I was blessed with the opportunity at a wonderful job - very high pay for someone at my age and experience level, and it's difficult to find others who make similar pay. Money does not matter at all to me.... I'd be just as happy if I had less, I am not the type who strives to be a millionaire or anything... I value life and relationships most.
I met this guy who has an old vehicle and still rents (he's in his early 30'). I am in my mid 20's and I own a new vehicle and a house all by myself. Sometimes I wonder what others who know me would think about this, but is there really anything wrong with it?
He treats me amazing - does a lot of sweet romantic things for me and doesn't seem to be scared off by the fact that I make nearly twice his salary. In my heart I don't think it matters, but I just want to know how others view this situation. He has a FT mon-fri 8 - 6 respectable job that a lot of people would love to have and that he did take post secondary to get....
2007-04-13 09:19:50 · 17 answers · asked by Betty 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Doesn't matter, as long as it doesn't matter to him or you. Let people think what they want. Be proud that you have a great job. If he was a deadbeat (which I guess is what you are worried that people are going to think?), he would have NO job. But, he's got one that he had to work hard to get - nothing to be ashamed of.
2007-04-13 09:24:31 · answer #1 · answered by Jas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be fine right now, but things may change in the future. Depending on how he is, he might be affected by it later in the future as things get more serious, or it may not be a concern to him. Ask yourself a few questions. Looking in the future, there must be a person staying at home if you guys were to ever have kids, and most likely it might be him. Would you mind for that? You will be the primary person who will be contributing more for the family. Would you feel okay with that? Do you care what people think or care for that matter? If you answer yes to any of this question, you may want to reevaluate your situation. Good luck! I hope he will achieve more in the future so there won't be any possible issues.
2007-04-13 16:36:02 · answer #2 · answered by Kkuy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It shouldn’t matter at all unless it does matter to you. Seems on some level it worries you since you ask it here or maybe you worry what others think. In a relationship there are two people and the chance you make exactly the same salary with benefits, vacation time, retirement, and the rest of it all is pretty darn infinitesimal. So it’s a coin toss and it turns out you do. If the person is a “keeper” who the heck cares if combined everything is a joint account.
2007-04-13 16:30:09 · answer #3 · answered by Tech-NO-savy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Goodness no there's nothing wrong with making more than your significant other. And who cares what others think? If they are judging your relationship and your personalities based on your financial status, they aren't really friends.
I used to make more than my significant other. His credit was horrible. He was irresponsible with money. He was living with two other guys to help pay the rent. Drove an older car. And he was in his early 30s.
We've been together for four years, and we've pretty much evened out everything . . .except now he makes more than me. :)
2007-04-13 16:24:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it is ok, you seem to have a very healthy outlook on the whole situation. I too can relate to this, as I am in the same situation. I know it bothers him at times as he doesn't feel that he is "man enough" or is putting into the relationship as much monetarily, but at the end of the day what is in the bank account pales in comparison to what you two share in your hearts ;)
2007-04-13 16:25:03 · answer #5 · answered by Alpha Misty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with this...at least he has his OWN home and car, and doesn't live with mommy and daddy...when I met my wife, she already owned her car and had purchsed a home the year before, and I was living in a mobile home and had no car, but I worked, every day. At an honest job...so don't worry about anything, and you two just have fun with each other...thats all life is about, having fun.
2007-04-13 16:24:53 · answer #6 · answered by Society Dweller 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IMO it doesn't matter...
Love doesn't come with a price...
REALITY: When you get older (early 30's) you start to look for someone who you can feel secure with...whether he/she makes more money than you doesn't matter. What matters is ...can he/she support me IF needed...whether it be financialy, emotionally, physically...that is what most relationships rely on...especially IF taking it to the next level like moving in toghether or marriage.
Marriage to most people: REALITY: SECURITY!
2007-04-13 16:25:16 · answer #7 · answered by lotsofluv007 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would either of you care what other think of the situation? If it doesn't bother him and doesn't bother you, why make an issue of it? But despite what you say, it sounds like it does kinda bother you.
2007-04-13 16:24:07 · answer #8 · answered by duker918 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why be concerned what others may think. if the relationship is fulfilling who makes what is for outsiders to gossip about and should be the last thing you are unsure of.
2007-04-13 16:25:46 · answer #9 · answered by jonny y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its 2007 i would hope he would be okay with you making more than him! if not that's probably not someone you would want to be with anyways because even though you value relationships i think that would show he has some big insecurities!
2007-04-13 16:23:34 · answer #10 · answered by JM 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋