem really stupid to you all and is kinda my fault
Today i went on hotmail.com to check my emails and i didn't realise that my girlfriends emails still loaded, (she must have clicked remember me or something) so out of curiosity i looked through and they were all; you've been tagged etc. i have been with her since 15th January 2007 and i noticed an email dated 29th December 2006, yes before we started dating. I clicked on it and it was a reply from some guy but it had the previous message attached with about 30 pictures of my girlfriend (with different underwear/Bikini's) on. most pictures did seem to focus in on that certain area im sure you can guess where. but there was no nudity) when i asked her about previous relationships in the past this is one she never mentioned. was i wrong to look through her emails because i did not for 1 minute think she would even take pictures of her self, let alone of these areas and mail them to an ex. i told her iv'e seen them also
2007-04-13 09:29:00 · 10 answers · asked by adam s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know curiosity can be overwhelming. It can also be very dangerous (curiosity killed the cat...) Telling her was probably a bad move. If she didn't want to let you know that she has every right to keep that a secret. Did it harm you that you didn't know about that until you snooped around? Probably not. Could it hurt you know that you know about it? Perhaps but only because of how you found it out. Perhaps that was a relationship she was not proud of. She regretted having those pics taken, etc. Next time (if there is one) even if the curiosity gets the better of you, don't mention it to her.
2007-04-13 09:35:56 · answer #1 · answered by bookworm019 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was wrong for you to look at here email. It is an invasion of her privacy and a breach of your trust for her.
But if you have already told her you have seen the pictures, I am also sure you are already paying the consequences and really don't need anyone to tell you it was wrong.
Hope you get out of the doghouse soon....
Getting her trust back will just take time...nothing you can do but respect her from now on.
2007-04-13 16:37:03 · answer #2 · answered by dreamair 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just natural curiosity on your part, but...
I dislike people who pry in other people's belongings. That so smells like a highly insecure person and implies a lack of trust.
How do you feel now? Do you still care for her? Or have your thoughts taken a darker turn? Is that fair?
Many people do stupid things online that they would never do in real life because of the anonymity.
Do young adults consider e-mail and IM communication a relationship nowadays?
2007-04-13 16:35:29 · answer #3 · answered by Blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be going through her stuff.
Was there a reason to not trust her?
Whatever happened BEFORE you started dating should not matter. Some women just don't want to talk about past relationships and that is something you have to deal with. I am with my guy for almost 5 years and we are getting married in January... he still doesn't know about all my previous guys... just like I don't know about all of his previous girls.
Some things should just stay secrets...
2007-04-13 16:33:40 · answer #4 · answered by Linzie0901 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What ever she did before you came along is not really any of your business unless she wants to make it your business. If a girl has hot pictures of herself she's not going to get rid of them. Yes, you were wrong for looking through her emails. You should trust her. Even if you weren't hiding anything I'm sure you'd feel violated if she was snooping around in yours. To her it says that you don't trust her.
2007-04-13 16:37:47 · answer #5 · answered by Q~T 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt worry about it bro.... You said the e-mail was dated from before you stared dating her yes? she hasnt gotten any new e-mails from him right? im sure they would have been there along with that one e-mail dont ya think?
Same thing happened to me with my gf of 10 months, except replace pictures of herself and instead add very sexual dialgog about her getting excited from what he told her and asking about favorite sex positions lol. Like you, it was a guy she fooled around with like 3 months before we hooked back up. I got a lil jealous and what not, but then I realized HEY it's my fault for being nosey and looking through her **** without her knowing about it.
You set yourself up for that whopper of information by being nosey like me, so yes it was wrong, but the deed has been done, can;'t do anything now that you've seen the e-mail. What it all comes down to is if shes loyal to you, and loves you and only wants to be with you, and not that other guy....
2007-04-13 16:38:45 · answer #6 · answered by master_mishimi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were 100% wrong. As soon as you saw the date of the e-mail, you should have ignored it. You shouldn't have been in her e-mail to begin with. Accidental or not. When you saw you were in her account you should have logged out of it. If I was her I would be one pissed off girlfriend right now.......
That was a complete invasion of privacy.
2007-04-13 16:35:41 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look i wouldnt bring it up, u messed up but if u bring it up she will be FUMING@ you have no right o invade her personal space intential or accidental. she will not trust you. if she told you about her past relatiponships than those prolly meant somethign to her, not this stupid guy. she didnt mention him bc it wasnt worth mentioning. trust me, she aint hidng anythign from you. so respect her privacy and space. dont bring it up and efinetly dont do it again!
2007-04-13 16:33:57 · answer #8 · answered by spadezgurl22 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a lie is a lie and the truth is the truth
2007-04-13 16:34:01 · answer #9 · answered by Damac 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what you get for snooping
2007-04-13 16:34:00 · answer #10 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋