What do you think about teenage mom's?

Question

Im talking getting pregnant at 14

And what would you think of her mother?

Answer 1

I personally would feel sorry for anyone who got themselves pregnant at 14 ! my wife and I had our first when we were just 19 and at that age it was very hard to raise a kid. I wouldnt think badly of anyone but why should i think anything of her mother?

Answer 2

Teenage moms can range from 12-19... not just 14. Either way they are young. Honestly... I think there are so many judgemental people out there think "oh they're so young and pregnant, they must have been a slut" or "they cant do it they have to put the baby up for adoption". But when a young lady gets pregnant, they miss out on a lot, but they also gain so much. They gain a life long bond, tender love, a beautiful baby (of course), growing up fast, having the joy of Gods gift. But they miss out on going to school "normally", going out with friends all the time, things like that. When I was in high school a close friend of mine had her baby her sophmor year in high school. It was tough during the pregnancy but with help from family, friends, the baby's daddy she got through it and she is probably one of the best parents out there. She loves and cares for her baby while she is still out there went to college, and having a great life. It is not bad as people tend to think. I think being a teen mother should be avoided as much as possible, but if it does happen, then that is okay. There are so many options out there for teen mothers going to school and such. Its not the end of the world or the end of opprotunity.

Answer 3

It's sad when teenagers get pregnant. They miss out on so much. As for the mother, I'd like to believe that she did her best in teaching her daughter about sex and birth control. But we all know that no matter how much education a person has on any subject, it's going to be their decision in the end on whether or not they do something. Unfortunately, teenagers just don't think getting pregnant is something that will happen to them and by the time they find out they are, it's too late.

Answer 4

I believe that you should think about the quality of life that a 14 year old mother can bring to a newborn child. How would you support your baby? I think that it would be very hard to finish school being pregnant- you need to think about your future as well. A college education is the best thing anyone can do for themselves. Would a baby prevent you from that? It doesn't for some, but you are just way too young in my opinion. I hope you strongly consider all of the responses you get before you make a life changing decision that you may regret one day. Just think about being a teenager and enjoy it while it lasts- you are still a child yourself! :) be careful please!

Answer 5

Well, everyone makes mistakes and sometimes lessons are learned the hard way. Nobody should be judged based on whether or not they screwed up once or twice. I would actually feel bad for a 14 year old mother, she is going to miss out on a lot of things in her life. But, at the same time, I would see her as a strong person. Many girls who get pregnant at a young age succeed in life, but they have to work VERY hard to get there.

Answer 6

Well, when I had my first child I was 15. My mother helped me for the first year and once I turned 16 I was taking care of her myself. Other than that my mother was not there for me like she should have been and that is how I ended up pregnant, I was looking for love that I wasn't receiving from my mother and I never knew my dad. Now I am 26 and have 4 children and I am married. I graduated from high school and I am in the process of starting my own business. All teenage mothers don't end up badly.

Answer 7

I would think that the girl would be lacking self esteem for a) sleeping with someone that young b) no using contraception and looking after herself.

At that age you should be just having a laugh with boys as your friends not as anything else. I know people who have had children that young and they miss out on so much of the daft things you can do because they have had to become mini adults over night. You cant just drop the baby and go and hang about with your friends or go shopping (all your money will go to feeding/clothing the baby - and you would be too young to claim any benefits for the child as well as being too young to get a job and support yourself). You would either need to stay at home with your parents who might find it harsh to adjust to their child (yep you are still a child at 14) having a baby of her own, either that or you will end up having to go into care with the baby, where your every move will be watched.

The father of the child could end up on the sex offenders register and labelled a paedo for sleeping with you when you are underage and this will effect him getting a job and all sorts. He probably wont stay about to look after the child because he will want to be young and free - if he does you will soon be sick of each other.

I would think that her mother hadnt really explained to her about looking after herself. Or made sure that her daughter had the self esteem to get her education out of the way first and get her life sorted before having kids. Or that she had explained that having a baby is nothing like having a doll.

Please dont think of having a baby this young, I know that you probably feel ready, but seriously dont do it. Save yourself for a really special guy and leave off having kids for about 10 years. Do you know anyone who has had a baby recently - go and spend a couple of days with them, that will soon put you off.

Another thing, when you are 14 your body isnt ready to carry a baby and go through labour. You will probably end up having a longer labour and it will be more painful.

Answer 8

I was pregnant at 18. Its a tough road, but worth every minute. No one that young should do it on purpose, but if it happens, then they must take resonsibility or put the child up for adoption. The mother of the pregnant child should be supportive and understanding, while also making it clear that this is not acceptable and in no way should it happen again.

Answer 9

A mother at 14? not a very good choice, but I guess we all learn by our mistakes. It was a good choice however, to be responsible and keep the baby. It will be a very hard road ahead. It will take a lot of responsibilaty and hard work. I was a mother by 17 and I thought that was very young. some advice I would give to a teen mother would definatly be, dont give up on getting your education. this was my biggest regrett. good luck and hang in there.

Answer 10

It's really ridiculous as the 14 year old is just a child herself....as a matter of fact in most states the person that impregnated her should and could be arrested for statuatory rape. Her child really stands no chance unless an adult intervenes. It's not really so much what anyone should think of the mother as she's just a kid....it's who got her pregnant that you should worry about.