I got my license a couple of weeks ago. My mother is still scared to let me drive alone. I mean, I got my license...what is the point of that if I can't drive. I am 16 but going to college this year so she can't hold on forever. She says she trusts me but doesn't trust the other drivers our there. How does she lose this fear and just let me group up? I asked her if I could drive to the high school (that I dont attend anymore) with my friend to see a pageant. It is 5 minutes away- this would be a good test...but she still says NO
2007-04-13 09:01:12 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
actually it is not even 5 mins away...it is more like 2
2007-04-13 09:04:00 · update #1
My dear, at 16, you feel like a grown woman. Your are under age (18) your mother is still responsible for you.
Cut her some slack, and remember she loves you.
(my daughter is 14)
2007-04-13 09:05:06 · answer #1 · answered by Icewomanblockstheshot 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL I understand what you are going thru but you have to remember that you are only 16 and even though you have your license your mom is still going to worry because there are people out there who do care what happens when they are driving nor do the care about the person in the car in front, behind, or beside them. She is doing what a mother is suppose to do and thats protect her child; however, she needs to know that you are going to be responsible because driving is a great responsiblity. All sort of things can happen when you are driving and not being responsilbe especially if you have a car load of friends and your phones rings or you are just not paying attention to the road. Give her some slack and just show her that you can be responsible at 16 and maybe she will trust you enough to let you drive by yourself a little. Just be patient with her after all she is your mom and moms are best at worrying about their children most of them anyway. If she didn't love you she wouldn't care so much so just listen to what she has to say and offer for her to ride with you sometimes so that she can see that you are being responsilbe. You will be a parent one day and you are going to do the same things that you see your mom doing. God Bless
2007-04-13 16:40:04 · answer #2 · answered by sharethalove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm guessing you are her first child to get a license? How did I know that?? Because I was the exact same way.
What I had my kids do is call me when they arrived at their destination. What they don't know is every time they left I just about died while waiting for that phone call and if I heard a siren before they called, I was nearly in tears! I was bad.
They went on short trips a couple of times a week. Five, ten minutes tops. That was it. Just because you got your license does not mean youre experienced. That experience counts for a lot!
Read the following. This is just one of many sites regarding 16 year old drivers.
Do your own search.
Because I care . . .
Once you were a baby totally reliant on me for everything and I worried about you. As a teen, you are developing opinions, values and goals that will shape your future. Now you're thinking of driving a car and once again, I am worried. Please, read the following with that understanding. I trust and love you; however, that doesn't mean you are ready to drive.
Crashes involving 16-year-old drivers killed 1,269 people in 1993 with driver error contributing to 82% of the crashes. Forty -four percent of these accidents involved only one vehicle.
Sixteen-year-olds have about three times as many crashes per miles driven as do 18-year-olds.
Sixteen-year-old drivers, although they drive fewer miles than older teens, kill more teen passengers than do 17-, 18- or 19-year-olds.
Now, do you understand my worry? My trust cannot give you the experience you need to avoid an accident. Your wanting to be an adult does not automatically give you and all of your friends the maturity necessary to drive. Each of you will mature differently, so whether you're a driver or a passenger, I am concerned. Your inexperience and youthfulness is not your fault. It takes time. We need to talk, together, about our options and decide whether it is or isn't time for you to drive -- because I care.
2007-04-13 16:13:11 · answer #3 · answered by Peg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe ask her if she can come with you the first time you drive to school? That way she can see that you are competent. Try to remember that it is because she really cares about you and dont get mad at her. She will gradually let you. Let it go for a while and then re ask her and start small. It is a tremendous responsibility to drive and even if you are the very best driver in the world something could happen so try to be patient.
2007-04-13 16:06:39 · answer #4 · answered by barthebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother is right when she says that she fears the other drivers. I know that its hard to understand why she fells this way and why she won't let you go it on your own. Be glad that your mother is protective of you, there are 16 year olds out there that have hardly now experience, barely pasted the drivers test and got their license and drive like they don't know any better. hang in there it will get better in due time.
2007-04-13 16:10:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her ride with you several times. Show her how well she taught you to drive. Remind her she's the one who taught you and you know to watch the other cars on the road.
2007-04-13 16:06:32 · answer #6 · answered by Cricket 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her time. I know kids don't understand, but as a mom I was terrified to let my daughter drive even though she's a great kid.
2007-04-13 16:05:45 · answer #7 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well jut talk to your mither tell her your machor(in a nice way)and a nice way
2007-04-13 16:06:50 · answer #8 · answered by JACINDA G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aren't you happy that you have a mother?
2007-04-13 16:08:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋