I want to challenge God for a solution, especially because of my our innocent children. I have entered for a praying warfare programme with my pastor to pray for the restoration of my marriage; and the binding of her spiritual husband and evil weapons fashioned against my marriage (with 4 female children aged 3-10). Can i give God a time ultimatum, as I cannot wait for too long or indefinitely for a miracle? Serious answers please.
2007-04-13 09:16:12 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
You don't have justification just because an old book says so. Don't use religious superstition as an excuse to do what you otherwise feel is wrong to do. Any consequence of your actions is your own consequence.
Instead of doing a meaningless "prayer warfare programme" with your pastor, your time would have been better spent communicating to your wife. Again, this is a deflection of real responsibility. If your wife is having an affair, you won't help the matter by just going off on your own and doing your own thing with your pastor.
Perhaps your wife is having an affair because you're spending more time with your pastor than her. If you gave your wife more attention, perhaps she'd find more interest in you.
Stop being so damn self centered.
2007-04-13 09:18:42 · answer #1 · answered by nondescript 7 · 2⤊ 4⤋
You have Biblical grounds for divorce, but you can also choose to forgive. Now it would be about the repentance. Pray, but remember that God can only change a willing heart. Talk with your wife. If she is not wanting to end the relationship and you are not going to take it, then divorce her.
I am not a jealous person at all. But if this adulterous affair does not end, you might want to divorce her and start over. Children are survivors. You will have better change to protect your children without your wife. You might even be happily married again. : )
2007-04-13 16:23:08 · answer #2 · answered by SeeTheLight 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm no minister but I think you're going down the wrong road. You can pray to God to help heal your marriage and for your wife to turn back to you. But you or no other Christian have the right to demand God do anything. Forgive me for saying this but if your pastor agreed with that I would find another pastor. God is perfect and all knowing. You seek His will and pray for him to help you mend your marriage. But seriously giving God an ultimatum can't end well. Humble yourself brother and trust in God to guide you in HIS will.
2007-04-13 16:25:54 · answer #3 · answered by learning_lyfe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for your situation and you certainly can attempt to repair your marriage, however all the prayers in the world cannot force your wife into doing something against her will. If she is unwilling to repent and attempt to repair the marriage than I think you need to be honest with yourself about the reality of the situation. Setting a time table seems like a reasonable thing given the circumstances. I wish you the best and may God bless you and your family.
2007-04-13 16:23:52 · answer #4 · answered by Mr. E 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your trouble.
Remember the story of the adulterous woman who was to be stoned to death according to the Jewish law. Jesus said if you have never committed any sin, you can throw the first stone on her. But nobody did so. Then Jesus forgave the woman.
If you believe in the Bible, know that the Bible is a miracle. Also Jesus said we should act like Him. So better you forgive her and give her another chance, even if you are capable of divorcing because of her act.
A woman testified that her husband forgave her when she did this act and since then, she loves her husband more than ever.
2007-04-13 16:33:14 · answer #5 · answered by talleymark 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my advice is that you don't give God an ultimatum(spelling) you tell Him that you need Him to do His will for situation. It's good to ask God for help, but don't always expect the outcome that you want. Tell Him to fix your problem whichever way He sees best.
Asking Him to answer in a certain amount of time is up to you. God has the power.
Jud 6:37 Behold, I will put a FLEECE of wool in the floor; and if the dew be on the FLEECE only, and it be dry upon all the earth beside, then shall I know that thou wilt save Israel by mine hand, as thou hast said.
Jud 6:38 And it was so: for he rose up early on the morrow, and thrust the FLEECE together, and wringed the dew out of the FLEECE, a bowl full of water.
Jud 6:39 And Gideon said unto God, Let not thine anger be hot against me, and I will speak but this once: let me prove, I pray thee, but this once with the fleece; let it now be dry only upon the fleece, and upon all the ground let there be dew.
Jud 6:40 And God did so that night: for it was dry upon the fleece only, and there was dew on all the ground.
I do wish you the best, and pray that God take care of this problem for you.
2007-04-13 16:29:34 · answer #6 · answered by simplemod400 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes...but even so, God hates divorce, preferring reconciliation.
An ultimatum is a dangerous thing. I believe alot of prayer, patience, and long suffering -- just like our Lord -- is warranted. In any case, staying married does NOT mean you subject your children to the issues in their own home. Physical separation may be warranted until cooler heads prevail.
2007-04-13 16:19:28 · answer #7 · answered by BowtiePasta 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe that God answers prayer in His time, not in ours or by our timetable. Perhaps he is waiting for you to be able to forgive youf wife. Without forgiveness, there is no possibility for a meaningful marriage between the two of you because the trust has been broken.
God understands how difficult this would be for his children but it is a necessary step for reconciliation. He can not however control what your wife does or does not do. She has free will.
I would say that you should not be in a rush to set a time but to give yourself time to forgive and her the time to reconsider.
2007-04-13 16:23:35 · answer #8 · answered by Poohcat1 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
who r u to give God an ultimatum? repent brother! Go back to your pastor and pray in agreement for whatever the Holy Spirit leads u to do. You may be failing to listen to what he is directing you to do and failing to yield as well. Pray in the Spirit even more!!!
2007-04-13 16:23:23 · answer #9 · answered by moolahcometh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God's not bound by Time neither should you be Give it up to god and ask for wisdom only he can help.
You should also get help from others not just one person try some websites also and remember we are supposed to forgive. Jesus forgave you of your sins(if you asked and changed) Even if it's hard, Be ready to forgive her wither you want to or not that's what Jesus would do.
If you are truly serous you can contact me with more details and questions at my website
http://bibleanswers.wordpress.com/
2007-04-13 16:25:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋