So I'm very protective of myself and who I date. I guess for the last couple of days I've been asking my boyfriend questions that might of gave him the idea that I didn't want to be in a relationship with him. So yesterday I get a text from him saying that he thinks that I don't want to be in a relationship with him and I didn't have enough courage to tell him so we might as well break it off. So I call him up and explain that I did want to be in a relationship with him and I'm just protective. So I asked him if he wanted to break up and he said no very quickly. I guess I believe him. But he's been acting differently since this happend. I know he was sick yesterday and today...but I don't know what to do. I really like this guy. Any suggestions??
2007-04-13 08:40:02 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This actually isn't a boyfriend problem, this is more of a you problem. Instead of asking this odd questions that caught him off guard you should've just took the time to communicate better. What do you mean you guess you believe him? Either you do or you don't, what's there to guess? Now that he's got something in his mind that you may want to leave him he's acting very cautious and you can't blame him. You blind sided him with the 50 questions. You need to now reassure your boyfriend that there was nothing really behind the 50 questions and you saying, "I'm just protective" isn't going to be a good enough excuse. His mind is thinking protective of what? What does she think she needs to protect from me, is a thought he could be having. You need to find the time to go talk to him face to face. Let him see your facial expressions when you're talking so he can see that you're sincere. You need to make the time to do it ASAP before you end up without him. Stop being so "protective."
2007-04-13 08:48:21 · answer #1 · answered by Pisces Princess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is now wary of you as he should be. You can't be protective in a relationship, it doesn't work. You either love with your entire heart or not at all. He deserves better than you, he needs someone who can love him the correct way. Let him go, it's the right thing to do. If you don't, he is just going to doubt you level of committement each and every day.
2007-04-13 15:53:18 · answer #2 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like both of you are worried about negative outcomes. Invite him to a funny movie and just enjoy eachothers company. When both of you relax - play a game of both of you writing down 3 things your afraid of and share it with the other. Then write 3 things you have done well at this year. Relationships are about sharing and most importantly communicating effectively what you truly feel.
2007-04-13 15:52:53 · answer #3 · answered by Gella07 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋